Strange Girl in a Strange Place

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Real Estate Agent with Savvy + Company Real Estate NC: 277197

Dark FlowerMen look. Women sneer. And the kids just get all saucer-eyed trying to figure out why a grown woman is riding her mountain bike around the neighborhood the same way they do. It’s just not normal in this town. Nearly everything is different about living here and I’ve come to realize that I’ve rather lost my way. This is how it is to be a stranger, I think. Even better, I won’t think at all. I can’t help but wonder what might happen were I to rely on instinct and habit instead. Would I appear as out of place?

A foreign object. She is me. I am her. All so very alien and unfamiliar. And so is the real estate industry in this town. To me, the way real estate is practiced here, it may as well be another industry altogether. After meeting with several of the bigger companies, I’m not sure I belong. And yet my desire to get back in the game is locked up inside of me struggling to escape. Something has to give.

I think I’ve lost my groove. A dead giveaway that something is wrong. It is possible to survive with less than my soul desires, though I am a dark romantic – always in search of elusive perfection, always wondering where, to whom, and if I truly belong. It’s the late night that gives me problems.

One thing is certain:  I have big decisions to make.

However it finally happens, it must come to me. That’s the way it has to be; that’s the way it will be. Because I know what I want and I won’t let go until I have it. Whatever that may be.

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Jennifer Monroe
Savvy + Company Real Estate - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker in Beautiful Charlotte

Harry... Thanks for the kind invitation, but some of my family live up on your rim. Mommie is a Realtor with 30+ years experience and she is having a rough time of it for the first time in her career. I might fit in there but I'd be as broke as the rest of you :)

John... True. I do. And I will.

Rebecca... I can sum it up this way: I lived in 27 different places by the time I graduated high school in the 11th grade. Since then, at least another ten. I acclimate like a chameleon. But socially and professionally this is a place unto itself. If I could act as a broker in this state, I wouldn't hesitate to do my own thing. This town could benefit from a new perspective.

Shirley... Since I hail from Portland, I truly 'get' the nuance implied by the comments you endured. We had a Governor way back when - Tom McCall - who had a motto of sorts that amounted to asking 'imports' to go on back home. Oregonians appreciate their gorgeous state and didn't want to be overrun by Californians and such. It wasn't very nice. But I confess to having thin skin. Even age hasn't changed that much. I want to be appreciated.

 

Jul 11, 2009 01:10 AM #22
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Sandra Cummings
William Raveis Real Estate - Guilford, CT
Real Estate Agent, Guilford Connecticut

Btw - Missing My Strange Girl...never hear from you anymore...

Jul 11, 2009 04:56 AM #23
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Jason Sardi
Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina - Charlotte, NC
Your Agent for Life

I can attest that you are a strange girl.  I can also attest that this is somewhat of a strange place.  More than both of those though, I can attest that I love you with every inch (no pun intended) of my being.

You belong.  And it's rarely easy coming across and into that realization.

So when exactly are we hooking up with BB & TLW? 

 

Jul 11, 2009 11:05 AM #24
Rainmaker
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Real Estate - Fallon, MT

Jennifer,  The fact that you are out there riding that mountain bike confirms you are not lost.  Caving to the new surroundings and giving up your enjoyment would be certain defeat.  Think about doing your own thing, instead of conforming to the real estate practices you find so foreign you can be out on your own or join a small broker that allows you to offer your west coast style in Allentown.

Jul 12, 2009 12:55 AM #25
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Neal Bloom
Brokered by eXp Realty LLC - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate

I say just go with your gut...if it doesn't work out then I'm sure you can find another mickey d's down the street:)...I'm sure you'll be a valuable asset where ever you go.

Jul 12, 2009 09:10 AM #26
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Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Lovey, I so wish that Jason lived closer to me so that we could work on this together.  You do belong.  The east coast needs your intellect and your artistry.  xxoo 

Jul 13, 2009 02:10 PM #27
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Krista Fuchs
Prudential Fox & Roach - Exton, PA
Chester County Realtor - (484) 459-8025 - Home Buying and Selling

Bummer about the strange looks while bike riding...perhaps you two should move to Chester County, I can't go a day without passing a biker!  Come on out and hang out with me and Susan!  

Jul 17, 2009 03:56 PM #28
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Janet Guilbault
Guild Mortgage - Walnut Creek, CA
San Francisco Bay Area Direct Mortgage Lender

Was thinking about Sex in the City when Carrie moved to Paris to follow her love...and seemed so lost in a different culture.

I tried to warn you.

Drop real estate like a hot potato. That's my advice. You have never seemed to fit there anyway.

 

 

Jul 21, 2009 12:12 PM #29
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Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Hi there, I love this post and figured you would be writing about your beloved bike sooner or later.

