The Death of a WeBlog

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The Death of a WeBlog

It is really of no surprise. The old gal had been sick for a long time. Most of us didn't even realize she was dying. And, some of the agents that linger there still don't know she is dead. My eulogy is premature for those who are hanging on to what once was.  But, dead she is.

I remember like it was yesterday when I discovered this rich woman full of life. Being old myself, I refer to the grand old dame as a woman. The way a sailor refers to his boat. It may be sexist of me but that's just the way I see it. She was so full of life and sprite. She would consol you when you were depressed and correct you when you were wrong. She did all in a gentle touch and with peer pressure when needed. I would visit her every day two, three, four times just to read the trade information.

Cutting Edge is what I called it. There were people who were gathered to help each other better themselves in the ever changing business environment. The blog was full of contributors of information that that dealt directly with the real estate industry and they would explain it all for free. It is the place where I learned about Voice over Internet, Search Engine Optimization, making a video, editing pictures, changes to loan qualifications and government programs. I would be the first to know about scams and new technology that would help me do my job better. But, yet it was much more than that.

It was a place where agents gathered to tell of their day. They shared so much of themselves that you felt like you knew them. It was almost like a cyber Cheers, that television sitcom tavern, where everyone knows your name. We laughed - like when someone sent a link that claimed to provide video and location of your spouse when you typed in the telephone number (the guy and gal were in a hot tub together) and cried together whenever someone lost a deal or more important a real family member. We learned from each other and we could be ourselves with people, friends that we had never met, but wanted to share a smile or give a hug. Yes, we had our little spats where one or two would not play well with the others. But, like I said it was kind of like a cyber family. And what family doesn't have its trials and tribulations?  

So, you want to know how she died. Of course you do. You, like me care. You see it didn't just happen overnight. There was no horrible accident. It was nothing that should have caused the death. But, (IMHO) it did. What? What was it? It was something that has been seen more and more here at Active Rain. It was POLITICS. First, it was just one or two comments in someone's post regarding how it was this one or that one to blame for this problem or another. Those became more frequent and even become heated between friends. No one likes to see their team blamed and when that happens there will be a response. I mean fair is fair and both sides have a right to express a more full and accurate description of how something came to be.

That's how it started. Then soon someone would post a very one side view of the world and that would lead to a full blown argument over who did what to whom and how each is wrong. Next, there would be the insulting war of words from some of the strap hangers. We all know you can't put the Genie back in the bottle once he is out. Just can't be done. A kind hearted fellow blogger would try and bring into light the small writing in the Bible about the taming of the tongue and how such a small thing can steer a big ship. So you know RELIGION is the next shoe to fall in this death.

Soon, all those great contributors have left. Packed it up and left. They had moved on to their own personal blog or can be found here at Active Rain. The poor old dame is left without any new information and the party lines have all been drawn.  And so, it is with a heavy heart that I bid her farewell.

Comments (30)

Thomas Johnson
RE/MAX TOP - Houston, TX
SRES, Green

The premier multi contributor RE blog, has every comment moderated.    Greg Swann moderates hundreds on comments daily. A lesson for us all.  The blog is your living room; don't let guests tear it up.

Oct 12, 2009 02:53 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I don't like moderated blogs (it flies in the face of free speech), however, you can have community standards and let people's standards enforce standards (if you don't like someone don't comment or read). 

YOu can never get Politics out of it, but try and post in the right places.  We have lots of channels and groups.

Oct 12, 2009 03:18 AM
Bill Gillhespy
16 Sunview Blvd - Fort Myers Beach, FL
Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos

Hi Greg,  Many of us feel free to share a point about which we feel great passion.  It is also necessary to allow others that same right.

Oct 12, 2009 04:03 AM
Gary Davies
Remax - Chilliwack, BC

Hi Gregory, I think the things that you mention are the built in handicaps of the internet itself.  Yes, it's nice to have a relationship with people that never have bad breath and are always sympathetic (at least some of them :)), but it doesn't give  you much practice in living life with actual people, and how to interact with's kind of a "substitute" for that.  And unlike real life, it's possilbe to take a position, or to say nasty things and be very impolite, without ever having to deal with the consequences of  Good post, have a great day!

