I felt a bit like EF Hutton this morning.
When I found ARDELL DellaLoggia's post titled Jeff Turner Speaks - Project Blogger, I was caught a bit off guard, but after reading my comment again, not surprised. As I read my comment again, I could easily understand how they could feel the way they felt. It's so easy for our written words to be heard by the reader in a way that's different from how we're hearing them in our head. How a reader reads a sentence has as much, if not more to do with their state of mind as it does with the writers state of mind.
This is why it's so important to take care with our writing. In the case of my comment to Kevin, I was actually trying to accomplish exactly the opposite of what I ultimately accomplished. I wanted to put my reaction to Kevin's post behind us and move forward. I wasn't trying to offend, but congratulate. I was trying to pay a compliment. That didn't come across. I'm quite certain that if I could have delivered these exact same words in person, it would have been received in the spirit it was intended.
But, that's not their fault. It's my fault. (I say in the video below that it's "partly" my fault, but that's not accurate.) I'ts 100% my responsibility, as a communicator, to take care with my words and clearly communicate my state of mind. I should NEVER leave that up for interpretation. It is my responsibility to make certain the reader understands my intent. It's important for us all to be reminded of this!
In the end, something very positive has come from this. Ardell and Kevin's offer to donate to A Child's Right via Mothers Fighting For Others if they win is more than generous. So I wanted to take a different approach with this post. Sometimes only a video message will do. Jackie uses video very well on her blog. I'm not sure how others feel about video on blogs and I certainly feel video can be over used easily, but I think there are good reasons and times to use videos. One good time to use a video is when you want the real you to come through loud and clear.
In this case, that's exactly what I want. (Note: I probably should have shaved my head, gone to bed earlier and thrown on something other than a t-shirt... but hey, this is the real me.)

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