Do you have "Split Personality Disorder"? (online)

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Turn-Key Properties LLC, Missouri and Kansas Real Estate

Dissociative identity disorder or split personality disorder is a psychaiatric condition defined as on person having at least two separate personalities that take control of the persons behavior.

You may have created a two headed monster?

I recently asked a real estate professional to join me on FaceBook, he replied that he does not add other Realtors to his Facebook profile but he does have another facebook profile.

I found that interesting and then I found that many people keep both a professional and a personal profile.

I admit, I liked Facebook a lot better when it was just friends and family, but it has been a great resource for networking with other real estate professionals, some clients and many real estate investors.

So if you maintain two identities, one for just friends and the one for just clients; how do you possibly separate the two. Are you pretending to be something your not in your professional profile? How can you possibly separate the two if your friends are also your clients?

I maintain several websites, numerous blogs and dozens of social networking profiles. The last thing I want is to try to remember which ones I can be genuine in and which ones I have to pretend to be someone else.

In this day of technology nearly anyone you meet and intend to do business with will eventually "Google" your name, will they find more than one of you?

Here; let me Google that for you;

I proudly proclaim my beliefs, my values, my patriotism and sometimes my politics! I am me, not a cleaned up version of me... Just me; and I am proud of who and what I am. If you don't like me then I will not pretend to be someone else to impress you.

If you try to be someone other than who you are, I will probably not be very impressed with either of you!




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Cathy Vicsik
RE\MAX 100 - Granger, IN

Truth be told, it's another world out there from a scant 2 -3 years ago. Social networking was just a buzz-word, and FaceBook was trying to overtake! Now, one can get CE credit for taking social networking classes, and you're considered 'underwhelming' if you can't have conversation about who you 'friended' or 'tweeted' recently. Is it a good thing?? Well---yes it is.  There is little difference (in our lives today) between when REALTORS began using cell phones and computerized MLS/emails, to today's media loving clients and general population. My thoughts are simple--if you wouldn't say it "live" on a cell phone to a client, why in the world would you put it 'live' on the internet? It's the same thing, except everybody is 'allowed' to read it!  IMHO--- <g>

Nov 10, 2009 01:04 AM #9
Gregg Schoh
Montana Land Company, Flathead Valley Montana - Lakeside, MT

I prefer to use LinkedIn & AR for professional networking.  I do have two FB identities that I've ment to consolidate for some time now and just haven't done it.  The first used my main email address and I soon found myself bombarded with friend requests.  I created another account using the unique address "".  That way everyone that's ever had my email address isn't pestering me to look at pics of their cat!  People that constantly post their boring life on sites like FB & Twitter could get a wakeup call someday when their house is robbed while they are away at some event they've told "the world" they are attending.

Nov 10, 2009 01:06 AM #10
Brenda Caruso
Simply Vegas - Henderson, NV

I have a separate professional FB page, a Fan Page (which people join voluntarily, therefore I am allowed to post important info without being accused of "spamming" them), AND a personal FB page which is just that, personal!  I have photos of my children, husband, dog, family, my home, friends, etc.  Photos that I don't want professional constituents and/or clients to see.  I am not two-faced and act the same in all situations.  I just feel that I deserve privacy, just as everyone does.  I feel the opposite about this issue.... I think everyone should have a personal FB and a professional FB page.  I can easily toggle between the two, post messages on both and respond on both, never getting confused about who I am.

Nov 10, 2009 01:20 AM #11

Seems like a statement of fact most successful realtiors are manic or ADD but wil lnever admit it so having mutliple web faces suits the very nature of successful realtors.

Truth i sif people like Tom Ferry can get people to pay thousands for nothing than there is an audience for every market, and the more ADD one has the more markets one can touch

Nov 10, 2009 01:37 AM #13
Ben Edsall
Turn-Key Properties LLC, Missouri and Kansas Real Estate - Kansas City, MO

I keep my FB pofile private to all but those I approve, I also have a couple of FB business pages.

Turn-Key Properties LLC on Facebook

Bates County Real Estate on Facebook

I don't have many secrets.

Nov 10, 2009 01:38 AM #14
Charlotte Stilwell
Century 21 Hardee Team Realty - Magnolia, TX

I think he just didn't want his contacts to see other Realtors - he wanted to be the only one.


Me?  I don't have time to maintain two facebook sites!  I'd never get anything done!!  :)

But seriously, I'm with you.  I am who I am and that doesn't change when I'm being mom, friend, or Realtor.

Nov 10, 2009 02:02 AM #15
Jackie Cross
Real Living All Florida Realty - Port St Lucie, FL

I have found that once the other realtors found my personal facebook page and asked to join that I was not getting what I wanted from my friends and family.  I t00 would rather keep business related contacts seperate.

Nov 10, 2009 02:07 AM #16
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

We are who we are.  My friends all know what I do for a living and talking about real estate is naturally without being pushy.  I keep a personal page, which anyone can find, and I am making a Fan Page.