Oct 12, 2009 04:03 AM
Diane Schubach
Laffey Fine Homes - Port Washington, NY

I guess the fact that we are discussing the death of blogging on a blog proves that there is life in the old gal yet. Blogging is no different from any other kind of social interaction in that there are those that interact in a positive way and those that don't. People have not stopped talking to each other on the phone or having meetings because of rude or irrelevant comments. I'm actually surprised at how much valuable content is available on blogs considering that people can be anonymous and there are fewer repurcussions on the net than in person or on the phone. I think the fact that we are interjecting politics and other topics into the mix just proves that we are getting to know each other better, and you don't talk business all the time even with strictly business associates.

Like Mark Twain said, "the rumors of my death have been greatly exaggerated." See you on Active Rain!

Oct 12, 2009 04:23 AM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Thanks Greg.  I get it.  I agree.

Oct 12, 2009 04:47 AM
Pat & Wayne Harriman
Harriman Real Estate, LLC (203) 672-4499 - Wallingford, CT
Broker/Owners, Wallingford CT Real Estate

If "the old gal" could speak for herself, I'm sure she would reply as Mark Twain replied when the New York Journal reported his demise: "The reports of my death have been greatly exaggerated."

While I agree that infusion of politics and religion into a blog can be distracting and pull the focus off target, it's a fact of life and very difficult to separate them. Sometimes the discussion can become heated due to the passionate nature of the subject and the people involved, but usually cooler heads prevail and the comment thread returns to normal. The infinitely diverse nature of the denizens of the Interwebs will always bring out differences of opinion and intense debate, but I think that same diversity will also be what gives the blog the life to continue on.

So, take heart in the fact that the great contributors are still here; the unselfish assistance of those who know more than we do is still available; and the laughter and tears we so identify with are still echoing throughout the hallowed halls of the Rain. I think it will take more - a LOT more - than some ill-mannered commenters to take the life out of the old gal. She lives, she breathes, and will continue to do so, as long as there is value to be found in the content and good souls willing to deliver it.

Oct 12, 2009 04:56 AM
Andrew Jones
Horizon Pacific Realty - Los Angeles, CA
LA Beach Cities Homes 310-399-3740

Hi Gregory,

Most basic things that people need to live their lives like food, health care and utilities are inherently political. Everybody needs them and basic decisions are going to be made by those in power which greatly affect how those goods are distributed. 

For most people, this is especially true of real estate. Buying a home is probably the single greatest single contributing factor to a family's quality of life for the ten or twenty years that they own the home. Even more importantly for us as agents, the process of buying that home is probably the most important financial decision that our client's will ever have to make.

We absolutely shouldn't burden or clients with politics when they are simply trying to survive in the world as it is. It's both professionally foolish and doesn't serve the needs of our clients. However when it comes to us, discussing these issues professionally is not only germaine it's essential. If we don't ask these uncomfortable questions of each other, we're making the same mistake that the loan community seems to have made. Taking the money and not asking questions.

There's a lot going on right now and we could use your voice.

Oct 12, 2009 05:33 AM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX

Great post, I just wrote one myself about how out of control the behavior has become because of an opinion or two. Nice work and you are so right that when it comes to commenting lets try and think before opening our mouths and give a knee jerk reaction!

Oct 12, 2009 05:44 AM
Martin Kalisker
Natick, MA
Real Estate Ethics & Dispute Resolutikn

If the stated goal of AR is to promote industry awareness and real estate advice for the general public, all built around a forum of professionals discussing their "trade", then I believe that AR should be somehow moderated for better content.  I too find it distressing to see "blog parties" and endless, meaningless, rants and rages on subjects so remotely distant from the subject of real estate, that I wonder which blog site I landed on.

