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Do you put 110% into your clients, yet you don't feel appreciated at times? Do you get beat up in this business?  Do you feel like you spin your wheels, especially in today's market place? Overall, does your pain show, even when you think you have your happy face on? 

Well, in the last 2 weeks, this has all happened to me one way or another.  This post is not to brag about my ethics, how I treat clients, and that I feel that I am better than most when it comes to mortgages. But more so a form of therapy for me, which I wanted to share. 

 

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How many wear your heart on your sleeve?  How many of you have a heart larger than life?  How many of you have passion for what you do?

It was rewarding the other day, while speaking to a potential borrower, that she could tell that I have passion for what I do.  But why the gloomy face in recent weeks?  Feeling like I am lifeless, that I have lost that passion just recently.  And because of this, I haven't blogged in the last 10 days or commented in the last 5 days.  And because of two specific transactions, I haven't spelt well nor have I eaten as much. Yes people, I take this more than as a job, but as a part of my life. I love helping others, and even though some things happen out of my control, I feel like I have failed. Here are my reasons to why I have felt like this in recent weeks.

 

  • I have a borrower that was suppose to have closed on May 27th, 2009.  We ran into an appraisal issue that had an AVM fail, not pass. This property is in a declining market. I called everyone, even the listing agent, on the 20th of May to tell them to schedule it for that Friday, the 29th. I have been doing this for over 16 years, and I believe in communication, even if it's bad news. Of course people were going to be mad, and that there were 3 other transactions involved. They finally agreed to this on the 22nd, but we still were having problems with the AVM. Let's define what an AVM is first. 

AVM stands for Automated Valuation Model. It calculates value of a property, just like an appraisal does. It uses the MLS to find other properties that are related to the suject property.  Many investors and warehouse lines are requiring AVm's now, especially in declining market areas. The problem with AVM's are that they aren't always as accurate and several of the properties are not tagged properly.

In any case, we even missed the 29th and I told them that I don't stop until a solution is figured out. As it stood, they would have to put down an additional 5%, which would have been $30,000 that they didn't have. I reached out to a few of my lender contacts and had someone that could help them. But they decided to use the listing agents recommendation.  But as I mentioned, I still don't stop. As of Friday, we finally got the AVM overturned, after several reviews. The buyers decided to come back to me, because rates have climbed drastically. And even though I was 1/2 percent better, I didn't use this against my borrowers to charge them for what it cost me to extend their current rate of 4.75%.  And this cost me a pretty penny, even though I am still making something on them. But I didn't use all of this to my advantage, so I would lose this money. My integrity and referrals means more. The overall picture?  A happy client at the end.

 

  • My other closing?  Another AVM issue that was on a property in Florida. The good news is that it's a Fannie Mae owned property. The property was originally being sold for $186,500, and was reduced to $170,000 by the AVM.  Fannie Mae came back and accepted this price, which is even better for the buyer. But again, I had to extend the rate lock and I didn't charge the borrower for this.

 

 

 

Summary : Overall, more lessons were learned and it won't compromise my work ethics and how I treat people, even though I was yelled at and talked badly about. The first client, I was yelled at by the realtor for not returning a phone call the night before at 8 pm. Yes, these people involved where use to me calling and accepting calls at 10 pm. I do go beyond the call of duty. Yet, I can't be there 24/7... I do have a life and things do happen. If I don't pick up, it's for a reason. The example of the 2nd client? The realtor that was referred to me, who was in Arizona, because his wife had a co-worker that needed help in Florida?  He e-mailed me, telling me that he was disappointed, because we had a closing issue. But the funny thing is that he jumped the gun, thinking that it was my fault. People, in both cases, these were issues not in my control.  It wasn't a credit issue... it wasn't a credit issue. It wasn't a problem created by Jeff Belonger or Infinity Home Mortgage.  I take too much pride in what I do to have those problems occur. But the bottom line, both deals are still closing.

 

Question to all of you in real estate and mortgages....  How do you set yourself apart from others? How do you handle adversity? I feel like I should be making $1,000,000 a year, because of my worth to my clients. But we all know that is not how it works in this business. I know a few loan officers that have tripled my income this year, and they truly suck at their job. But I can sleep at night.  But as I mentioned, I didn't sleep for many nights, because I do care. Maybe too much...  and it showed, because I had co-workers and friends bring this to my attention.  Yes, I have a job to do, but I also have pride. And I don't accept failure, no matter who is at fault. Overall, I truly try to set clients expectations to a certain level, which I think is underrated when it comes to mortgages and how others make promises or guarantees, just to appease the people involved. Or, when a problem occurs, that it's not mentioned until the last minute. These are things that you won't get from me. That is my only guarantee......

