When Your Ego Gets In The Way...

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina

I never understood the celebrity culture of bright lights and silver spoons.  I never understood why a lot of them just faded away.  I do understand that a lot of individuals reached their particular heights of greatness without a silver spoon and worked their behinds off to get there.  But, I never understood why one moment you are great, and the next, you fade away.

Every once in awhile, I write off the cuff and have no clue of what I'm going to say next.  Mark this as once of those every once in awhile's.

As the preliminary fireworks of Independence Day go off in the background of this here part of the U.S.A, it makes me think of every life lived and breathed to make-up our culture, our world, what it is and isn't for that matter.  My neighbors must have plenty of matches because the gunpowder sounds more like a waterfall of loose firearms marching from the sky.  It sounds like God has a Machine Gun:-)  On this 4th of July, it seems we celebrate by blowing up things....

Back though, to whatever point I was trying to make.  While one moment you can be on top of the world, the next you can be a fistful of apparent confusion of what you have to do next to remain where you really want to be.  The answer, at least to me, is to go out there every day and prove yourself...your cause....your creation...all over again. 

Ego tends to get in the way when others tell you how good you are, how important you are, how much you mean to whatever community you deem to be a part of.  You start believing the hype and forget what got you there, I hope what got you there was none other than YOUYou is a big thing with me, not you in particular, but the fact of being yourself, staying yourself, and knowing your role and defining it.

Ok, now I'm off on some pseudo-intellectual/philosophical rampage, yet I do want to drive that point, whatever it may be, Home.  Every once in a great moon, we let our Egos get in the way of our selves...our cause...our creation.  I don't want to ever fade away, no matter how valued I am or am not in the culture I live in.

I could sit here and quote you Mortgage Rates, Products, Programs, Up To Date Information & Fannie Mae Guidelines & Ultra Creative Sales Tools and why I'm the best man (or woman for that matter, I had a ridiculous past ;-) to come to when you need to refinance or purchase a home here in Pa.  I don't because I'm a lousy sales guy.  I kind of am proud of that:-)  Though, truth be told, I'm valuable in much greater ways.  My ego isn't too big, it's not too small, I try to make sure it never gets in the way.

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Sarah Cooper
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Makes me wonder about your past ... but I love that you don't let your ego lead you astray.  Being yourself IS the most important thing!
Jul 04, 2007 09:03 AM #1
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Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
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Hmmm...do I have one of those?  I think the biggest part of RE for me is the moneyless reward at the end when a transaction goes through. Those mean more...I can sleep well that night.  Like Sarah says...self (worth) is the most important thing. Not the false pride stuff...the real one.
Jul 04, 2007 09:19 AM #2
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Joe Long
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Amen
Jul 04, 2007 09:29 AM #3
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Desiree Daniels
RE/MAX Tri County - Robbinsville, NJ

Good for you.   This is a post that alot of people in this industry could benefit from.   You have to be humble ... and the ones that aren't, that gloat, brag and boast as to their status and how god knows the world of real estate just revolves only around them... those are the ones i don't care to do business with.  

Its unfortunate in life that some are born with this "all knowing" knowledge and others have to wait for some "huge" something in their life to adjust their prospective.  

I, like you, know I am okay in my own being .... with out the bright lights and paparazzi.  People have such a misconception of who I am prior to meeting me.   The believe because I have "so much" in a material way and my success in real estate that i have to be an ego maniac.... when in fact I am the opposite.  If my family didn't own and run the franchise I wouldn't even complete a form at the end of the year to my "sales club status"... I do this for my mother and my mother only.  

And that box of plaques, awards, ribbons.. sits in a corner collecting dust.. it's the testimonial letters from my past clients that I display proudly and most cherish.

Okay I think this is offically the longest "comment" i've ever left... sorry for the babble.

Jul 04, 2007 09:30 AM #4
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Wendy Montoya, REALTOR® Broker Associate, 254-315-4906
Towne Adams REALTORS - Waco, TX

Oh, I like your post. The last statement is so profound. It's OK to NOT boast about everything and say how wonderful and great you are. Just tell the truth and do what you do best, the rest will fall into place. People can really feel sincerity in another and I think most want to conduct business with the well grounded, sincere person.

Jul 04, 2007 09:47 AM #5
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Matthew J Blum - (retired from the business)
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HHmmmm What do you think?? Do I have an ego?  I think I am pretty level headed...
Jul 04, 2007 11:50 AM #6
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Jason Sardi
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Sarah - I agree, in the in the end, it is most important.

Woohoo Sally - Not a big fan of that false pride stuff myself.

Joe - I need to stop giving these sermons:-)

Desiree - Babble on..."it's the testimonial letters from my past clients that I display proudly and most cherish" I couldn't of said it any better.  Let them do the talking, let us do the working.  Thanks Desiree.

Wendy - Thank you, you said it well yourself.

Matthew - I think you have an ego amigo, but I also think you are level headed and don't let it (ego) get in the way.  From what I know, you're a lot like me.  Be scared....be very scared:-) Lol.

Jul 04, 2007 12:52 PM #7
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Neal Bloom
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I know that in RE egos always seem to get in the way unless you try to get away from the subject and just concentrate on getting the transaction closed. There are times to make friends and know when to pick your battles. I always pull out the referral letters to speak for my reputation. I am who I am. You can take me or leave me.
Jul 04, 2007 11:28 PM #8
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Jason Sardi
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Amen Neal!  Personally, I'm a fan on concentrating on getting the transaction closed.
Jul 05, 2007 01:26 AM #9
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Matthew J Blum - (retired from the business)
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Jason, You talkin to me?!?! What a freakin attitude!...just kidding.. I think you should have a little something in your step.. but also not be an a@@----
Jul 05, 2007 02:08 AM #10
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Jason Sardi
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Lol @ Matthew.  You need a certain confidence/cockiness for sure, but I'm with you on the other part.
Jul 05, 2007 03:15 AM #11
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Matthew J Blum - (retired from the business)
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Jason,, Thought you might..:-)
Jul 05, 2007 04:23 AM #12
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Thomas Weiss
Thomas R. Weiss - West Palm Beach, FL

Jason, I'm nervous, I think I have an ego now, this isn't good I have a split personality, That's alot of ego's to deal with :0) Man I have issues :0)

All jokes aside good points, There are way too many people that are just to sure of themselves..

Tom Weiss

Jul 05, 2007 05:47 AM #13
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Jason Sardi
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Thomas - Yes indeed.  It is irriating to see, hear, and read some folks blatantly talking down to others and/or who are so full of themselves.
Jul 05, 2007 06:13 AM #14
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Thomas Weiss
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We live in a world where it's hard to tell who really cares, I like your posts they give me alot to think about it keeps my wheels turning.

Thanks

Tom Weiss

Jul 05, 2007 07:09 AM #15
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Thesa Chambers
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people who think it is all about them quickly loose their place in my address book - must be why you are still there - there is not much room for ego in this business - we must believe in ourselves, the service we provide but do so with dignity and respect - that is why I love reading your posts.
Jul 05, 2007 04:08 PM #16
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Jason Sardi
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Tom - That's some flattering stuff, thank you!

Thesa - I appreciate that so very much, for better or worse.  And your contributions are why I'm subscribed to you...

 

Jul 05, 2007 04:11 PM #17
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Rosemary Brooks
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I always tell my son, when the ego get in the way, you've got trouble --- trouble that only you can resolve.  Not my issue!!!
Jul 20, 2007 08:38 AM #18
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Art Lordbock
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That was a bit random but you made your point in the end.
Jul 24, 2007 05:42 PM #19
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