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Death, My Favorite Motivational Speaker

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Home Stager with Reinventing Space

Angel of DeathInstead of sitting in some auditorium, or reading a certain book, my inspirational speaker has been a different fellow.  You may at first think this post odd being categorized under Business Tips and Planning, but please read on...

My brother passed away on October 5th after a 1 1/2 battle with prostate cancer.  For those of us that have lost a loved one (I have now lost both of my siblings and my Mom,) part of the mourning process is self reflective.  We take heed of our own lives - We ponder our own self worth, things we've accomplished, things we have not, as well as life's pleasures and sorrows.

Life is well life - No pity party here.  If you go through it thinking "Why Me?" "I Should of...,"  "Well...That's because..." - You know what?  It will just pass you by.

So let's reflect on that in terms on how we look at ourselves within  our businesses.  We are all independent business owners; it's a part of our self make up, our life's elevator speech. And how COOL is that?  We determine our own business destiny.  We get to plan our path - With that, let me share with you things I've learned from my favorite motivational speaker - Death.

He's a bare bones kind of guy.  He helps you make finalized plans, his directional message launches lessons smack into your psyche - No warm and fuzzy accolades or sayings from this speaker.

When my Mom passed away in '98, I sat intently listening to her eulogy and absorbed her wonderful life story balanced with a perfect mix of family, work, play and volunteerism. Toward the end of her life, although afflicted with a dire disease, she continued to live life at full speed - Golfing while Terminal.  It took her death to motivate me to act on my new career path.  There sitting in a drawer for three years was information on specialty training in Interior Redesign & Home Staging.  There is sat in that drawer -Waiting for me to say the cost was worth the educational results, waiting for me to say I had the time to juggle kids/ husband with work, waiting for me to devote myself to building a business. Within 6 months of her death, I had started a new business, and taken that training - Moving full speed into a career I felt passionate about.  Now going on 11 years, I just love my job.  So what did Death teach me? Do not wait for some revelation to be motivated to move on a passion - Just Do It!

So now with the passing of my brother,  I reflected on what fills my day.   Made up of only so many hours, how do you want to spend it?   Time management is a huge issue with many business owners. How wonderful that we get to dictate how each of our days is spent? But how easy is it to let that control go?  The key here is to create that perfect recipe of success - To balance it correctly, make room for that perfect harmony of family - work - play.   Create that list of what is important to you within those areas to make your day fulfilled - Are you busy Twittering, when you could be taking a beautiful fall walk with your spouse/child/self instead? Can you give yourself a raise, which will allow you to spend more time doing a hobby, or taking a class? Can you hire a service/person to free up tasks you dislike? Evaluate your hours spent during the day and how that's working in terms that perfect recipe for success.

Pretty great speaker isn't he?

Jerry Murphy, CRS, SRES
Long Realty West Valley - Anthem, AZ
Anthem, Phoenix, and Scottsdale AZ Real Estate
Very well said Julea. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. My wife was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma back in 2001. I try to get her to look at life as you have stated here, but I guess it's up to the person themselves to dictate their own motivations. Keep on keepin' on and best of luck to you in the future.
Oct 21, 2009 05:08 AM
Coleen DeGroff
Coldwell Banker M.M. Parrish Realtors - Gainesville, FL
Haile Plantation Real Estate - Gainesville FL

Julea - Sorry to hear of the passing of your brother and your mom.

 

Unfortunately, death has been a motivational speaker for me as well....my dad died when he was 57 (probably from some chemicals he worked with....he was a tool and die maker).....my mom died when she was 70 (smoking)....other people close to me as well, some expected (my grandmothers)....some not (high school friend who committed suicide when he was a senior)....

 

It's amazing the clarity of vision that comes from living through the deaths of those you have loved.  For me it brought into VERY sharp focus that, as far as we know, this is our only time around....so if there is something you want to do with your life, you'd best get off your butt and DO IT.

 

Sending you blessings and wishing you strength and peace as you get through this difficult time.

Oct 21, 2009 05:13 AM
Claude Cross
Homes By Cross, Inc. - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte NC Homes For Sale

Julea -  I empathize with your loss. The loss of a family member raises many profound questions. Your post is a nice stepping stone and very well written. I lost my brother last year. I think of him often.Taking your message literally, I'm off for my 4 mile walk. The weather is nice outside. Hoping the sun is shining there

Oct 21, 2009 05:14 AM
Mick Michaud
Distinctly Texas Lifestyle Properties, LLC Office:682/498-3107 - Granbury, TX
Your Texas Lifestyle is Here!

Death is motivation only to those with the wisdom and strength to look inward without blinking. Interesting post.  Sorry for the loss of your brother, and family.