 

 

 

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The Somers Team
The Somers Team at KW Philadelphia - Philadelphia, PA
Delivering Real Estate Happiness

Jeff - Great post !  I feel you in terms of being drained by the process... sometimes it can be from the people, the clients or the industry.  It is hard work.  Very hard work !  And yes, sometimes going the extra mile (and more) is exhausting.  I believe that they work you did here will come back to you many times over in the future.  Most agents and business people even miss the point and the mark of learning and knowing that often times giving (or making less money on a deal) will come back to you.  When people are too short-sighted, goals do not get accomplished.  Great post.  I am sure your energy come back when you do not expect it to : )  ~ Chris

Jun 07, 2009 01:31 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

OK, Jeff!  You need to fall in love. 

Madly, passionately in love - the kind that makes the earth move, and that really makes your heart move. 

And then it all falls into place.

Big hug.

Jun 07, 2009 01:31 PM
Sheldon Neal
Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited - Maywood, NJ
That British Agent Bergen County NJ

Jeff - I'm sorry to hear this has weighed so heavy on you for the last week - but I have to believe that these instances will come back around and pay you back plentifully !

Integrity is the one thing that keeps some of us going, and usually will put us ahead of many of our competitors in the long run.

... even the ones who in the short term are slimy and making more - their day will come where they are exposed for who they really are.

Hang in there brutha, you are clearly the best thing that could happen to your clients, and those lucky enough to work with you will see the compromising dedication you give, and they will be happy to refer you from there.

... I'll be hoping for some smoother roads for you from here mate !

Cheers

Sheldon

Jun 07, 2009 01:36 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Jeff - I think what you are feeling happens to those of us you ARE passionate about our business. Things often do not go the way we want or expect these days - there seem to be more disappointments than not. All we can do is the best we can and keep smiling, even when we don't feel like it (or at least in public and when dealing with clients). It's hard to keep in persctive that SOME things are beyond our control, no matter what we do, and we cannot take responsibility n those cases. But it's hard to not take it personally. I'm sure your clients appreciate all that you do even when things do not go the way they want.

Jeff

Jun 07, 2009 01:40 PM
Virginia Hepp - Mesquite NV REALTOR
Desert Gold Realty - Mesquite NV Homes For Sale - Mesquite, NV
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Jeff - get some sleep, knowing that you not only did your best, but you did a better job than anyone else would have or probably could have.  Wether they appreciated you or not.  And it wasn't for $$ - it was because that is how you work.

Jun 07, 2009 02:15 PM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Jeff, very hard when you are passionate about your work not to take it to heart. I don't know how. I don't like delivering bad news, yet I do it as fast as possible. And then I go over and over it in my head, trying to make sure I did everything possible. I usually don't feel so good about it either. 

I wear my heart on my sleeve too, nothing wrong with that!

Jun 07, 2009 02:15 PM
Tim Maitski
Atlanta Communities Real Estate Brokerage - Atlanta, GA
Truth, Excellence and a Good Deal

Sometimes you just have to accept it that some people will never know how lucky they were to have you on their side.  I've been there.  It hurts but that's life.  At least you got a couple of commissions.  Sometimes you do all of that and end up with nothing. 

Jun 07, 2009 02:24 PM
Janet Guilbault
Platinum Home Mortgage Company - Walnut Creek, CA
San Francisco Bay Area Direct Mortgage Lender

Jeff: Right now everyone is feeling very touchy because our industry is in such a huge upheaval..

Rates went way up (as you pointed out)

Late closings from issues beyond our control, but Realtors only have us to blame (see Bill's comment)

Ridiculously long turn times

I have literally spent thousands of dollars extending locks myself and not passed this cost on to the client...

Please hang in there. I feel for you and have been there.

Next week will be better.

PollyAnna has spoken.

 

Jun 07, 2009 03:42 PM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
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WILLIAM aka Bill......  I think I get your point... lol  Seriously, I have accepted this a long time ago. As I mentioned, I wrote this for therapy and also to maybe make some aware of who we are and how we take things. thanks for the feedback.

RUSS.... .  don't get me wrong, I still made something, but I did lose some of my profit. My goal is for a lasting relationship and possible referrals. All I was trying to say is that I could have backed both clients into a corner, just to keep my original profit. But I didn't....   thanks

DARRIN.... . Vince Lombardi always did have some great quotes.  And yes, I am sure we will hear more about this from others... thanks

CHRIS & STEPHANIE.... .  yes, we do hope it comes back to us and that we make more in the future. I know this has backfired on me in the past... but hey, I just won't change myself and my ways, just to be like everyone else or to make more. It's just not what I believe in and how I would want to be treated. Overall, thanks for the kind words and compliments.

