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Mother in Law Research - Not the Best Resource

By
Real Estate Agent with EXP Realty 414-525-0563 57026-90 Broker

  Mother in LawLots of buyers, sellers...agents and lenders ....people in general, rely on "Mother in Law Research". This is a term coined long ago that means...ask the people you know...not the people THAT know....and draw your conclusion based upon this "research."

   Everyone wants family and friends to agree with them, applaud decisions, congratulate successes,it is human nature to want approval. When there ar large decisions to be made...the Mother in Law system may not be the "highest and best source" for the answer.

         - Deciding on the state of your local real estate market based upon what was said on the evening news may not be an accurate reflection of what is happening in your neighborhood

                         - Using the Mother in Law recommendation for choosing a professional to perform a sevice without the benefit of further research or collaboration may not be the best choice (ask the person with the now wet basement, leaky roof, etc. who used their neighbor's nephew)love mother in law

 - Choosing a lender without the benefit of finding out what other programs and interest rates may be offered for a particular purchase, especially today in the ever changing economy, may be costly

- The lowest bidder....hmmmm...maybe and maybe not...was price the only criteria in choosing that vendor ?

   The best decisions are made from a position of strength. The strength of independent collaboration and not necessarily the person you are related to, a friend of or who is most likely to agree with you.  For your own protection, whether or not you like your mother in law, use objective sources to make the highest and best decisions.

 

Posted by

Sally K. & David L. Hanson, ABR, CDPE, CSS, e-Pro,ILHM, REDS


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Barbara Kornegay
REMAX Essential - Wilmington, NC
Wilmington NC Real Estate, Homes

This is so funny to me...  It is always well my sister said and my cousin said and my mother said...  I always tell them if they think my professional opinion is not correct perhaps they should check in with their attorney and not their mother to run a checks and balances on what I know! Nicely of course!

Mar 05, 2010 09:24 PM
Laura Giannotta
Keller Williams Realty - Atlantic Shore - Little Egg Harbor, NJ
Your Realtor Down the Shore!

Ah, this is so frustrating!  Do these people say to pest control, my mother-in-law says its not termites, or to a home inspector my mother-in-law says that outlet is not a problem? 

Mar 05, 2010 09:29 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

  Highest and best...not necessarily on the family tree ...or the neighborhood block...10:00 news....

Mar 05, 2010 09:29 PM
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

 

I have put my hands on the monitor and I can feel your pain. Far too often, folks let family or friends get in the way of the transaction. Not a good time will be had by all - that's for sure...

 

Mar 05, 2010 09:36 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

  Sometimes common sense over ruling the "recommendation of your mother in law" will ned up saving lots of heartbreak...money...anguish...

Mar 05, 2010 09:53 PM
Catherine Chaudemanche - Edison & Central NJ
Metuchen Keller Williams Elite Realty / Middlesex County, NJ - Edison, NJ
Full Time, Informed and Involved- Results Driven

LOL, don't mind if I print your post and include it in my buyers and sellers packages....:)

Mar 05, 2010 10:04 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Have at it Cathy,,,,we will dust it with prosperous sales wishes !

Mar 06, 2010 12:33 PM
Jay Markanich
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC - Bristow, VA
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia

You mean I'm NOT supposed to ask her?

Wow, after all these years - off the hook!

Mar 07, 2010 09:06 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

You have my permission Jay...Free at last !

Mar 07, 2010 10:04 PM
Russel Ray, San Diego Business & Marketing Consultant & Photographer
Russel Ray - San Diego State University, CA

I've never heard the term mother-in-law research before. I find it ironic since too many people seem to have problems with their mothers-in-law, so why would they ask their mothers-in-law anything regarding such a large purchase? I'm one who loves my mother-in-law, especially when she treats me to fantastic Famous Dave's barbecue for my birthday. I get my barbecue later today!

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Mar 13, 2010 05:08 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

We have Dzve here too...not as Famous but he does make great ribs...hope it was happy and you enjoyed our singing telegram..

Mar 13, 2010 11:15 AM