Don't worry about it, you will always have your groove and you will adapt. When we were first married my wife and I moved to Minneappolis YIKES! so she could attend anesthesia school and I went through the exact same scenario! The coolest thing was that we both had such an incredible and sometimes challenging time that we both got so much closer because of the adventure of building a new life together.

I've been out of the online world for a few weeks and just now getting back. Nice to see your post and I still owe you an email!

and speaking of Stranger in a Strange Land I've always like this tune by Leon Russell!

 

Jul 27, 2009 01:48 PM #30
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Donne Knudsen
Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA - Simi Valley, CA
CalState Realty Services

Jennifer - While I can't offer any career advice, I will say that you are a brave woman for making the move across the country.  I have often seriously contemplated leaving SoCA; hubby and I are definitely very open to the idea and probably will one day.  However, the thought of starting all over again somewhere else is really scary and so far has kept hubby and I planted here for now.

Change is a good thing especially when surrounded by love.  YOU GO GIRL! 

Aug 18, 2009 03:30 AM #31
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Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Hi Jen -  I for one love your 'strangeness' -- if you want to call being a unique individual with strong and wonderful opinions. thoughts , ways of seeing, and great stuff like that!  strange.  Hard to be homesick in the place you call home.   Loved talking with you last month.  BTW - when I go to Paris in Sept - YES -- I plan to visit Pere Lachaisse cemetery and say hi to Jim!!

 

Aug 20, 2009 08:17 PM #32
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Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Morning Jennifer, just dropped by to say howdy and see if you had posted anything new!

Sep 09, 2009 02:11 AM #33
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Jennifer Monroe
Savvy + Company Real Estate - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker in Beautiful Charlotte

Nothing for quite awhile Russell. You remind me that even if I'm not active in the industry at the moment, I should still write for y'all now and again :) Hope you're well and happy :-))

Sep 09, 2009 04:54 AM #34
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Sara Goodwin
Ashcroft & Associates - Portland, OR
Portland, Oregon Appraiser

Ride your bike, start a recycling program, wear shorts in 60 degree weather and flannel the rest of the time ... Just like a Norwester - Heck, if you already stick out on a silly bike, might as well keep true to yourself (I guess that probably means no flannel, though)

Sep 12, 2009 05:15 AM #35
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Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Hey girl.  I am driving up to drop some stuff off to my first born in Kutztown.  Wanna grab a later lunch or an iced tea?  Not sure the exact time I'll be in the vicinity, and I have no idea how far you are from Kutztown, but my baby can't see me, and he needs some stuff, so it would be very nice to kill two birds with one stone.  Eat your heart out Russell Lewis!  Let me know Jenn.  MWA!

Sep 15, 2009 01:50 PM #36
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Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Well...this is really funny that I should check in here the day after my pal http://activerain.com/susanman

I would really enjoy meeting all three of you in person someday. (Yes, Jason too!)

And yes Jennifer...you do have an audience that looks forward to your writing!

Sep 17, 2009 03:14 AM #37
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John MacArthur
Century 21 Redwood - Washington, DC
Licensed Maryland/DC Realtor, Metro DC Homes

For God's Sake woman................stop focusing on the brokers..........they are dopey everywhere. How about this for a fact.............there are people right there in your little neighborhood, watching you ride by on your bike and they need you and your skills. They need you. 

That is the reality. Stop riding and start helping. Brokers come and go...good agents are rare.

Let them have you...........

Oct 13, 2009 09:58 AM #38
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Jennifer Monroe
Savvy + Company Real Estate - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker in Beautiful Charlotte

You're right about that. But I don't want to be sidelined in a small community either. It's a delicate balance to be sure...

Oct 13, 2009 10:00 AM #39
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Kate Elim
Dockside Realty - Spotsylvania, VA
Realtor 540-226-1964, Selling Homes & Land a

Hi Jennifer...You are not a stranger to me.  You are unique, as we all are.

Welll, perhaps you are a little more unique.  Cling to that.  It is special.

Kate

Oct 13, 2009 11:04 AM #40
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Joe Colón, Jr.
Jenny L Colón, PC - Chesapeake, VA

Hey Jennifer,

   I have to say; I spent a good amount of time in Allentown several years ago and thought very much like you did about the town.  I realized that it's a town ran by the older locals, but when I began to ask advice from these older locals, I found them to be quite inviting and supportive.  All people want to trust; most importantly though, you should ask yourself if you're willing to be a little vulnerable with these 'strangers' who live among you.  It's this small town mentality that makes America great and causes "city folk" to run TO these quiet towns after they've been burned out from the daily hustle and bustle of fast-paced America.  Give them a chance and remember to love the fact that Allentown is one of many towns that make America...well America!  Let me know what you think...or if I just confused you.  :o)

-Joe

  

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