PAT.... .  bring it on baby,... show me the way. ;o)  And yes, it would all fall into place, because I believe the same.  And thanks for the virtual hug.

 

Jun 07, 2009 05:27 PM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

 

SHELDON..... I have always believed that it should come around, even though it doesn't always. And yes, it was weighing heavily on me in the last 2 weeks.  Probably the worst ever for me since I started in 1992.  And yes, it is the integrity that keeps me going. Thanks for the kind words and for the comfort per se.

JEFF D. ..... .  I would agree with this and I think many of us who are passionate would say the same.  And yup, I try to keep smiling at most times.  Thanks for the feedback.

VIRGINIA..... I am still awake... lol  Because I do still think about this kind of stuff, until it's officially over.  And yes, now you know me... lol  That is how I work.  ;o)  Seriously, thanks for the kind comment.

ANDREA...... I never like delivering bad news. I don't think any of us do. What I find so ironic though is if I deliver bad news as soon as, right when it happens, that I get beat up more and longer. I can see why so many loan officers wait until the day before settlement.  No, that method is not right, but you hear more stories of closings being canceled the day before or the day of. I just wish more people would respect those that give bad news 2 weeks prior to a closing and or when it's found out.  Thanks for the support.

TIM... . I do accept it and I still work the same way, knowing that it could happen at any time. There have been times that I didn't make a cent, just because of something else, but I didn't hold the borrowers closing as ransom.  thanks

JANET......  I think touchy is sometimes not the right word... lol  Almost like a riot like attitude... lol   And hanging in there?  I have been hanging in there for years, so why quit now, right?  ;o)  Thanks for the support.

 

Jun 07, 2009 05:43 PM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate

I know how you feel. That doesn't help but I get it.

Kudo's for you for hanging in there. Some things we can control and some we can't. Regardless we get blamed when we can't.

It is about them not us. That is all they care about.

So I have one home come under contract this week, I am the second Realtor in, and had it reduced 10K before listing it. They think I'm great.

Second home, priced right, very few showings. I can tell they are frustrated and probably at me. Even though I have gone out of the box with some advertising I don't normally do.

 

Jun 08, 2009 12:50 AM
Gerry Suarez Jr.
New American Funding NMLS 6606 - Orlando, FL
FL Mortgage Guru

tough times eh Jeff?

we don't get appreciated or compensated nearly enough for the miracles we have to do these days. Not only do we have to be all knowing but we have to be able to accurately predict what changes are coming and shield our customers from them. It's impossible Jeff- just keep doing the best job you can and stick to your principles. You work for the customer and I know you strive to do right by them in all cases. That light guides you well- keep it up.

You know what I just ran into? Bank owned sales down here just recently decided to not allow occupancy until their title companies receive original docs. Since most of these closings occur as mail aways, and since most closings get scheduled for Fridays, I have a number of customers being denied access for the weekend they planned to move.

BTW- last month and before this wasn't an issue- this month I had 4 deals affected by it and all of them were different bank sellers/title companies. Amazing how fast things evolve in this market.

The first one caught me by total surprise. The next 3 I was better prepared for. Now I know to schedule bank owned closings with a delivery date instead of a closing date in mind.

and remember, anything that goes wrong is our fault!

but that look on the young couple's faces as they know they've realized their dream, and the heartfelt thanks at the closing table makes it all bearable...

That's what we work for buddy, isn't it?

Gerry Suarez, Jr.

Your FHA Loan Pro!

 

Jun 08, 2009 01:53 AM
Rebecca Levinson, Real Estate Marketing and Online Advertising Consultant
Real Skillz-Clear Marketing for Your Real Estate Vision - Lake Geneva, WI

Jeff,

Of one thing I am sure is that putting integrity first is a win/win.  Wish it had happened more often, we might not be in this "exact place".  All we can do is move forward knowing this and take home each day a sense that service was provided without sacrificing honor, ethics, integrity.

You have done well, but I hear you, these things can weigh on the mind and the soul.  Especially when there are those who so easily bend, twist, lie, stilll, still...but now your integrity is a badge you wear well and you Mr. Belonger are

the FHAexpert.com superstar.

Jun 08, 2009 09:23 AM
Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

Jeff - I'm experiencing a similar instance with one specific deal.  I've said it before, those that make it through this atmosphere will make it through any atomsphere.  I can identify with this post very much.

