Lost My Dad

Real Estate Agent with Platinum Realty Group

It is a beautiful but sad day for me, here in Knoxville, Tn. At 7:30 last night on the 19th I got the call that my dad, Richard Grubb, had passed away. I know that this has nothing to do with Real Estate, however, it will or has come into everyones life. This fact of Death.

My mom, Hazel,  is almost 80 and Dad had turned 80 in March of this year! He had suffered from strokes and heart trouble for over 10 years but had only been in the Veterans Home for a little over two years. It is peaceful because being almost blind and not able to do anything for himself except eat, it has been hard to watch! The strokes had taken a toll on him and he has not been himself for a long time!

My brother and sister, and I are helping make arrangements since they were not pre-arranged, (wish they had been). This is a hard thing to do!

I am writing about this because, nobody talkes about death and it is really a part of life. My husband of Thirty years was killed in a car wreak, my nephew, at 28 was also, so our family is not imune from tradgedy.

I'm Glad I can say;" O Death where is your sting, O Grave where is your Victory"  I hope you can too!

Comments (34)

Patricia McGuire
John L. Scott Real Estate - Port Orchard, WA


I am so sorry for your loss....May you continue to know that you and your family are in the thoughts and prayers of many of the ActiveRain community; may you be reminded of the good times and wonderful memories of a life well lived.

Love Peace & Prayers

Pat McGuire

BS-Accounting; Associate Broker; ABR; E-Pro; CDPE

May 20, 2009 04:36 PM
Antonio M. Cardenas Broker Associate
RE eBroker Group - San Leandro, CA. - San Leandro, CA
"The Realtors In Motion"

Dear Connie, we all have been there and will be again, like you sad and with fond memories left to live with, my heart goes out to you and I will have you in my prayers specially today. Time will heal your wounds and you will be fine soon. Love and Peace to you and yours.


May 20, 2009 04:47 PM
John Cannata
214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com - Frisco, TX
Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance

Connie, it is always hard to lose a loved one.  So sorry for your loss.  I've been lucky that my parents are still very young (not that old age is the only way to go, but we can hope).  It would have been ideal if the arrangements were already made, but as with everything in life, you play with the cards you are dealt to the best of your ability.

May 20, 2009 04:55 PM
William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Dear Lord, wrap your arms of love and comfort around our sister Connie and her family as they grieve the loss of their father and husband. Give them solace in knowing that You know what's best, and that he has passed from labor into rest, In Jesus' name, Amen.

May 20, 2009 10:55 PM
Skip Stamper

Dear Connie,

May the peace that surpasses all understanding grace you and your family with its presence during this time of mourning. May his grace and mercy bless you while you grieve. I pray that the Holy Spirit will strengthen you and your family during this challenging time.

For those who believe, our hope lies in the faith of the healing power of Jesus Christ and the knowledge that your Father is now with Him who created him. His body has been restored to perfection, pain and suffering are no longer part of his life. Though we are sad to loose the ones we love, we can have joy knowing that we will be reunited one day in His Heavenly Kingdom.

Cast all of your troubles to Him and He will carry you through.

May 20, 2009 11:01 PM
Kellie Fitzgerald
Kellie Fitzgerald - Chiricahua Real Estate - Pearce, AZ

Hi Connie,  I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.  Please take comfort in the times you had and the moments you shared and know in your heart that your father will truly always be with you in your heart and soul.

These times are far from easy and while we are all in our own ways, grieving with you, there's really nothing any of us can say to take away the pain you're feeling right now.   Just know that we do, indeed, feel for you and wish you all the best.

May 21, 2009 02:22 AM
ginny herman

I am sorry for your loss, the loss of loved ones, changes us forever as it sounds like you already know with the loss of your husband and nephew. you will be in my prayers

May 21, 2009 02:23 AM
Austin Smith
Goomzee - Missoula, MT

Connie - My condolances for your loss.  Rest assured, while your father's physical body may have deteriorated, the time will come when you see him again and when you do, he'll be as he was when he was the happiest and healthiest.  Thank you for your post.

May 21, 2009 02:41 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I am glad you know that he has removed the sting of death.  But it still hurts.  There was a series of loss in our family some years back all close together that my grandmother referred to as "The years of Death."  As I write this I have prayed that the one who has removed the sting of death will overwhelm you with his peace and presence today. 

May 21, 2009 03:53 AM
Pam Simpson
Bob Leigh & Assoc., LLC - Senatobia, MS
GRI, Broker-Assoc.

Dear Connie - My heart goes out to you and your family.  I, too am glad I can say, "O death where is your sting, O grave where is your victory".  I pray for your family as you go through this difficult time.

May 21, 2009 04:03 AM
Sheryl Robinson

This is a loss for you -- however it will make you stronger and because of this one day - you will be able to help someone else when they loose someone close to them.  Your father is in a better place and I know he is alot happier there.


-Sheryl Robinson.

May 21, 2009 04:34 AM
Kate Wheeler
Country Homes and Land Murphy NC Realtor - Murphy, NC
CCIM - Murphy NC Real Estate for Sale

Dear Connie - I'd like to express my sympathy for your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

May 21, 2009 04:49 AM
Denise Delozier, Realtor, CNE
Reliant Realty ERA Powered - Nashville, TN
Nashville, Brentwood, Franklin & Middle Tennessee

Connie, May God bless you and be with you through this very difficult time for your family. Please know that our prayers and sympathies are with you.

May 21, 2009 05:42 AM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Connie - sorry to hear of your loss.  It is difficult, no matter the age. I still think of my lost ones -- and while it is less sharp in the later years, it still is a sadness to bear.  I will be thinking of you.

May 21, 2009 10:11 AM
Barbara Tretola
RAC Real Estate Associates, Inc. - Massapequa Park, NY

Sorry to hear of your loss, and it is never easy.I lost my Dad 20 years ago and I still miss him very much, we were very close.

May 21, 2009 05:49 PM
Gail MacMillan
Titusville, FL

Hi Connie....It's never easy even if it is a relief.  Only time stops the hurting and longing, but even then can creep up when least expected ~ I know!  Peace be with you, it's Memorial weekend and I hope your memories are sweet......

May 22, 2009 12:14 AM
Mark Brian
Silver Star Real Estate LLC - Anderson, SC
Anderson SC Realtor

Connie I am very saddened by the loss of your father. I am always at a loss for words in situations such as this but please know I am truly sorry.

May 22, 2009 01:02 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Dear Connie,

Wishing you peace and warm memories.

May 23, 2009 04:20 PM
Leigh McPherson
RE/MAX of Orange Beach - Orange Beach, AL

Connie - may God bless you and your family and give you the strength to cherish the memories.

May 25, 2009 06:39 AM
Buffy Creekmore
Keller Williams Prime Team - Lexington, TN
E-Pro Broker in Lexington Tennessee

Connie, My call came at 3:12 a.m., and after being the primary care taker of my mother for 10 years and knowing she was failing more each day it was a horrible time. We had talked about arrangments and she was ADAMENT that no one was to stand around her and cry, she wanted to be creamated and had specific requests for the remains-which we honored. It's only my sister and I, and we were together for several days crying, laughing, and remembering a most magnificent woman. I don't know if she knew it would be but her request was perfect for our family. I commend you and your son for your conversation and handeling of a tough topic. This is far to important of topic to be treated so standoffish as it is. Sorry this got so long~have a great day.

Jun 14, 2009 03:54 AM