Politics, religion and hate are three areas that don't have a place on Active Rain.  I'm probably as guilty as others on the politics piece.  But I truely feel that if the average "joe" was better informed about how politics and economics work, then we'd all see much more clearly how the actions of past, current and future politiicians and legislators impact our markets, our futures and our society.

Oct 12, 2009 06:06 AM
Kathy Opatka
Serving Ocean City, MD, & The Delaware Beaches


The old adage "If you don't have something nice to say,...." certainly holds true in blogworld. We just need to agree to disagree.... and be nice!

Kathy Opatka

Oct 12, 2009 07:35 AM
John DL Arendsen
CREST "BACKYARD' HOMES, ON THE LEVEL General & Manufactured Home Contractor, TAG Real Estate Sales & Investments - Leucadia, CA
Crest Backyard Homes "ADU" dealer & RE Developer

Ah, but alas,a whole new genre is a mist on the horizon. Look for a paradigm shift in the blogging world soon. Old school is too many words. New shcool is loaded with action and video. Coming soon to a theater near you.

Oct 12, 2009 09:15 AM
Eric Ekovich
Builders Direct Online .com - Concord, NC

I still learn a lot from blogs and enjoy getting insight from other people.  In a professional forum like active rain, I do not see room for personal attacks, but different points of view allow us to walk a mile in someone elses shoes.

...and of course their is the SEO technique of link baiting.

Oct 12, 2009 10:12 AM
Gregory Bain
Mezzina Real Estate & Insurance - Little Egg Harbor, NJ
For Homes on the Jersey Shore

WoW! Thanks all for your comments. I posted this last night, went to sleep and ran out to Philadelphia this morning to see a relative. My smart phone kept alerting me about feedback, but I really could not pick up and read while driving and then in the company of my family member. I just got home and I am overwhelmed with the response I've gotten with this blog. I want to read and respond to each and every one of you. But, now I must run out again to see someone in the hospital.

I love Active Rain. Thanks. I will be back to respond to each of you.

Oct 12, 2009 11:15 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

The sad thing is when we cannot share opinions or ideas without someone getting mad. How can we learn, or ever look at the other side, if we don't listen to what others have to say? I kind of enjoy a lively debate, as long as it doesn't lead to name-calling.

But, alas, opinions can divide families and friends. I had a friend with whom I had corresponded for about 6 years, but our politics put an end to it, even though I bit my tongue (fingers?) when she rhapsodized about her candidate.I somehow knew that to disagree would be to cause a problem.

But...staying quiet wasn't good enough. The fact that I didn't jump in and agree made her realize that we supported different candidates, so she decided she couldn't talk to me any more.

Such is life. Guess she wasn't much of a friend.

Oct 12, 2009 06:44 PM

Sorry to see the weblogs passing. The bell will soon be tolling for Twitter and Facebook. Who knows what Phoenix will arise to be the next big thing.

Oct 12, 2009 11:56 PM
Dana Hollish Hill
Hollish Hill Group, JPAR Stellar Living - Bethesda, MD
REALTOR * Broker * Coach

I think she may have a little life left in her.

Thanks for the insightful and thoughtful post.


Oct 13, 2009 02:52 AM
Roxy Perry
US Preferred Realty - Casa Grande, AZ

I think Blogging has it's good and it's bad.  We all learn from it.  AR is awesome, sometimes even a bit of drama!


Thanks for your honesty!

Oct 13, 2009 11:38 AM
Mark Velasco
West Shores Realty - Whittier, CA
Top Producing Broker Associate

Hi Greg. Maybe I missed something. However, what happened?  Were you two a Blog pair?

Oct 15, 2009 12:22 PM
Jason Burkholder
Weichert, Realtors - Welcome Home - Lancaster, PA
Associate Broker, Realtor, e-Pro, CMS

i agree, industry specific alone is not enough but politics and the like have no place in a medium such as this if we are truly here for professional development

Oct 16, 2009 07:49 AM