Jun 09, 2009 02:55 AM
Laura Gray
RE/MAX Realty Group - Gaithersburg, MD

Jeff - We all are looking a bit battle weary these days and it takes a real fire in the belly to keep looking for the right resolution. You are a committed loan officer and should hold your head high when dealing with any client and/or agent. May has been a tough monthfor all of us and I know that there will be tougher months ahead but if you love what you do and are committed to helping the client it will all fall into place.

 

Jun 11, 2009 01:42 AM
Holly Weatherwax
Associate Broker, Momentum Realty - Reston, VA
A Great Real Estate Experience

You know what, Jeff? Everyone I have spoken to lately agrees that while we are all very busy, every transaction is REALLY HARD!  Just do your best, do the right thing and it will work out. 

And take some time out/off to regroup and get your perspective back...

Jun 12, 2009 10:08 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Jeff, I'm late to the post and sure hope you're feeling better now!  I DO wear my heart on my sleeve and my clients know I will do whatever I can to help them but the difference is I don't get yelled at and they DO appreciate everything I do. I'm sorry to hear it's not like that in EVERY profession, especially when you put so much into helping others.

Jun 14, 2009 10:59 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

 

MISSY.....  I think many of us will agree in your statements. Unfortunately it is about them and I am getting angry about this now, because what even happened Friday and Saturday, that I am not putting up with it anymore. We can't win them all over and I refuse to be walked all over, just because someone just cares about themselves. If I have a family emergency and I told by the realtor that I could have at least texted them... LOL  Done, totally done with those people, especially when they can't even ask me if everyone or everything is okay... not even thought. So you know what, why should I care so much towards them, especially when I won't get a referral anyhow. Sad to say this and think this, but I am human, have a life, and as you stated, some things happen that aren't in your control.  thanks for the thoughtful comment.

GERRY......  you could say that again... that we don't get appreciated and nor do we get compensated. Should we?  Probably not, but damn, treat me like a business and not the end result to your PAY CHECK, as this is the case. Clearly this realtor just doesn't get it and I can safely assume this because of her direct comments.  End of story.  ;o)   thanks for the thoughts.

REBECCA.... . I agree 110%, that if more people would put integrity in the business plan, we might not be as deep in this mess as we are now. I wrote about some of this over the weekend, in regards to integrity.  Please read : Some loan officers just blatantly lie...!!!  Overall, thanks for the kind words and statements... much appreciative.  thanks

JASON.... I know, I remember talking about some of it.  ANd I agree, those that truly make it through this, will be there and be extremely strong. But it certainly is very tough now.  thanks for your support.

LAURA.... .  well, I have learned a little more about myself and it's because of these 2 situations. I won't change who I am and how I want to help others, but I will be careful to allow them to treat me like dirt. As mentioned before, end of story.  ;o)

HOLLY.... . not every deal is hard... yes, there are some and many, that are really hard. But it's those that scream at you, expecting that anyone can fix these certain problems, which is not usually correct. Just because another loan officer says so, doesn't mean it can be fixed that easily. And they will not usually know until the time they try to close that loan. Overall, I do and try my best and I just won't allow people to treat me otherwise. And I won't let them get to me as much now...  and yes, plan on taking some time for myself.  But just had a family emergency this weekend.  And I just didn't make myself do business all weekend. Family first.  thanks

CAROLE.... . don't worry about being late to this post. And yes, I can sense that you wear your heart on your sleeve.  I was feeling better until there was a family emergency this weekend, starting Friday night.  In any case, thanks for the kind thoughts and for stopping by.

 

Jun 14, 2009 04:46 PM
Elizabeth Benefield
Montana Country Real Estate - Libby, MT

Jeff: I want you to be my lender, good job. Almost every deal I have these day are a struggle to get them to appraise. What can be done?

Jun 15, 2009 01:08 AM
Marshall Norton
Tucson, AZ

Jeff, 

I needed to hear that.  I have been in a lull myself.  I will be bringing on an assistant and I have been feeling like things have been out of control.  Appraisals, media,  and on and on.  I decided last night to "sac it up"  and get back to my plan.  I will keep moving forward no matter what is put in front of me.  It sounds like you are doing the same and I applaud you for that.  It's difficult mentally to be in a business like lending or real estate right now if you do care about people.  They don't know what is going on with all the daily changes and sometimes we don't either.  The approach of meeting things head on is the only way to do business!!!!

Thank you for posting your thoughts!!!!  Keep moving forward!

Tucson Marshall

Jun 16, 2009 02:35 AM