Why Do We Worry So Much?

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Worry FaceWhy Do We Worry So Much?

Have you seen the look on some professional's faces in real estate of late? There are probably some REAL things to worry about, but I venture they are less than 20% of what we worry about.

I think "concern" on various things that bother us is all right, but downright worry, obsessing about a problem or situation, kinda like sand stuck in the oyster, is PURE WASTED ENERGY. Tips for not having excess worry:

  • work your way out of the jam
  • let go. It really is freeing
  • consult with others purely as a sounding board to get your feelings out
  • discover how "others" got out of this jam and copy their solution if it is a fit
  • take a break, get away
  • separate things in your control and out of your control for serenity

Above all, think of the old 20/20 hindsight and looking back on what you are worrying about right now for those 80% of things, they don't matter a hill of beans one year or five years from now. Take a chill pill and turn that worry wart face of yours around with a smile or a laugh.

Laugh in the face of worry. It might actually snap you out of it!!

Comments (27)

Tom Braatz Waukesha County Real Estate 262-377-1459
Coldwell Banker - Oconomowoc, WI
Waukesha County Realtor Real Estate agent. SOLD!


Age old problem of constant worrying breeds health problems that were not necessary. In the end it may have been something that was not even thinking about. I think it was Confucius that said "anticipation of death is worse than death itself." People work themselves up into a frenzy at times.

Sep 08, 2009 06:40 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Gary, I like Pat's choice of therapy...it doesn't cost anything and feel great as well! Or Don't Worry! Go Fishing! I like that too! Thanks for that!

Sep 08, 2009 06:50 AM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

If we worked as hard as we worried...we would be way ahead of the game!

Sep 08, 2009 07:23 AM
Petra Norris
Lakeland Real Estate Group, Inc. - Lakeland, FL
Realtor, Lakeland FL Homes for Sale

Gary - When worry strikes you, come to Gary's blog and get yourself a morale booster :). I always say there is a light at the end of the tunnel, which works really well for me.

Sep 08, 2009 07:26 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Gary:  This is great advice to keep us from getting stuck in that Molasses Swamp in our heads. 

Sep 08, 2009 08:06 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Gary..Great advice..But sometimes easier said than done..

Sep 08, 2009 08:39 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones


What great advice..I do see some very pinched faces lately and worrying is not going to solve the problem! Taking a deep breath and screaming is good but laughing is better!

Sep 08, 2009 09:02 AM
Shirley Parks
Sands Realty 210-414-0966 - San Antonio, TX
Broker, 210-414-0966, San Antonio TX Real Estate

@ Loreena, Now I have to go look up Matthew 6:19 - 34. :o) 

Sep 08, 2009 09:28 AM
June Lewis
Northwood Realty Services - New Castle, PA
Realtor Northwood Realty - New Castle,Pa Lawrence Co 7247304571

Hi GAry..worry leads to panic and panic makes everything worse.  How can you solve problems if you are in a panic. I had a boss in my early career that always said 80 % of what you worry about will never happen. BTW  This little girl is an absolute beauty.

Sep 08, 2009 10:16 AM
Richard Iarossi
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Crofton, MD
Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate


You couldn't be more right. Most of what we worry about constantly doesn't amount to much in our overall lives.

Of course, the trick is being able to push it aside and move on.


Sep 08, 2009 10:20 AM
Esko Kiuru
Bethesda, MD


Good reminder to everyone today in real estate and mortgages. It seems to be one of the constants in human nature that we worry. Overdoing it can ruin your day, and worse.

Sep 08, 2009 10:55 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Gary - I think some of us are naturally just hardwired to worry.  However, there are two simple principles that I think help a great deal.  One of them you hinted at in your blog piece, "let go. It really is freeing."  That one was like an epiphany to me. . .There is a power in surrender!

I also like your, "let go. It really is freeing."  I've learned that control often equates to responsibility, and we might not always want it.

Sep 08, 2009 12:07 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Gary, it amazes me what people worry about, and not just real estate professionals!  My mom had this thing that you have to worry about something bad or it will happen.  I sort of take the opposite appraoch.

Sep 08, 2009 12:08 PM
Lizette Fitzpatrick
Lizette Realty - Richmond KY - Lexington, KY
Lizette Realty, Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes

I know there are some things in this business that make me crazy with worry. Then things get resolved or it's just not a big deal anymore.

Sep 08, 2009 03:16 PM
Susie Blackmon
Ocala, FL
Ocala, Horses, Western Wear, Horse Farms, Marketing

Hmmm, could I be so happy in the face of adversity that it's just because my life is totally out of my control? ;-)

Sep 08, 2009 09:46 PM
Donna Yates
BHGRE - Metro Brokers - Blue Ridge, GA
Blue Ridge Mountains

I was pumping gas one day and on the pump was this message that ran across a little screen, "if you worry, you didn't pray; if you prayed - don't worry".  I thought how odd to see that on a gas pump and yet, it stayed with me throughout that day and even now, probably two years later.  Sometimes you have to let go as you mentioned and sometimes you just have to let it be.

Sep 08, 2009 09:51 PM
Sandy Shores FL Realtor®, Melbourne Real Estate
M & M Realty of Brevard Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Brevard County Real Estate, Florida's Space Coast

Hi Gary, Great post! All the worrying in the world isn't going to change anything. Thanks for the reminder!

Sep 09, 2009 02:57 AM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

Gary - I can certainly relate to the last two items on your list these days. Yes, indeed I have had to force myself into taking a break and others to simply accept that I need one. And, understanding when things are out of my control has helpedme realizeI must sometimes be in the passenger seat.

Sep 09, 2009 03:39 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

This one is a interesting one. Very interesting indeed. Consult with others purely as a sounding board to get your feelings out

Sep 11, 2009 11:15 AM
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

I so love how you match up your photos with your thoughts - so now which comes first?  The thought or the photo? :-)

Sep 12, 2009 07:54 AM