Balance is the key to life in this industry

By
Mortgage and Lending with Signature Property Consultants

This weekend, I dragged myself out of bed to finalize my morning appointments, confirm the morning plan with my clients and then drive to Queens to return a key I had borrowed the night before to the listing office.  I immediately hustled back to Long Island to meet up with my clients with all of two minutes to spare.  Yes!  Enough time to grab a cup of coffee before meeting them at the first property we were scheduled to see. 

So I grab my coffee, say hi and commence to catching up with a friendly neighbor I hadn't seen since the summer, while asking my friend that I was talking to on the cell phone (earpiece) to hold (actually, I abruptly cut off our conversation to talk to the neighbor, then returned to our conversation) -- all while fumbling through my purse for change and then paying for my coffee. 

Moments later, I was at the house waiting for my clients.  Yes!  Time to do a quick preview of the house, which I had not had a chance to do, since I was out with them for several hours last evening, too.  So, coffee, cell phone and papers in one hand, I maneuver with the other hand to put the code in the lockbox and retrieve the keys.  Only, the keys obviously were excited to be free, as they jumped out onto the porch as if they had been waiting anxiously for the chance to escape.  Anxious myself to get in before my clients arrived, I quickly leaned over to pick up the keys and, in an instant, my showing paperwork was now an unprofessional mess and my cell phone -- destroyed.

Ugh.  The things we try to pack in to every day, every hour, every minute and every second of this career.  It's definitely not for the faint at heart.  You definitely have to love what you do with a passion to have a career that takes so much of your time, your energy and your heart.  Thankfully, I do.

But, at the same time, I also realize that we have to take control over our lives in this business and have balance -- a lot more than I have been doing.  So, I have to take more time to spend with my husband, doing some of the things we used to do.  I have to take time to be more "present" with my kids, instead of having my body there, but my mind on tomorrow's business and my eyes on my Crackberry.  And, for me, I have to take more time for my spiritual development and to interact with my heavenly father.  For it seems that for a while, I've been hearing him calling me, but I haven't taken much time to listen.  Well, guess what?  Nobody else but Him will be able to get through to me for a few days, and you know what?  That feels good.  As much as we want to be successful in this biz and it really takes everything we've got, we've got to take some time sometimes, to just unwind, let go, relax, and smell (not spill) the coffee.

Comments (6)

Richard Dolbeare, R(B)
eXp Realty - Wailuku, HI
R(B), ABR, CRS...Hawaii Multi-Island Specialist

Hi Kimberly.  Indeed balance is important and if one can't find time for personal time in our slow markets, however will they do it in a booming market?

Feb 21, 2010 04:09 PM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Kimberly... you are correct about balance. But... I once knew a really "smart-alecky" guy who said that "sincerity" was the most important thing in sales.  And he then said... that once you learn to fake that... you've got it made.  Uh oh !

Feb 21, 2010 04:10 PM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Kimberly, you have learned and taught us a great lesson. I am still learning!  My daughter is constantly telling me that I have to maintain boundaries.

Feb 21, 2010 04:14 PM
Robert Machado
HomePointe Property Management, CRMC - Sacramento, CA
CPM MPM - Property Manager and Property Management

I think having business hours and off hours makes sense.  You cannot work 24/7 and maintain any sort of balance.  It may not be 9-5 but you can have scheduled off time.

Feb 21, 2010 04:24 PM
Leslie Ebersole
Swanepoel T3 Group - Saint Charles, IL
I help brokers build businesses they love.

Hey I just responded to some guy up there who had this as his post? Well, Kimberly, I like your post and withdraw "Sweet post" from other guy.

Feb 21, 2010 04:32 PM
Katie McBride
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Hopkinton, MA
The McBride Team

We all have crazy schedules - and mine is much like yours - except that I am catching up at 2:45 in the morning.  Yes, I could use a little balance.

Feb 21, 2010 04:45 PM