My master mind group is reading and discussing Steven Covey`s book, The Habits of Highly Effective People. While running in River Park recently, I was listening to the audio book on my ipod, and really enjoyed Covey`s piece on Love. (My mother always said, ``Love is a decision``. She was saying the same thing as Convey, with fewer words.)
Covey tells the story of a friend who claims to have fallen out of love with his wife.
``My friend, love is a verb. Love-the feeling-is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her.
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Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others. even for people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.``