Oct 21, 2009 05:17 AM
Maureen Bray Portland OR Home Stager ~ Room Solutions Staging
Room Solutions Staging, Portland OR - Portland, OR
"Staging Consultations that Sell Portland Homes"

Julea ~ I'm sorry to hear of your brother's passing.  I can relate to your story as I've also lost several family members very suddenly, and each time it's reinforced the lesson that we have today, and we need to make the most of it.  Being grateful for each day is now part of my routine (I'm a cancer survivor too) and like you, I'm eternally grateful that I'm doing the work that I love and helping my clients along the way. 

Oct 21, 2009 07:58 AM
Kim Dillon
Creative Eye Home Staging - West Chester, PA
One of those posts that smack you in the face with reality. Thanks for being brave enough to share. Each time I lose a loved one, I learn something new.
Oct 21, 2009 12:58 PM
Terrylynn Fisher
Dudum Real Estate Group - BuyStageSell.com - Walnut Creek, CA
HAFA Certified, EcoBroker, CRS, CSP Realtor, Etc.
Life is a series of lessons from the time we start out crying, crawling, walking, running and it never stops and the time we take reflecting is the richness that makes up the rest of our lives. Thanks for our inspiring post and how you took these two events and turned them into inspiration for yourself and for us. Blessings, Terrylynn
Oct 21, 2009 07:39 PM
Michele Hess
Simply Staged Inc. - Rockford, IL
Home Stager Rockford - Simply Staged Inc
Very sorry to learn of the death of your brother Julea. The fact that you have turned such a loss into a learning experience is an inspiration as well. Thank you for reminding all of us to seize the moment, set priorities and live our best life. May the memories of your brother comfort you in this time of sorrow. Thank you for the inspiraiton this morning - what a wonderful way to begin the day!
Oct 21, 2009 11:19 PM
Kathy Nielsen
http://atlantahomestaging.net - Marietta, GA
Atlanta Georgia Home Stager

Julea - I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your brother.  I lost my brother to cancer as well.  My heart goes out to you. 

I too want to thank you for having written this post. Your points are extremely valid and are important.  

Kathy

Oct 21, 2009 11:53 PM
Julea Joseph
Reinventing Space - Chicago, IL
Julea Joseph House Stager - Reinventing Space
Thank you fo all the kind thoughts - Every day should be a celebration!
Oct 22, 2009 12:22 AM
Kathleen Garvey
HomeSmart Cherry Creek - Denver - Denver, CO
Denver's Neighborhood Expert - Listings & Sales
Hi Julea, so sorry to hear of your brother's passing. Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts. Yes, death is a powerful speaker as are serious illnesses. Reflection upon our life and days is something I feel everyone should be doing on a regular basis...yet many need to the push of a louder voice to make the steps for change. Each day counts!! : ) Much peace to you and your family. }{{Julea}}}
Oct 22, 2009 12:41 AM
Lina OL
Deluxe Home Staging & Design - Northbrook, IL
Julea thanks for putting things into perspective when things seem to get overwhelming and we start to lose sight of what's important in life! I'm very sorry to hear about your brother; I can't imagine going through that :(
Oct 22, 2009 02:10 AM
Kate Paris
First Class Waterfront Properties, LLC - Acquisitions and Divestitures - Orlando, FL
Broker: Residential - Commercial - Hotels
Julea, I am so sorry to hear of your loss; today is the third anniversary of my brother's death. He too was a no-nonsense kind of guy - so full of life and he had the most wicked sense of humor. The man wouldn't stop until he had you laughing at yourself! A toast to brothers everywhere. Catherine
Oct 22, 2009 07:10 AM
Monica Stanciu
Staged 2 Sell Solutions Inc. - Markham, ON
Staged 2 Sell Solutions, Markham, ON

Julea, thanks for this post. It is death indeed that makes us reflect more on how we live our lives. Live each day at the fullest, you never know what tomorrow brings. Thank you for making me think and appreciate what I have

I am so sorry for your loss. May God rest Him in Peace!

Oct 23, 2009 02:21 AM
Wanda Richards
Shows Great Home Staging and Web Solutions - Roanoke, VA
Shows Great Home Staging
Julea - thanks for putting things into prespective for us. A great reminder for all of us. I am so sorry for your loss.
Oct 23, 2009 11:07 AM
Margaret Gehr
Chicagoland Home Staging LLC - Naperville, IL
Beautiful said Julia..you know I love you. Margaret
Oct 23, 2009 01:04 PM
Cathy Lee
CL Design Services Home Staging - Danville, CA
ASP, IAHSP, RESA Danville, CA

Julea-you've reminded me of the sweetness in life! I am so very sorry for your loss. May you and your family soon feel the peace your brother now has.  

Oct 23, 2009 04:37 PM