Ever Changing Ourselves

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408

A baby in the cradle, a toddler crawling on the floor, a kid in a kindergarten, a student, a teacher, a father... RiverSame body, different times.

Do we stay the same person? 

Would I today shake hands with me in my terrible teens? Would I today despise myself in my terrible teens? Laugh at myself at my terrible teens?

Heraclitus said "You can't step into the same river twice." It is different water, it is different time, it is different me.

Looking thru the mirror And whether I would or would not have shaken hands with me in my terrible teen, is not important. What important is whether I in my terrible teens would want to shake hands with me today. Would I in my terrible teens see myself today as someone worth shaking hands with? 

Would I in my terrible teens feel ashamed or proud for what I have become...

You do not know what you would see in the mirror of time

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Satar Naghshineh
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I was thinking of this the other day after looking at a picture of myself when I was two years old. One day you are someone's kid and the next, you are some kid's father. Through the years the experiences have differed and behaviors have changed. However, to answer your question, I would have ignored me as I would any middle aged married man. As a teen, I was a wild, wreckless kid. A rebel without a clue! ;)

Jan 26, 2010 03:02 PM #3
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Jenny Kotulak
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Hi Jon - you are in a very thoughtful mood tonight.  Is that a photo of Inna?  I was listening to the song The Cat in the Cradle today and feeling sad how that song can be so true and also sad that Harry Chapin died too young.

"And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me, he'd grown up just like me, my boy was just like me"

Jan 26, 2010 03:06 PM #4
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William J. Archambault, Jr.
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 Jon,

I think I'm pretty much the experienced version of who I was as a teen.

Times an experiences were different. As I watched my kids, friends kids and grand-kids, I can't help thinking I was never that young. I didn't grow up rich but I was extremely privileged! With privilege came responsibility or responsibility brought privilege. I've never figured out which. I was the oldest of 5, Jack, Shirlie and I had one experience, Joe and Tom, 12 and 15 years younger than me had another.

Would I shake my hand? Absolutely!

It's to bad about that river! I'd redo everything and a whole lot I didn't do.

I didn't participate in the treble teens, Jack who was 10 months younger took care of that in our family.

Bill

Jan 26, 2010 04:05 PM #5
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Douglas Lovitt
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If it weren't for my terrible teens I would not appreciate all the people in my life today.

Jan 26, 2010 04:33 PM #6
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Thank God people - teens - can and will change - the thing is some have never survived the teen years - thank God we made it by the Grace of God I stand here today!

Jan 26, 2010 10:23 PM #7
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Hi Jon,

Very reflective post..no I don't feel we stay the same..we grow..make mistakes..learn to love..layers upon layers are built molding us to an ever changing person who is the sum of the total. Love your photos. This post made me feel grateful this morning!

Jan 26, 2010 10:43 PM #8
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Sometimes I look back and remember certain instances and am SO glad that I have moved on and hopefully learned better.

Jan 27, 2010 11:50 AM #9
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In bad taste, I know, this quotin your own poetry, but since I've said it once before - here goes:  You are ok in my book, Jon (daddy - for the uninitated). You'd shake your hand...:-) 

 "I daydream of a single orchid

  White on white;

  I am a cloud

  Then, a child

  Holding a flower

  I watch it wilt

  And then I am

  My own child

 

  They tell me

  He has my eyes.

 

  He drew a picture

  Of an orchid,

  White

  Against white

  Clouds;

  His very first

  Still-life

 

  I say: "Yes,

  In some ways he does"

Jan 28, 2010 02:39 PM #10
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Sharon - if we think we gain with age and not lose, that's wonderful. That is ideal. If you in your teens would be fascinated to be in your company in you.. not teen years, this is excellent.

Jan 29, 2010 09:52 AM #11
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Geoff - this is very funny, indeed

 

Jan 29, 2010 09:53 AM #12
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Satar - I am afraid I could say about my teens pretty much the same way as you

Jan 29, 2010 09:54 AM #13
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Jenny - I heard one wise man summed it the following way:

Kids think that parents know everything

Teens think that parents know nothing

Adults think that parents know something

Jan 29, 2010 09:56 AM #14
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Bill - lucky you. I would love to be able to say the same about myself, but i was closer to your younger brother Jack

Jan 29, 2010 10:00 AM #15
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Doug - isn't that what is called experienced?

Jan 29, 2010 10:01 AM #16
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Nicholas - how true, and often how sadly true. Just one is less lucky and the prank ends up terribly wrong.

Jan 29, 2010 10:02 AM #17
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Dorie - do you ever have that feeling tht you look in the mirror and you suddenly realize that you in your 15 might have not recognized you at 40? And the older we get, the more is the difference. And we are still the same person. This is amazing

Jan 29, 2010 10:08 AM #18
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Judi - we all have things that we would rather not have dne or at least have handled differently, but that's how we learned.

Sometimes very is no learning if there is no shame

Jan 29, 2010 10:09 AM #19
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Inna - you "bad" taste is quite beautiful. Thank you

Jan 29, 2010 10:10 AM #20
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Jon I agree with what that wise man said. 

Feb 01, 2010 12:46 PM #21
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Jenny - that's what wise people are here (LOL) Thanks for stopping by

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