Think before you Speak

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Real Estate Agent with Sotheby's International Realty

Yesterday I read an ActiveRain blog titled A Little Ancedote About Strangulation and Baseball.  The blog was very touching having been written by a husband whose wife has terminal breast cancer.  He spoke of the negativitiy of people and their very hurtful comments when his wife lost her hair due to the chemo treatments.  But most of all it was his relaying an experience at a baseball game they attended and her hair was beginning to grow back.  The nasty comments finally got to him and he snapped.  I couldn't blame him this was someone he loved and wanted to shelter.  It is sometimes hard to turn that other cheek when a person has nothing pleasant and only hurtful things to say.  It always amazes me how many cruel and negative people there are out there.  Whether it be in a store, while driving around or in their blogs - they spew negativity and hatred.  I guess I will attribute it to poor upbringing - I suppose their mothers never taught them the simple saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything".

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Victoria Murphy, ABR

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Rainer
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Sandra White
John L Scott Real Estate - Port Townsend, WA
Experienced Residential Resale Broker

Victoria, that is an unthinkable scenario.  We need to get our brain in gear before our mouth.  How are things in Santa Fe real estate wise?

Jun 19, 2009 04:54 AM #1
Rainmaker
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Pat Champion
Coldwell Banker Camelot Realty - Mount Dora, FL
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It is unbelievable how many people are rude-I agree with you a lot of the times it goes back to the way they were raised.

Jun 19, 2009 04:56 AM #2
Rainer
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Victoria Murphy
Sotheby's International Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe, NM

Sandra,

The Santa Fe market is holding pretty steady.  We did not see the reduction in list price and appraisial like so many other areas.  The sales are a bit slower and days on the market is a bit longer. 

How about your area?

Jun 19, 2009 04:58 AM #3
Rainer
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Larry DeGroat
Realty Professionals, Inc. - Searcy, AR
ABR, CRS, e-PRO, GRI in Searcy

It is so true.  Have a GREAT day!

Jun 19, 2009 04:58 AM #4
Rainmaker
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Robert Rauf
HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ) - Toms River, NJ

who said: "you cant fix stupid"??

I did not read that blog, now I am currious about the scenario.... What the heck would cause some one to say nasty things to a person they dont even know?  Must be hanging around in shallow gene pools.

Jun 19, 2009 04:59 AM #5
Rainmaker
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Shirley Parks
Sands Realty 210-414-0966 - San Antonio, TX
Broker, 210-414-0966, San Antonio TX Real Estate

Victoria, There is no excuse for rudeness.  Some people don't realize how hurtful this can be.

 

Jun 19, 2009 05:15 AM #6
Rainmaker
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Steven Simmons and Marti Schmidt
John L Scott Ocean Shores - Ocean Shores, WA
Ocean Shores Real Estate www.theoceaniscalling.com

Victoria, some folks should hope to God that Karma does not "come around!" 

Jun 19, 2009 05:36 AM #7
Rainer
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Xinh Truong
Connect Realty.Com, Inc. - San Leandro, CA

Like the chinese folks would say, "when you speak, pass your big brain" (sounds better in chinese).  Basically, think before you speak. 

Jun 19, 2009 05:37 AM #8
Rainmaker
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Michelle Gibson
Hansen Real Estate Group Inc. - Wellington, FL
REALTOR

Agreed, there are a lot of bitter and mean people out there, which it is VERY unfortunate and sad.

Jun 19, 2009 05:37 AM #9
Rainmaker
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Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

AMEN! I was telling someone today that I would rather overlook someone than dwell on their negativity.

Jun 20, 2009 01:16 PM #10
Rainer
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Victoria Murphy
Sotheby's International Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe, NM

Gary

You know the old saying "You reap what you sow".  I think if we surround ourselves with negative people we will be negative.  Better to laugh is my thought.

My best,

Jun 20, 2009 01:21 PM #11
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Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

I wish you'd linked that post!  My heart goes out to him too!  People say the first thing that comes to mind.......and some could stand to exercise some restraint - thats for sure!

Jun 20, 2009 01:39 PM #12
Rainer
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Victoria Murphy
Sotheby's International Realty - Santa Fe, NM
Santa Fe, NM

Liz,

I didn't even think of doing the link - I will next time.

Jun 20, 2009 01:41 PM #13
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