More Than A Realtor...

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Real Estate Agent with WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group CT RES.0785956

More Than A Realtor...

family life

Can you possibly imagine anyone being so committed to their jobs that they eat, drink, sleep, and breathe it?

Of course, there are people who are like that. Are they successful? Maybe. Are they satisfied with their lives? I seriously don't know the answer to that, but I'd suspect that deep down inside, they have a hidden box of regrets and a bag of coulda/woulda/shouldas.

I've had the opportunity to read some pertty nifty blogs by other realtors lately which have, in their own way, expressed a sentiment which may be growing amongst those not only in the real estate industry but in other occupations as well. That sentiment? Discovering, or rediscovering, what is truly important in life. That, for some, has meant a shift in their priorities from business related maters to family related matters, personal health, etc.

Several recent experiences and personal failings  that I have had in real estate, and the blogs that I have read lately, has got me thinking: am I really focused on real estate as I should be?

I had to change that thought. The more important question for me is, Am I only a realtor?

family life

Now, this is not to decry those agents or other professionals who follow the maxim of 24-7 service for their clients. If they can do it and still maintain a life, then they are to be commended for such discipline and dedication to their profession.

Me? I'm more than a realtor.

Every single real estate professional, whether they are a broker, agent, morgage lender, home inspector, appraiser, home stager, etc. can attest to the fact that their lives are more than just their chosen profession(s), and I will not attempt to summarize the many lives that we lead and live here.

But I can talk about me.

First and foremost, I am a father and husband. There are times when the center of my attention must be my wife and children, because I love them dearly and when all is said and done, they are the ones I am home with.

I am also a son, a grandson, a nephew, and an uncle. I must spend time with my mother and grandmother, and do all I can to take care of them as they get older. My grandmother is up in age and is chronically ill, so I have to tend to her the best I can while also tending to my own home. I also love spending time with and helping my elderly aunt - my grandmother's surviving sister, and I have two nephews and a neice who need time with their uncle, who is more times than not the only positive male role model they have in their lives.

I am also a Christian. I have recently made some changes in my church affiliation, but that does not stop the work that I am called to do. I still love visiting the sick, teaching, and helping those whom God has placed in my path with the gifts He has given me to be a blessing to others by. I love to pray, and I love to spend time with God alone, without inturruption, and most of all, I love to worship Him on Sundays. I've made the msitake of letting my commitment to being a realtor interfere with that in the past, but no longer, because as my wife has been telling me, God comes first, and I do not want to cross Him.

I am also a teacher. Interestingly enough, this one aspect of my life has been construed as more of a hinderance to my being an effective realtor than what I would give it credit for. The only problem that it poses is, as a matter of school policy, not being able to answer calls during school hours. But, during the day, I still have access to e-mail, and there are a few moments each day (not many) in which I can play phone tag with my clients. What this ultimately means is that I have a balancing act to play for 180 days, for 5 hours a day ( I wouldn't dare call anyone at 7 a.m. in the morning regarding real estate).

What does that ultimately mean for anyone who does and/or would do business with me as a realtor?

First thing, it means that I am available, and based on both of our schedules, I can clearly communicate the extent of that availability.

What it also means is that nothing is cast in stone, and I can and have been flexible, but there are certain times when I cannot and will not answer the phone - I'll have to call you back (times like when I'm at the hospital with my grandmother, when I'm spending time with my children and wife, during Sunday worship service, and when I'm praying - and of course when I'm teaching). Other than that, I can and usually do answer my phone.

What it means is that I know what's truly important in my life, and everything that I do in my life has to take its proper place, even if that means losing business as a realtor...

Because, in the end, I am more than a realtor....

 

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Rainmaker
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Vickie Nagy
Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate - Palm Springs, CA
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It all comes down to balance, focusing on core strengths, motivation, drive and desire. A bit less of one or another changes the business plan.

