"Ruling Your Domain"..... the land you call home!

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Ruling your domain by Jess Graves


“Ruling Your Domain”

Your domain is that territory over which you exercise dominion (sovereignty or power).

Its that land you call home!

The place you have dominion! Or supreme authority!!!

A true décor diva very simply rules her home well!!! The ultimate décor diva is a skilled commander who rightly orders her home a regular basis.

We must have the right mindset as décor divas. Right now it might look like we are simply paupers at best, but I challenge you to see yourselves differently!!!

The first step into diva Dom is to clear your field of design and rightly order your home!!!

We start by filtering and organization

Filter means to come or go in small units over a period of time filtering in >

Filtering is an ongoing process. You are simply removing impurities from your field of design on a regular basis. You will need to arrange or rearrange until you like the way different areas look and function.

To properly filter you will need a staging area. The origin of this term "Staging Area" came from the military. It was used to describe a location from which participants in a new military operation or mission were assembled and readied…. Your "Staging Area"will be a transition point not a destination... things should come and then go from there on a regular basis!!!

If your dining room table is your staging area then the landscape should change on a regular basis.

You can also use laundry baskets, bags, or boxes in a small corner of your home for a staging area (departure point).

Next we bring order… organize or arrange…putting things into balance and relationship. We do this on two levels with respect to one another. This is called form and function.

This can be a frustrating experience but remember you have power (ability to act or produce an effect).

When fail to act properly we feel in bondage to that which we posses. It seems to control our emotional well-being. At times rendering us ineffective at maintaining control and exercising dominion.

Patience is necessary ingredient as well as perseverance

There will be days of chaos were our attention is redirected and habits of the past seem to reappear.

There is a saying…Old habits die-hard!!!

Your ability to rule and bring to order will be challenged!!!

Unfinished tasks must be completed

Careless living must be replaced with careful living

Remember each day brings new opportunity

Ignore what you cannot change…. decorate around it…

Prepare for your future…. You’re a diva in training…in time you will rule your domain

Rule clutter!!…Make three piles:

1.) Keepers- you know no matter what you’ll keep it!!!

2.) Give away/ sell –these items must of valve and useful to others!!!

3.) Throw away- your most liberating pile!!!


"Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord, find harmony. In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunity."

- Albert Einstein



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Ann Allen Hoover
RE/MAX Advantage South - Hoover, AL
CDPE SRES ASP e-PRO Realtor - Homes for Sale - AL

Jess, have you been peeking in the windows of my home?  I desperately need to clean out the clutter.

May 18, 2009 07:46 AM #1
Jess Graves
JessGravesDesigns.Com - Bristol, PA
Bucks County Decordiva of Home Staging

Its truly a battle, ...the average person these days is simply to busy! Our homes seem to pay the price for our hurried lives. Its time put on the fatigues and go to war against clutter. Open those drapes and claim your territory!

Thanks,  Jess

May 18, 2009 08:19 AM #2
Mary Douglas
United Country Ponderosa Realty, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado - Red Feather Lakes, CO
REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado

Hi Jess! I was just talking to one of the women in my office -- about throwing stuff away!!  I am feeling overwhelmed with stuff in my house -- and now things I want to do outside!  I definitely need to simplify! Great post, thanks for the how tos!

May 18, 2009 11:32 AM #3
Debi Boucher
Real Estate Showcase Photography - Woodland Park, CO
"Realtor Showcase" - Real Estate Photography/Virtual Tours

Ignore what you cannot change…. decorate around it…

Great line, Jess! I have done this so many times in homes I've had that had "features" I didn't care for!


May 18, 2009 03:54 PM #4
Jess Graves
JessGravesDesigns.Com - Bristol, PA
Bucks County Decordiva of Home Staging

Mary,....sometimes it is a matter of starting small battles of winning back one room at a time! Then you can retreat to the backyard for some R&R.


Debi,.... when decorating around "features" you can not change... its a matter of focus. Decorate in such a way  that you distract your eyes from these features and get them to refocus on something of interest and value!


Thanks,  Jess

May 18, 2009 11:07 PM #5
Bill Gassett
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Hopkinton, MA
Metrowest Massachusetts Real Estate

I like a clean house myself. Always puts me in a better mood when I can walk arounf a tidy home.

May 19, 2009 12:10 AM #6
Jess Graves
JessGravesDesigns.Com - Bristol, PA
Bucks County Decordiva of Home Staging

Bill, .....I agree. When its clean and organized I feel like I'm in conrol of my life and I enjoy my home!


Thanks, Jess

May 19, 2009 10:58 PM #7
Hannah Williams
Re/Max Eastern inc. - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

JESS..Excellent post...Thank you

HelpfulHannah your friend in Philadelphiatweet

May 21, 2009 03:15 AM #8
Sheila Kennedy
J29 Project - Rochester, NY

Jess - I think you wrote this just for me.  I am celebrating that my daughter is finally out of school and I will be forced to stay home more and can focus on getting all of the unfinished projects finished.  I needed this kick in the backside to help me remain focused.  Great post!!!

May 23, 2009 02:26 PM #9
Jess Graves
JessGravesDesigns.Com - Bristol, PA
Bucks County Decordiva of Home Staging

Thanks Sheila,....I swear, I must have an evil twin who likes to go around cluttering my home! Its an on going battle for me but I know I can win!


Thanks, Jess

May 23, 2009 11:52 PM #10
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