Losing Control and Their Treasures As Aging Americans

Home Stager with We Stage Greater Detroit, Inc.

"Call for the dumpster and haul it all out!"  Can you imagine hearing those words from your family members or children?  You've done a great job raising your family, lived a good life.  You collected trinkets from vacations, special occasions, and possibly precious antique pieces from family members that hold special memories for you of your life.  Are your treasurers now reduced to the trash?  Will those memories find their way to the dumpster? 

The aging population is facing hard decisions.  Do they downsize now and move into a ranch condo or independent living community?  Do they play the waiting game?  Wait and see, I don't have to move yet.  Adult children can feel guilty because they don't have free time to help with the  downsizing process.  Your children are busy being parents too.  When can they go back home help Mom and Dad?    Out of frustration, the solution is reduced to, "Call in the dumpster, you don't need that anymore!" 

Aging Americans view all of this as a form of giving up and losing control.   But, why not take control?  The downsizing process can be fun and a walk down memory lane.   Professionals trained in the senior move management process can assist and guide you through the downsizing and move transition.  Certified Relocation Transition Specialist, Carolyn Stieger provides the solutions to the obstacles you are facing and holding you back.

Free Tips To Consider Before You Move:                          

•1.      Trained professionals will provide non-confrontational and objective solutions

•2.      Hold Christmas in July.  Gift items to stay in the family

•3.      Sale extra unwanted items to help pay for your move

•4.      Antiques and treasures should be appraised to learn their true value not your perceived value

•5.      Donate items to your favorite charities

•6.      Itemize all donations and keep records for a tax deduction

•7.      Shred personal information to avoid identity theft

•8.      Give yourself permission to buy something new, you deserve it

•9.      Make sure what you are moving will fit in the new space

•10.   Pack an overnight bag with your medications so they are not lost in the move


"Carolyn helped me through the entire process of my downsizing and move" Veronica of Warren. To learn more about Veronica's experience click here.

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Comments (6)

Lisa Walston
Atlas Property Group and Abbey Church Properties - Greenwood, IN

It is so much easier to do this in a planned, controlled way instead of in the middle of a crisis. Your suggestions are sound. I would urge every family to have the uncomfortable discussions before you need to have them. That way everyone will know what Mom and Dad wanted even if they are not able to make it happen for themselves.

Feb 24, 2010 11:30 AM
Shubhra Bhattacharya
Interior Vibes - Home stager for all of DFW area - Flower Mound, TX

Informative article.

Feb 24, 2010 11:34 AM
Barb & Sal Dragotta
Macomb, MI
Macomb County Michigan

We have gone through this three times: twice when my Mom dies & Dad went into a help-center; then again when Dad died; I was appointed [only one in State & selected by Court--no Signed will found]
After i had culled out & packed all items that I knew sibs had gifted to Mom & Dad-- had everything appraised-  still experienced things I never believed would take place.
So, word to those of you who are in position to do so----write your will NOW; you choose who, what, when, & how to dispose of things. 
If you, as a grown child, are placed in this position of 'honor' prepare yourself ahead of time; keep lists of what is there; who gets [if Will found]; who wants--make up a list of each item & dollar amount [from appraisal], send [need paper copy often for Court / Probate] to all siblings and direct each one to choose those items desired KNOWING that an equal dollar amount will be deducted from their inheritance.  If two or more desire an item--have them work it out--& let you know. Hire a lawyer who will aid in the distribution of funds & as legal assist if problems arise.
Sal, being an only child & heir--it was easy.
All items not desired can be donated to charities [if in condition], Homes for abused adult & children are very appreciative. Habitat for Humanity will take big items.
Good luck to all; do know that you are not alone  
Great post Carolyn--this is so hard to do "During" the sadness time

Feb 24, 2010 12:10 PM
Carolyn Stieger
We Stage Greater Detroit, Inc. - Bloomfield Hills, MI

Hi Lisa:

Thanks for your comments. I have personally been throught this with my family twice.  It is hard to plan ahead for "that day."  It's like the mind knows but the heart won't follow.  We all keep putting off that task and then one day it's too late.

Thanks again.


Feb 25, 2010 11:31 PM
Carolyn Stieger
We Stage Greater Detroit, Inc. - Bloomfield Hills, MI

Thanks Barb and Sal for your comments.  I understand all too well what you went through with your family.  There were 6 siblings in our family and you can only imagine we all didn't see things eye to eye. 

I was trying to prepare the house for sale and taking down the heavy drapery in Mom and Dad's bedroom and my older sister "freaked!"  She looked at it as not honoring our parents.  It was very difficult to do what needed to be done.

You are so right about donations.  We even take donations for our clients to some local charities and bring them back the receipts as the donations are made in our clients name.  We find that if we include the removal for charity in our services it takes one more worry off their mind.

I would love to assist you on properties if you find that any need Staging or Senior Move Services.  We are located in Oakland County, but work all throughout southeast Michigan.

Feb 25, 2010 11:39 PM
Carolyn Stieger
We Stage Greater Detroit, Inc. - Bloomfield Hills, MI

Hi Shubhra and thanks for your comments.  Since you are a home stager, you may want to seek out a senior move manager in your area to offer home staging services.  Many Senior Move Managers do not do Home Staging.  It would be a great compliment to each other.


Feb 25, 2010 11:45 PM

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