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I will be travelling to California tomorrow for the funeral of my daughter-in-law's brother.. He was only 29 and sadly facing unemployment and the recent separation from his girlfriend 8 months pregnant with their first child. He was found in a motel room and had taken his own life...

Many of us have faced similar tragedy's in our own lives.. My daughter in law forwarded an email to me this morning she just received....

In this case a little too late... But perhaps if circulated once again to the masses it may help to save another's life...

 

A TRUE STORY


One day, when I was a freshman in high school,
I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school.

His name was Kyle.


It looked like he was carrying all of his books.

I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday?

He must really be a nerd.'


I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.


As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.


They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.


His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him...


He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes


My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.


As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks.'


"They really should get lives."

' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!'

There was a big smile on his face.


It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.


I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.

As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before..

He said he had gone to private school before now.


I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.


We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.


He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

I asked him if he wanted to play a little football
with my friends
He said yes.
We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books carrying them back to school again.

I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!


' He just laughed and handed me half the books...


Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends..


When we were seniors we began to think about college.


Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never

be a problem..


He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship..



Kyle was valedictorian of our class.


I teased him all the time about being a nerd..


He had to prepare a speech for graduation.


I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak


Graduation day, I saw Kyle.

He looked great.


He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.

He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.

I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!'

He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled.
' Thanks,' he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began

'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.

Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends.....


I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.

I am going to tell you a story.'


I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the Story of
first day we met.

He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.


'Thankfully, I was saved.


My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable..'


I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.

I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.


Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.


Never underestimate the power of your actions..


With one small gesture you can change a person's life.

For better or for worse....

God puts us all in each others lives to impact one another in some way.

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Comments(20)

Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Linda Mae, I wish you well today. Your presence is a gift to the family. Thanks for sending the poignant reminder of the power of our actions.

Feb 18, 2010 12:52 AM
Geoff ONeill
John L. Scott Medford - Medford, OR

I'm sorry about the funeral.  Very thought provoking post.

Feb 18, 2010 12:52 AM
Lorraine or Loretta Kratz
Crescent Moon Realty, Inc. & Land N Sea Auctions. - San Marcos, CA
Certified Negotiation Consultants

Linda:

My heart goes out to you and your family members. So true never underestimate simple act of kindness.

Feb 18, 2010 12:54 AM
Tim Lorenz
TIM LORENZ - Elite Home Sales Team - Mission Viejo, CA
949 874-2247

Sorry for your loss.  The kyle story is something that can have a great positive affect on people.  I sent it out to some people in my in box and one of them called me.  He said, "I don't use my phone when I drive.  He also does not pick up e-mails but did this time and read the story of Kyle."  He went on and said He was my Kyle.  He was coming back from Las Vegas and just did not think life was worth it and was planning on pulling into on coming traffic when the message came thru.

He is alive and well today. 

Feb 18, 2010 12:55 AM
Calvin Cowles
Cowles Home Inspection Services Inc. - Newnan, GA

Linda, I am sorry for the tragedy in your family. I know that your faith will sustain you!

I have a quote that I use to guide me... "Truth in life is recognizing that your character is shaped by your everyday choices". I think it applies here in many ways.

My sympathies!

Feb 18, 2010 12:57 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Lottie,

I pray God uses this tragedy to bring my daughter in law close to him ..She is the only member of the family who is a non believer.....I am touched she forwarded this email to me...

Feb 18, 2010 12:59 AM
Glenn Roberts
Retired - Seattle, WA

I'm sorry about your family's loss Linda. Attending the funeral will help others to come to terms with this. And the email is inspiring. It's always the right time to become a friend to someone, especially someone who looks like they really need one.

Feb 18, 2010 01:00 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Geoff, Yes, I hope the Kyle story goes out to many many people thus saving others from tragedy...

Feb 18, 2010 01:01 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Lorraine and Loretta,

Thank you... My heart goes out to my daughter in law... This was her only sibbling  3 years older than herself... She is takiing it very hard...and feeling guilty...

Feb 18, 2010 01:03 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Tim,

Yes a very important email indeed..... I forwarded it to everyone in my address book...

Praise God for your friend... We must always be open to the voice of God telling us where we are needed even when we think it is so small or meaningless...

Only God Knows.....

Feb 18, 2010 01:05 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Calvin,

Thank you and I will  keep your saying near and dear to my heart.... I always write such sayings in the back of my Bible as constant reminders...

God Bless

Feb 18, 2010 01:07 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Glenn,

Thank you... and yes we should always be on the lookout for those who need our help.. even if only a Smile....or a kind word.....

Feb 18, 2010 01:08 AM
Mike Saunders
Retired - Athens, GA

My condolences for the loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you family during this time.

Feb 18, 2010 01:26 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Mike,

Thank you... Pray the tragedy is used for my daughter in law to come to the saving Grace and knowledge of the Lord....I have three little grandbabies she will not allow my son to take to church with him on Sundays... He is a believer...She is not... (YET)

Feb 18, 2010 05:19 AM
Chris Fisher
Your Virtual Assistant - Concord, CA

I'm so very sorry for your family's loss Linda Mae.  Suicide is a horrible thing and is very difficult for the family to deal with, I know from experience.  I'll be thinking of you.

Feb 18, 2010 06:13 AM
Linda Mae Croom
Topock, AZ
(928) 768-3040

Chris,

Yes suicide is difficult and I know what my daughter in law is going through... My mother committed suicide when she was 49 and I was 32 and it took years to deal with it and I have never got over it...

I am sorry for your experience as well...So very many of us have been touched by the tragedy of suicide of family and friends...It is NEVER easy but so very very unfortunate when it happens to the young that have so much to live for....

Feb 18, 2010 06:42 AM
Robert L. Brown
www.mrbrownsellsgr.com - Grand Rapids, MI
Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic

Linda have safe travel tomorrow. He must have been in deep despair to end it this way. It could happen to any of us.

Feb 18, 2010 08:32 AM
Patrick Scott
OConnor Title Guaranty, Inc. - Chicago, IL

Linda Mae, I'm with all the others in sympathy for your family's loss.  Any death in the family is difficult.  Suicide must be far more difficult to come to terms with.  You will be in my prayers tonight also.

Feb 18, 2010 02:30 PM
Dan Sanley
La Mesa, CA

Linda Mae:  You have been through some very rough trials these last few months.  It seems some times they just pile on.  You are strong and will manage.  I pray for you but even more so your family members who were hit so hard by this tragic loss.  I have experienced this too many times in my life time and have seen how it leaves an everlasting imprint on those impacted by it.  This is a rough one, but I hope and pray those impacted will find a way to see the true Grace of God through it all and find the love that so often is hidden in each of those around us.

Feb 20, 2010 12:48 PM
William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Although my condolences come a bit late, please pass them on. The e-mail story you posted is a testament to the fact that we never really know the impact that we may have on someone's life by just doing the right thing.

I haven't seen your writings in awhile. I hope that you are ok, and I look forward to seeing more of you here, if it is possible.

God bless you...

May 14, 2010 07:03 AM