Jun 30, 2009 06:09 PM #1
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Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group
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We all adjust based on our own priorities., . seems that yours are very clear. .congrats

Jun 30, 2009 09:19 PM #2
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Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
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William what do you teach?

My husband is a teacher too so just curious?

Jun 30, 2009 11:58 PM #3
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Marilyn Harrell
ReMax Riverhaven - Beaverton, MI
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Flexibility and setting your own schedule are benefits of being a realtor! You can be great at what you do without cheating yourself or your family of your time.

Jul 01, 2009 01:00 AM #4
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Toni Greenwood
Burger Professionals Real Estate - Olympia, WA

Congratulations William.  Sounds like you've got your priorities in order. 

 

Jul 01, 2009 01:48 AM #5
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Diane Plant
Forest Hill Real Estate Inc, Brokerage - Toronto, ON
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Lorena just had a whole blog on balance. Many of the responses were related to balance.

I agree that family is first and foremost. Clients will be long gone, but if we cherish our family we must realize they are there forever.

As for working 24/7 in real estate-no way. I do not want anyone calling me at 3:00 am because they were surfing and saw my website or blog and thought I was the right person to handle there real estate needs. I understand that I might have to be working sign backs or finishing off a deal at 1:00 am, but I also feel that I can control that situation as well.

Dinner time with the family is extremely important when you have children, yes even in their teens. I simply tell my clients that I have an appointment and book them for 7:00-7:30 and that always works.

Jul 01, 2009 02:34 AM #6
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Jeffrey Burnham
Choice One Properties & Mgt - Las Vegas, NV
The Wizard

Thanks for reminding us what REALLY matters. We're all chasing the almighty dollar. Many of us are grabbling to stay current and hang on in this funky economy... but at what price. I'm spending time with my kids this weekend and will surely reflect on your comments.

You have my admiration.

Jeff Burnham-"The Wizard", Rosen & Co. Las Vegas NV 702-682-2002.

 

Jul 01, 2009 03:38 AM #7
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Kathy Opatka
RE/MAX CROSSROADS - Ocean City, MD
Serving Ocean City, MD, & The Delaware Beaches

William,

Thanks for this reminder that there is more to life than Real Estate!  I especially needed it TODAY!

Kathy Opatka

Jul 01, 2009 03:41 AM #8
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Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
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It sounds like you have your prioritize right, but you have a really full plate.  I pray that God would bless your endeavors.

Jul 01, 2009 03:47 AM #9
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Marcy Eastham
Town & Country Realty Corvallis Oregon - Corvallis, OR

Wow, you have a lot to juggle.  i used to play the 24/7 game, but won't do it any more.  My clients have lives (at least most of them) and i should be entitled to have one too.  A rested and happy Realtor is more efficient and easier to deal with than a tired and grumpy one! 

Congratulations on finding a way to do all that you need to do.  We all need to take a step back and recognize that we don't have to beat ourselves up for taking some "me" or family time.

Jul 01, 2009 04:49 AM #10
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Jaishree Zilpelwar

Congratulations...God Bless You..you seems like a very responsible person and everyone loves you. I love Jeff Burnham's comment and other.

Have A Safe & Happy 4th of July To All..

Jul 01, 2009 05:56 AM #11
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James Quarello
JRV Home Inspection Services, LLC - Wallingford, CT
Connecticut Home Inspector

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and know what portions work for you. Family should always be first, but sometimes we have to make a sacrifice. As long as you keep things balanced your rewards should be great.

Btw I am more than a home inspector:)

Jul 01, 2009 09:57 AM #12
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Mike Henderson
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Nice post and a reminder to have balance in our lives.

Jul 02, 2009 05:56 AM #13
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Valerie Elliott

Really nice post, thanks for the reminder, your life sounds like mine,Christian, with a husband, 3 sons, elderly parents, one great aunt, sister, nephews, friends, and a demanding profession as a Realtor. And you are right Seek God first, and He will add to us everything we need. I'm trying to consistently practice what you have learned as well.

