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4 Things You Cannot Recover In Life

By George & Arlene Paukert

Education & Training with Road to Wealth, Inc.

November 24, 2009 04:41 AM

Last week I was going through some files on George's computer and found this very inspirational message. I don't know where George found it - maybe one of his Internet pen pals sent it to him. Anyway, I felt it is just so true that I wanted to share it with all of you.

Here are the four things you cannot recover in life ...

1. The Stone ................... after it's thrown,

2. The Word .................... after it's said,

3. The Occasion ................ after it's missed,

4. The Time .................... after it's gone.

Let's make sure we never do an unkind act or say an unkind word to anyone else. Once it's done, it's done. You can't take it back. You may say, "I'm sorry," and the person may accept your apology, but you can be assured the hurt will always stay with them.

Don't miss any occasion - whether it's personal or business. Never miss an opportunity to show someone how much you care and never miss the chance to say "I love you."

And if it's business, don't let an opportunity pass you by where you have the chance to increase your present business or start a new one. The one thing you don't ever want to ask is "What might have been?"

Spend as much time as you can with family and friends. None of us knows how much time we have in this world, so use your time wisely.

Arlene Paukert
"Mrs. Real Estate"
Road to Wealth Inc.
Phone: 561-883-2222
E-Mail: mrrealestate@roadtowealth.com

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Tamara Perlman

Referral Network Inc. - Truckee, CA

Arlene-- The 4 things you cannot recover are beautiful guidelines to live by. And Dan's poem above is an inspiration. Thank you. And a wonderful Thanksgiving to all.

Nov 25, 2009 02:49 AM

Ron and Alexandra Seigel

Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA

Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Arlene and George,

Thanks for the very inspiring message, and thank you Dan for the poem. As the Dalai Lama says, Be Kind Kind whenever possible, It is Aways Possible. Happy Thanksgiving to all.

Nov 25, 2009 02:53 AM

Nancy McNamee

Keller Williams Realty - Roseville, CA

Great post, thanks. Hope everyone has TIME to be with Family and Friends on Thanksgiving.

Nov 25, 2009 03:53 AM

Todd Clark - Retired

eXp Realty LLC - Tigard, OR

Principle Broker Oregon

Arlene, you are a good friend and I hope you know that! I also hope you know my family loves you and is always thinking of you. I know yesterday was a tough birthday for you, but I still hope you made the most of it with your friends.

I talk to my dad everyday on the phone because as you know 20 years ago we almost lost him and I never wanted to regret saying I wish I had talked to him one more time.

Todd Clark - www.LivingBeaverton.com

Nov 25, 2009 04:50 AM

Steve Andrascik

Lake Mead Area Realty - Boulder City, NV

Thanks for the inspirational post. All too often we take the normal for granted.....that is until we don't have the normal anymore. This is true whether it be a person or situation.

Boulder City Steve

Nov 25, 2009 05:38 AM

Bill Gillhespy

16 Sunview Blvd - Fort Myers Beach, FL

Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos

Hi George, Pretty inspirational stuff ! I also remember a saying related to yours: " A word, unlike an arrow shot, cannot be taken back!" Have a terrific Thanksgiving !

Nov 25, 2009 06:41 AM

Ty Lacroix

Envelope Real Estate Brokerage Inc - London, ON

Arlene, well put and words to remind us that life is too short

Nov 25, 2009 08:23 AM

Karen Anne Stone

New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX

Fort Worth Real Estate

Something else you cannot recover in life... is Love. Once you have lost it... really lost it... it never returns. While you have it... life's too short. Once you've lost it... life is way too long.

Nov 25, 2009 08:56 AM

Angela Penkin

RE/MAX Plus - Rochester, NY

Time is so precious. This is a nice reminder, thanks so much. Happy Thanksgiving.

Nov 25, 2009 03:01 PM

Marte Cliff

Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID

Your real estate writer

Thanks for your inspirational message. It's something we all need to remember when we get angry or upset - or "too busy."

Nov 25, 2009 07:10 PM

Lyn Sims

Schaumburg, IL

Real Estate Broker Retired

Arlene: Great advice and thanks for the reminder. I was going to say 'time' is the one thing that most people say they regret, not spending enough quality time with a person before they are gone.