Nov 10, 2009 02:13 AM #17
Linda Landry
HomeSmart Realty - Tucson, AZ

Always be true to yourself and present as genuine whether it be personal or business.

Nov 10, 2009 02:45 AM #18
Bob Willis
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Orange, CA
Orange County & L.A. County Real Estate Agent

I also have a personal page and a Facebook fan business page.  Yes, they are separate.  I generally don't become Facebook "Friends" with other realtors, or with clients, unless they are truly real friends.  If they are merely acquaintances or business associates, I do not invite them into my Facebook home, just as I would not invite them into my actual home.  Anybody can become a fan of my Facebook business page, but you really have to be a special friend or family member in order to be a "friend" on my Facebook page.  I don't write a lot about real estate on my Facebook page.  However, my Facebook business page is all real estate and community related.

Simply put, if you are someone I would not invite into my home, you are someone I would not invite to become my Facebook "friend". 

Connections with other real estate agents is better done by making them "Associates" on Active Rain.  Other business connections can be made on LinkedIn.

So, call me "two-faced" if you want.  I do indeed separate personal from business.  I am not going to invite the entire world to my family reunion, and I am not going to invite everyone to become my Facebook "friend".

Nov 10, 2009 03:00 AM #19
Tamara Perlman
Referral Network Inc. - Truckee, CA

I know there are agents out there who keep multiple websites to market to several "niches".  I've heard that it is a good thing to have both personal and fan page for Facebook, but I agree with some of the other comments... it's so hard to keep up.  We spend all this time connecting with hundreds or thousands of people online and have no time left for face to face connections!

Nov 10, 2009 03:21 AM #20
Sandy McAlpine
Search Lake Norman Homes For Sale - Lake Norman NC

GREAT comments. I don't see the point in having a professional and personal online social networking. If you are "social networking" in the first place, then your personal side must come through to establish a connection. And why would anyone friend just a business profile that sends out spam links?

Nov 10, 2009 03:55 AM #21
Ty Lacroix
Envelope Real Estate Brokerage Inc - London, ON

Someone once said "I AM WHAT I AM" mmmmh , I can see the pros and cons, I for one have only one identity


Nov 10, 2009 04:08 AM #22
Barb Christensen

Yeah with all the networking now days and the time management issues WHY would anyone want to maintain 2 identities anywhere? Well maybe they shouldn't be useing social networking sites but rather like you metioned LinkedIn and wow Active Rain Maybe!

Nov 10, 2009 07:13 AM #23
"The Lovely Wife" (Broker Bryantnulls Wife) The One And Only TLW.
President-Tutas Towne Realty, Inc. - Kissimmee, FL


On Google there are millions of lovely wives. Nailing me down would be hard. I like that and I like the idea that perhaps I have an identity crisis. A few idenity problems is just tapping the surface when it comes to me :)


Nov 10, 2009 07:59 AM #24
Lee & Pamela St. Peter
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices YSU Realty: (919) 645-2522 - Raleigh, NC
Making Connections to Success in Real Estate

Ben, there is going to be so much weeding out over this whole social networking scene in the months and years to come.  Some are going to realize that just like any social scene there are just plain rules of etiquette that come into play.  Those that honestly believe they can hide behind this account or that account are going to be very stunned when they realize it all comes out as you say in google... or bing, or whatever search engine you choose to use.  So I guess the best advise is blog/tweet/friend wisely.

Nov 10, 2009 08:07 AM #25
Marian Pierre-Louis
Fieldstone Historic Research - Medway, MA
Metrowest Boston

This is a really good question and one that I am still trying to answer personally.

Nov 10, 2009 01:47 PM #26
Morgan Mason
The Outer Banks Real Estate Company LLC - Southern Shores, NC
Outer Banks Beach Houses for Sale

I agree with those who believe that there is a difference between truly personal and business.  A fan page is a good solution.  One need not be two different "people" just different sides of the same person.  To me it is like appropriate attire.  I wear "business clothes" to work.and "casual" outfits when not working.  Does this make me a split personality?  No, just a professional doing her job properly when working and relaxing when "off the clock".  Now I admit that we all work most of the time but for me, casual wear will never be the standard during the work day.  I am most comfortable with this arrangement.

Thanks for the topic.  Good one!

Nov 10, 2009 03:14 PM #27
Mike Henderson
Your complete source for buying HUD homes - Littleton, CO
HUD Home Hub - 303-949-5848

Be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.

Nov 10, 2009 03:31 PM #28

i have DID, or MPD or whatever you guys know it as, and i have one facebook page. why have two? anyway my friends know which alter i am by the language i use, and the way i write. people who pretend to have the disorder are crazy. my ex friend once made fourteen facebook pages and tricked everyone at school she had the disease, she was obviously faking, and when i told her how insulted i was she was like WTF, stop copying my idea, i'm pretending to have the disease. i don't know what to do about her, everysingle time she pretends to have it, i get so annoyed, and she doesn't believe me "because i dont have different fcebk pges 4 my alters" i mean omg she is so infuriating @times. any way yeahhhh. buhbye now

Nov 30, 2009 02:23 AM #29
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