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"Your Father Loves You The Best Way He Knows How!"

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In my 30's I was a single mother raising three boys by myself.  My son Ryan who appeared on my door step was really struggling in life.  You see he is a kid who suffered hardships.  He is a kid who understood life at an early age, it was he who taught me an important lesson in life.  He had no choice, he grew up real quick.

"People Love You The Best Way They Know How!" came out of my mouth when he was truly devastated and was really suffering inside.  At 14 this young man had already lost his mother in a hit and run accident, his dad, at one time was a decent man.  His father died when his mother died meaning his heart and soul.  That began the destruction of his relationship with his father. 


I remember him crying to me, it was one of the special moments in our lives, he could not understand why his dad was the way he was and my only explanation was, "He loves the best way he knows how!"  "His love was taught from generation to generation and each of us really try hard to break the cycle."  WOW! This little statement is so true, while I had an awesome childhood I rarely go back beyond the age of 7.  It was a difficult time and those 7 years of my life were traumatic.  I forgave my biological father and realized he loved me the best way he knew how.  While it was not right in my eyes in the way he approached life, I now fully understand and accept it, he did love me the best way he knew how!

Today things are quite different for Ryan, I am so proud of my son!  He now takes care of his father which helped his dad to be a better man.  Forgiveness and understanding seems to be so unnatural at times especially when it comes to family.  We are much harder on family than anyone else.

                            

I guarantee you will not feel the same 10 years from now, you will change, life will change you whether you like it or not.  Your new experiences and human encounters will also influence the way you think.   Don't carry unnecessary burdens we already carry a heavy load.

Thank you Ryan for a fine lesson in life.  "Remember son, I love you the best way I know how!"

Comments (20)

Neal Bloom
Brokered by eXp Realty LLC - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate

Way to go Ryan Happy fathers day to dad!

Jun 17, 2007 05:32 AM
Maggie Dokic /Indialantic | 321-252-8696
Magdalena Dokic - Indialantic, FL
Selling the beach in Florida's space coast

Midori, this is a very poignant post.

Don't carry unnecessary burdens we already carry a heavy load. <------This especially resonated with me.  We can choose how to react to what happens to us. 

Jun 17, 2007 05:39 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals
Neal-You inspired me to write this post!  Your post today was very open and honest and sincere.  You did good today!  Enjoy your day!
Jun 17, 2007 05:41 AM
Monika McGillicuddy
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty - Hampstead, NH
Southern NH & the Seacoast Area

Midori,

 What a touching message. I hope you showed this to Ryan.

Jun 17, 2007 05:43 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals
Maggie-yes some of the smarts I get are from personal experiences with some very smart people!  Including a 14 year old suffering.  Thanks for stopping by......for me I can't carry burdens, they hurt way too much.  I hope this day finds you smiling and remember my friend you are never alone!
Jun 17, 2007 05:44 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals
Monika-My son is so resourceful he probably found it already.  He really inspired me to be more active on the computer.  He loves the computer.  Thanks for stopping by, I have really missed the rain.
Jun 17, 2007 05:57 AM
Portland Oregon Real Estate | Alecia Barnes - Broker
Portland, OR

Midori-

Ryan inspired a very beautiful and thoughtful post. You are very blessed to have him in your life! We missed you!

Jun 17, 2007 06:28 AM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI
(RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE
People will change in their own way and time...if ever. It is up to us to accept that some people will not always think the way we do. Nor have the tools to do so. Very beautiful post Midor...thanks for the reminder that I am not perfect as well.
Jun 17, 2007 06:42 AM
Lysa Napolitano
Daytona Beach, FL

Midori,

I put on my makeup, I'm going to yet another fundraiser for yes, you guess it~St Jude! It's at the Banks and Blues on Main Street (Hint Hint) and now, I'm going to have to reapply! Even though we've talked about your family, your posts are still bringing on the "happy" tears.

Jun 17, 2007 06:49 AM
Steve Mun
Keller Williams Silicon Valley - Santa Clara, CA
Silicon Valley Realtor
Very touching story Midori.  Especially on a special day like today.  I'm sure Ryan will make a wonderful father.  Wow, thank you for giving me food for thought today.
Jun 17, 2007 07:21 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals

Alecia-Thanks for stopping by.  Yes most of my posts are inspired by VIP's to me.  I missed you lots girl!

Sally- While people choose to think the way they do, often times their minds change because of someone else who is quite open.  Many of my conversations with my son's have changed my thought process.  None of us are perfect and that is something that everyone needs to remember.  Thank you for stopping by.

Jun 17, 2007 07:33 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals

Lysa-Good Luck today!  I am thinking of you.  Yes well believe  me their are more happy tears where that came from.  Thank you for the support.

Steve-Thanks for stopping by.  Yes I do believe in time he will make a great father.  Don't want to rush it.  It seems my children teach me many lessons. 

Jun 17, 2007 07:35 AM
Bryant Tutas
Tutas Towne Realty, Inc and Garden Views Realty, LLC - Winter Garden, FL
Selling Florida one home at a time
Simply beautiful Midori. Thank you.
Jun 17, 2007 11:17 AM
Endea Thibodeaux
Lanham, MD
Solar Energy Consultant, CDPE, CLHMS
You are right your earthly Father does love you the best way he knows how.  Isn't it wonderful to know we have a heavenly father who loves us inspite of ourselves perfectly!
Jun 17, 2007 11:31 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals

Broker Bryant-Hope you had a wonderful day!!!!  You deserve it, thank you for stopping by.

Endea- Thank you for stopping by..Yes every father loves the best way he knows how.  Thank God, we don't have to be perfect! 

Jun 17, 2007 01:40 PM
Darrel Quebedeaux
Evergreen Realty & Associates Inc. - Newport Coast, CA
Beautiful and thoughtful words, very inspiring.  Thank you.
Jun 17, 2007 08:17 PM
Danny Smith
DISCOVER TEXAS HOMES - Round Rock, TX
Thanks for sharing that Midori! You gave us all a blessing by letting us read it. There;s a special place in Heaven for you!
Jun 18, 2007 05:05 AM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals

Darrell-Thank you, my family is quite inspiring.  I appreciate you reading and stopping by.

Danny-You are so thoughtful and I really appreciate your kind comments always.  That is my goal an easier entrance to Heaven!  Thanks again your comment brightened my day!

Jun 18, 2007 06:14 AM
Joan Mirantz
Homequest Real Estate - Concord, NH
Realtor, GRI, CBR, SRES - Concord New Hampshire

Your son is lucky too! He has an insightful, compassionate and intuative Mom.

Thanks for bringing me to tears again! (good tears!)

Jun 18, 2007 02:48 PM
Midori Miller
Talk 2 Midori, LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals
Ahhh Joan-I can always count on you for support and kinds words.  I am sorry about the tears but lately these mushy things have been heavy on my mind.  Thank you for reading....I appreciate you lots.
Jun 18, 2007 03:53 PM