 

Happy 4th to all!!

Jul 02, 2009 06:55 AM #14
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Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

William, this was a wonderful post. We are more than one thing, I am also many things. Sometimes they collide with a huge bang, but, those that love me just love me anyway.

We have a realtor in our office who is also a full time teacher. She does very well by the way, sold some homes to teachers. And, now she is pregnant, due in 2 months, and still taking the summer to sell more real estate.

We all win some and loose some, but we keep going. If we have done the best we can, dealt fairly with our clients then we have not failed, the deal has failed. Deals fall apart for reasons beyond our control. There are times I am not available to speak with someone. Maybe I am busy with another client, maybe I am in the barn, or taking care of my grandson, or taking time for me, or on vacation. I am allowed those times. I do the best I can, and answer in a timely fashion.

So, Mr. William, you are all those things, and all those things will make you an EXCELLENT realtor!

Jul 02, 2009 02:22 PM #15
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William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Vickie - Indeed. Too much of one and not enough of another throws everything out of whack, and a life out of whack is not a happy life at all.

Fernando - Thanks. My priorities have been clear, but there are times when focusing on them can be obscured by the demands that having so many hats to wear brings at times. But I always find my way back to them, that's for sure.

Missy - I'm a history teacher, like yours. Oh, and I'm glad to hear that he's back at work. Us history teachers are needed too, you know!

Marilyn - Definitely! I'm through with cheating myself and my family of time.

Jul 07, 2009 08:22 AM #16
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William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Toni - I wish that I could say that I always did. But it's better to have them all in order now than when I'm old and can't change too much and have no time left.

Diane - Yes! I missed Loreena's blog (now I have something else to read as well), but balance is the key. Being in control of my time is what I am starting to convey to my clients. My schedule does not control what I do, I control my schedule and adjust when I need to for what's important.

Jeff - Thanks. I really believe that when we chase what's really important, then the almighty dollar will actually chase us. Seriously.

Kathy - I'm glad that I could help you. Be blessed.

Gene - Yes, my plate is full, but I'm looking for my cup to run over, and indeed, God is the only one who can bless me, indeed.

Jul 07, 2009 09:56 AM #17
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William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Marcy - Indeed, a rested and happy realtor is indeed more efficient. Far from feeling guilty about doing what I need to do, I'm satisfied now.

Jaishree - Thanks for your kind words. I would be a fool to belive that I am loved by all, but I try my best (yet even then I fail sometimes). I'm only human.

James - What I'm realizing is that the rewards are more often than not not of a monetary nature. And yes, we are definitely more than our professions :-)

Mike - Thanks, we all need to be reminded from time to time.

Valerie - You shouldn't be surprised that there are many like us who are facing the same decisions as to where we should place our priorities. If we seek Him first, then He will provide for our needs.

Andrea - Thanks for the kind words. They mean even more to me now that I've met you :-)

Jul 07, 2009 01:41 PM #18
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Elva Branson-Lee
Solid Source Realty GA - Atlanta, GA
CDPE - Atlanta Real Estate & Short Sale Agent

I love this. I also am more than a realtor, even as a realtor...I'm a change agent, helping change the market and stimulate the economy one house at a time. I wrote about it on activerain. I invite you to take a look here: http://activerain.com/blogsview/811069/real-estate-agent-turned-change-agent-

I chose to be a change agent because of all the ways that I am more than a realtor, including being a concerned member of a hurting community.

Jul 08, 2009 02:29 PM #19
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Elva Branson-Lee
Solid Source Realty GA - Atlanta, GA
CDPE - Atlanta Real Estate & Short Sale Agent

William, it is so refreshing to read this...to find someone brave enough to write about himself with such transparency.

It reminds me to live courageously, with the roof off. I'm glad to have met you and all the wonderful aspects of who you are.

Jul 08, 2009 02:35 PM #20
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