Give and Take...Do you know how to do both? Baltimore,Maryland

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Give and Take...Do you know how to do both? Baltimore,Maryland

The Class I learned a lot at Monday's Three Divas for Free event. The plan was for Fran Thorsen, Joeann Fossland, and me to do an interactive panel together. Our plans changed when Joeann got a call that Fran would not be able to attend. Thrown off guard but not for long, Joeann was talking with Bernice Ross and told her about the dilemma. Giving person that she is, Bernice asked if Joeann would like her to stay over and go to Baltimore to fill in? She had a new presentation, and Baltimore could be the place to preview it. (Anyone who knows anything about real estate knows that this was like hitting the lottery - having Bernice Ross and Joeann on the same platform.)

Joeann FosslandAnd what did I learn? That Joeann was gracious and said, "Yes, I would love for Baltimore to hear your new presentation." 

Joeann was able to accept an invitation to help. A few phone calls, a few changes to the flyers, a few more Active Rain blogs, an email went out from Martha Lessner to all the WCR members, and Anita Davis who was also at the NAR convention started putting out the word. 

Million Dollar BillsWe had a fabulous turn out - Marvin came from Bucks County, Pa, Amad drove in from Ocean City, MD, Andy Norton came in from Northern Virginia, Pat Kennedy drove in from DC. There were many agents and affiliates from Baltimore. With their presentations on ePro and social networking, Joeann and Bernice held the audience from 1:00 until after 4:00 in the afternoon with information, humor, and lots of interaction. The million-dollar-bills that Bernice handed out didn't hurt, either! 

Bernice RossTweetdeck explained by BerniceBernice spoke about the idea that "when you give to others, it comes back to you" (what I've often talked about as "you get by giving.") She said the key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving. It is not always easy to receive – we get so used to giving that we forget how to accept, whether it's help or a compliment or a gift.

This was just one small point of Bernice's seminar, but was really an important "ah ha" moment for me. When someone says, "What can I do to help?" think about it before you answer. My friend and publisher Peg Silloway emailed the night before the event and asked, "What do you need me to do?" My response could have been "Pick up the food," or "Bring the ice," but what I really needed was her presence and support. And she was there. No, Peg is not in real estate, but she sat through the entire afternoon, took photos on her new camera, and then went with us to the crab feast afterward. I knew she had an early morning meeting the following day; she could have bowed out easily, but she stayed and she stayed for me. Margaret and Joeann

Bernice, Margaret, JoeannIt was the same when I asked Joeann what I could do. This magnificent gracious lady said, "You already have done it." Though she did a lot of work to help organize and publicize the event, Joeann allowed me to do some giving. And that's the lesson: Yes, it is important to give, but if we never accept, we deprive someone else of the opportunity to give.

How are you at receiving?

Give and Take...Do you know how to do both? Baltimore,Maryland

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Connie Harvey
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Margaret, what an excellent point. Sometimes we forget that it's an important part of life, being a gracious Receiver!

I know that in times of illness, or worse, people really do want to help. By saying "nothing" when they ask what they can do, you deprive them of their need and desire to help carry your load.

Thank you for telling about this great event. I'm sure everyone got a lot out of it!

May 21, 2009 07:55 AM #1
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Hi Margaret I know it is more blessed to give than receive but we really do a disservice to the people that care about us when we don't accept their offer of help. It really is good for both parties. Great post. <SMILE>

May 21, 2009 08:03 AM #2
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I am glad this turned out well!!!!  Sounds like it was a success.

May 21, 2009 08:35 AM #3
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 hi Mmmmmmmmargaret, re "Peg Silloway... what I really needed was her presence and support. And she was there... I knew she had an early morning meeting the following day; she could have bowed out easily, but she stayed and she stayed for me"...

 And that's what friends are for. ;-) Great event pics, looks like it was both fun & informative, the first of many more to come I'm sure!

May 21, 2009 08:41 AM #4
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I'm am soooo looking forward to hanging out with you at the Javits Center when you do the book expo. Awesome post. ;-)

May 21, 2009 08:46 AM #5
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MArgaret - it sounds like a wonderful event. I know Bernice and have heard her talk several times - it is always tremendous learning experience. And with you and Joeann, well what could be better. I think your point, well Bernice's, about "when you give to others, it comes back to you" and your AH HA moment are pretty powerful, and thoughts to keep in mind.

Jeff

May 21, 2009 11:27 AM #6
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Sally Dunbar
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Come to Sacramento and do your presentation here.... then I'll come.  Glad it turned out so well.

(And I still haven't received a comment response from #8)

May 21, 2009 01:01 PM #7
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Women are so giving, they often forget how to receive.  It is imortant to let others bestow this gift!

May 21, 2009 01:52 PM #8
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Margaret Woda
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'Sounds like another wonderful presentation, and makes me feel even worse about missing it.  Glad everything turned out so well!

May 21, 2009 04:44 PM #9
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Connie, You are a giver and know what I mean.

Sharon, Thanks for stopping by.

Heather, It was a success and fun.

CTann, Me too.

Jeff, Since you know Bernice, you know what a wonderful day we had.

Sally, Just left you a voice mail

Joan, You are so right.

Margaret, Wish you could have joined us.

 

May 23, 2009 04:12 AM #10
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Joeann Fossland
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Margaret! You made this happen and I had so much fun being part of it! We all learned, didn't we?

Hugs and Smiles,

May 23, 2009 05:53 AM #11
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Joeann, We all made it happen. It was so much fun spending the day with you learning and then enjoying the steamed crabs.

May 23, 2009 08:32 AM #12
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Baltimore Divas and Books, Books, Books!  Here is a post written by Joeann

May 24, 2009 11:25 AM #13
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This post, and the wonderful comments give me food for thought. A very wise friend told me recently - "you're always there to help. You'll be doing us a huge favor by allowing us to help you."

May 24, 2009 07:30 PM #14
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Jackie, That is such a compliment and thanks for stopping by.

May 25, 2009 08:27 AM #15
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Margaret,

As always, I am so glad that I attended this very informative event. Technology and Margaret Rome go together like peanut butter and jelly. Thank you for adding the flavor to all that you do, E-Sister!

May 29, 2009 10:01 PM #16
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Thank you Kim for always being so supportive. And congratulations on your success in Real Estate.

May 30, 2009 06:41 AM #17
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Margaret - thank you for a wonderful lesson about receiving - I never thought about it like that, and actually have been a little selfish at times, being the giver.  Well, I am sure you know what I mean.

Jun 11, 2009 02:15 PM #18
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Virginia, Know what you mean. Thanks for stopping by.

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