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Know When to Shut Up

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Real Estate Agent with Century 21 Platinum Realty

Know When to Shut Up

It may sound a bit abrasive, but "Shut Up" is the only way to best communicate this idea. Real Estate sales involve moments of decision. Critical, turning point moments.

The parties involved may need a moment or two for the information to process in their brains to make those decisions. That is when you need to shut up. For example, on the telephone, you ask a qualified buyer or seller when you can meet them. Give them a couple of appointment options and then wait, silently.

When asking a buyer, "Do you want to write up an offer?" If you say anything else before they do you are probably not going to get that sale. This one principle, knowing when to stay silent, will help you double or triple your sale numbers. What will that do for your bottom line? I think you can do the math.

How to "Shut Up"

1. Never assume people need you to talk. The are usually just thinking out loud.

2. Bite your tongue after each of your closing statements.

3. Remember a sales person you have dealt with personally who wouldn't "shut up" and how you felt about it!

Posted by

Lyndon Sommert

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Kevin Riley
IHP Real Estate - Little Rock, AR
Kevin Riley

Great advice and I love it.  One of my best skills is listening and my clients love it.  I even had some of my clients to tell me that they love me because I'm not so pushy.  Of course everyone has to do what works for them.  What works for me is to present the facts and then "shut up."

Sep 18, 2009 12:10 PM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTORĀ® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Boy, if i had a nickel for every time I wish i could tell a client to shut up, I wouldn't need to work until 90 in order to retire.

Sep 18, 2009 12:32 PM
Barb Mihalik
RE/MAX Elite - Suntree, FL

I always remember..."Salespeople talk themselves right out of a sale."  I've learned that lesson a time or two.  Listening is a lot harder than talking, that's for sure.

Sep 18, 2009 01:02 PM
Sherry Laursen
Remax Premier Group - Wesley Chapel, FL
MAKING YOUR REAL ESTATE DREAMS A REALITY

Great post. I have to work on this a little more. Silence is golden and will get you much farther than blabbing all the time.

Sep 18, 2009 03:26 PM
Mike Henderson
Your complete source for buying HUD homes - Littleton, CO
HUD Home Hub - 303-949-5848

Sales basics 101.  The 10 seconds of silence can seem like 10 minutes at times.

Sep 18, 2009 04:01 PM
Mark Velasco
West Shores Realty - Whittier, CA
Top Producing Broker Associate

Very true Lyndon. How many times have we talked ourselves OUT of a sale?  This principal applies to marriage: when something negative comes to mind...Know when to ... lol

Sep 18, 2009 05:40 PM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

loose lips sink ships... I agree with your post 200% ! Something I have tried to tell my agents over and over... As Dick Synhorst always said if you keep your lip zipped you wont prove how much you dont know! thanks!

Sep 18, 2009 07:20 PM
Allison Stewart
St.Cloud Homes - Saint Cloud, FL
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904

There is nothing more irritating than being badgered by loquacious agent.  Let the customer think quietly.  Silence is golden for a reason!

Sep 18, 2009 10:16 PM
Chip Jefferson
Gibbs Realty and Auction Company - Columbia, SC

2 ears and 1 mouth equation. This is hard for those of us that love to yap about anything and everything. I have to try hard!

Sep 18, 2009 10:33 PM
Ginger Moore
Wilkinson & Associates Realty - Gastonia, NC

What a great post!  yes I myself am guilty of not listening, sometimes. this is a great reminder, and I am going to try and listen more intently, instead of talking. thanks for sharing!

Sep 19, 2009 02:41 AM
Kerry Lucasse
eXp Realty - Urban Nest Real Estate Group - Atlanta, GA
Your Urban Nest Atlanta Real Estate Consultant

Most realtors do love to talk and I'm no exception!  Thankfully, I realized that 'silence is golden' years before my real estate career,. thanks to several chatty (pushy) car salesmen and even when shopping for shoes or clothing.  I still have to remind myself at least once a week!  :-)

Sep 19, 2009 03:59 AM
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector

You are correct. Sometimes being silent is best in business. Often it ends up that the chatter is nervous energy and the other party needs to make a decision.

Sep 19, 2009 09:11 AM
Lisa Matykiewicz
United Brokers Group - Gilbert, AZ

Great advice!  You will learn more when you hold still and quiet.

Sep 20, 2009 01:58 AM
Karen Crowson
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Rancho Bernardo, CA
Your Agent for Change

Great reminder.  What's that old song lyric, 'a little less talk and a lot more action?".  We've got to remember than 'active listening' is an action!

 

Sep 20, 2009 11:52 PM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Realtors are the biggest 'babblers' that I've seen in sales.  They are their own worst enemies with the close.

Sep 22, 2009 02:23 AM
Brad Calef
Coco Plum Realtors - Key Colony Beach, FL

Great post Lyndon.  You couldn't be more correct ~ brad

Sep 22, 2009 08:54 AM
Brad Calef
Coco Plum Realtors - Key Colony Beach, FL

Great post Lyndon.  You couldn't be more correct ~ brad

Sep 22, 2009 08:54 AM
Lyndon Sommert
Century 21 Platinum Realty - Edmonton, AB

Thanks to everybody for commenting on this blog.  I always remember a client I was with, an investor who wanted to buy several properties and ended up being over 50% of my sales one year.  He was an introvert, when we walked through homes there was barely a word said, and after 10 minutes of silence in each home all I would say is "so what price?" and we wrote on about 25% of the homes we saw. 

Now it seems like this was just easy money, but years of experience taught me to mirror clients, if I would have talked to just hear my voice that would have been the most selfish thing I could have done, and of course the results would have been much less sales and probably the loss of the client. 

Silence is one of the most pwerful things that we have to work with, and used correctly will create hundreds of thousands of dollars, and quality clients that will use you forever.

Here's to shutting up!

Cheers to all of you

Lyndon

Sep 23, 2009 02:26 AM
Ken Bryant
Chino Hills, CA

Lyndon great post. As a "new" agent somitimes you get too excited and forget this very important point

Thx, Ken

Oct 04, 2009 05:17 AM
Jackie Cross
Real Living All Florida Realty - Port St Lucie, FL

"Learn to Listen"  This is my motto.  You will hear more about your clients and what they want.  Do not be afraid of the silence.

Oct 26, 2009 04:53 AM