Nov 27, 2009 02:17 AM

George & Arlene Paukert

Road to Wealth, Inc. - West Palm Beach, FL

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for all the positive comments on this post. Most of you felt that time was the most important thing you can't get back - and it is very important. Believe me, I know. Even though George and I spent nearly all of our time together, I still wish we had even MORE time together - more fun time and less business time.

Maybe love is even more important - especially telling the ones you love that you really do love them. Sometimes we feel awkward telling those we love how much we care. But it's so important - you never want to regret not having said "I love you" when it's too late.

George and I never missed saying "I love you" to each every day - and if one of us did something extra nice for the other, that meant an extra "I love you." Now that he's gone I'm happy and grateful we had this little ritual.

Yes, life IS too short ... so make the most of it while you can.

Nov 27, 2009 03:34 AM

George & Arlene Paukert

Road to Wealth, Inc. - West Palm Beach, FL

I wanted to post a separate message in response to Dan's poem, "The Dash" (above) - especially the following line ...

'What matters is how we live and love - And how we spend our dash'

It's so very true. What counts is how we spend our lives and how we contribute to other people's lives.

This really came home to me when I sent out the message about George being very ill and then about his passing. Not only Active Rainers, but our newsletter subscribers and our customers sent me a flood of emails about how much George impacted their lives. I am very grateful to those who responded to the message that George was gravely ill because I was able to read those emails to him before he passed away. And, although he couldn't speak, I know he was able to hear every word.

It's just a shame that too many people don't let others know the positive things we affected in their lives - while they could still appreciate it. We're all guilty of this - we get busy and "forget" to thank those who impacted our life the most. I was amazed at the outpouring ... mostly from people we never met face-to-face. And I'll always be thankful they let me know how much they loved and respected George.

So, make sure everything you do will make you proud of your "Dash." I'm certainly very proud of George's "Dash."

I'm working on a memorial website for George where I will post those messages. I will let you all know when georgepaukert.com is ready to go live. (This week has been a very emotional time so I haven't been able to sit down and work on it .) And, if you have a special message for George, send it to me or post it here and I will make sure it's posted on the site.

Nov 27, 2009 04:06 AM

Kathy Booth, Setting the Stage

Setting the Stage - Newmarket, ON

Home Staging and ReDesign Professional

Very wise and inspirational words! Thank you.

Nov 27, 2009 04:58 AM

Jirius Isaac

Isaac Real Estate &TriStar Mortgage - Kenmore, WA

Real Estate & loans in Kenmore, WA

Thanks for the inspirational words. We have so much to be thankful for, especially when it seems like all is lost.

Nov 27, 2009 10:00 AM

Beverly of Bev & Bob Meaux

Keller Williams Suburban Realty - West Orange, NJ

Where Buying & Selling Works

Well said...in these times when things are thrown away with a whim, these are precious indeed.

Dec 04, 2009 10:30 AM

Joy Carter & Jeff Booker Brother and Sister Team

Keller Williams Parkland/Coral Springs Realty-GreatFloridaHomes Team - Coral Springs, FL

Trust Your Family's Move To Our Expertise!

What I have learned with age, (thank goodness), is to keep my thoughts to myself when I'm hurt or mad. I have to admit that this is REALLY HARD TO DO, but the end result is so much better.

The last 5 years I write it down, keep it in Draft form and re-read it the next day. This has much better results in the long run compared to when I was much younger and just blurted or screamed out my feelings or thoughts (of which I'm sure no one cared or appreciated). I so wish I could take back the hurt I caused. At least I can do a better job going forward.

I was re-reading The Secret today. Our thoughts have so much power. It's Important to use this power wisely. Thank you for a GREAT Reminder! Joy

Dec 05, 2009 09:32 AM

Dana Devine

Charles Rutenberg Realty - Apollo Beach, FL

this really touched me...my mom just passed

Dec 16, 2009 12:21 AM

George & Arlene Paukert

Road to Wealth, Inc. - West Palm Beach, FL

Thanks for your comments.

Joy, that's an excellent tip. We all need to consider doing this. I just watched Joel Osteen (as I do every Sunday morning) and this is just what he was talking about. Getting "even" with someone who may have hurt you doesn't pay - you just repay evil with evil. Vengeance should belong only to the Lord. I agree - I, too, learned the hard way many years ago.

Dana, my sincere condolences. When a loved one passes that's the time we realize how important those unrecoverable things are ... words, occassions missed, and especially time spent with them.

Dec 20, 2009 05:30 AM

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