Get Rid of Your Psychic Vampires

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We all have full plates these days. Sometimes, the plates seem to be overflowing to the point that we are simply overwhelmed. We can't see the end of it all, and we get paralyzed to the point of not being able to accomplish anything. From that, it's a short trip to feeling powerless, almost as if something – or someone – was draining our blood.

Worried womanMeet your psychic vampires. That's right, I said vampires. They are those people, places, and things that keep us from being all we can be. We tolerate them because we don’t know what to do about them. Even if we know what to do, we are afraid of what will happen. The fears and doubts work to keep us from making changes in our lives. Fortunately, you don't need to wear garlic or carry a stake of holly with you. To free yourself from psychic vampires all you need is that zapping equipment you already own – your mind and your hands.

Think about how your personal psychic vampires get in the way of accomplishment. They are the ones that have you thinking, "I'm too old to do that," or "I'll never understand this social networking stuff – it's way too confusing for me." You look at something you want to do, but can only see the mountain of learning and doing involved. So you give up before you even start. Score one for the vampire.

Baby taking steps with parentsBecause vampires are happiest when you see only mountains ahead, you can zap them by taking specific steps to carve those mountains into little pieces that you can easily pick up and toss away. The secret is baby steps.

Cute  puppy Suppose you have a new puppy in your life. He's soft and cuddly and full of bad habits. You are going to train him to walk on a leash, sit, stay, come when he's called, not jump on people, and not chew on your shoes. Yikes, that's a lot! Do you try to teach him all that at once? Of course not – you take it step by step. And how do you help him learn? You reward him every time he learns a new behavior, even every time he tries a new behavior even if he doesn't get it right at first. Before long you have a grown dog who is a wonderful companion with good manners.

But we're not puppies, are we? Well…think about how you help your child or grandchild with potty training. Don't you praise good behavior, and reward each small learning step? You don't give her a puppy biscuit when she gets it right, but I'll bet you give her a sticker or some other tangible reward. And when you do, doesn't she do better, step by step? She knows what success feels like and wants more. Do you see her confidence grow with each sticker reward?

That's the power of small steps, or what I call nano-steps. Each success, no matter how small, brings with it a power surge that makes you want to do more. Combine that with a reward, a celebration of that step, and that particular vampire is history.

Man on phone, smilingI can hear you thinking, "Yeah, that all sounds fine, but I have a long list of things I need to do for my real estate business and not enough time to do them."

My response is that if you have a list you have taken the first important step to checking those things off your list. The next thing you do is take each item on that list and start a separate list of the steps it will take to accomplish just that item. Now ask what's holding you back from moving ahead? That's your first vampire to zap.

To help you, I've created a step-by-step checklist, 8 Essential Steps to Zap Your Psychic Vampires (you'll see the link it at the end of this article.) Now's the time pull it out and work the 8 steps.

Woman jumping in the airWhen you take a nano-step and complete it you get a rush of good feeling. Now reward yourself. Did you notice that little extra boost that comes from success? You're ready to take the next step…and the next…and with each one, another little vampire bites the dust.

Not everyone can do every step themselves, and that's fine. Nothing says that you can't outsource some work. Most real estate professionals probably do not design their own blog or website. Sometimes what you want is handholding and talking about the process; that's the time to work with a coach either one-on-one or in a group like The Real Estate Game. The key is to take the step and zap another vampire along the way.

Clear road ahead After you've taken all those nano-steps you'll look up one day and realize that the mountain that used to block your way is gone, and in its place is a clear path and not a vampire in sight.




Patti Kouri, Accelerated Performance Coaching
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P.S. I'd really like to hear what you have to say, what your experiences have been, and whether you think this will help you. Please take a minute to leave a comment.


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Ralph Gorgoglione
Maui Life Homes / Metro Life Homes - Kihei, HI
Hawaii and California Real Estate (800) 591-6121


This is a GREAT post.

I am going to download this.

I may even hit you up......

Apr 07, 2010 03:38 AM #1
Deborah Byron Leffler BzyBee Real Estate Lady!
Keller Williams Realty Boise - Nampa, ID

I am downloading this now....great tips!   Whether you call them vampires or monkeys...they are alive and well.   I am doing the baby steps to get stuff accomplished!!!   Doing what I can do instead of focusing on what i can't do!   THanks for sharing! 

Apr 07, 2010 03:56 AM #2
Frances Flynn Thorsen
Cross Channel Marketing Consultants - State College, PA
Author | Educator | Custom Video Creator

Excellent blog post and excellent PDF! I zapped two vampires this week and it feels terrific. I encourage real estate agents to consider playing your Real Estate Game ... 

Apr 07, 2010 04:15 AM #3

Great post, I look forward to sapping those vampires and sharing your hints with my agents.

Apr 07, 2010 04:47 AM #4
Mary Pope-Handy
Sereno Group Real Estate - Los Gatos, CA
CRS, CIPS, ABR, SRES, Silicon Valley

Very cute title, Patti! I will check out your list. 

Apr 07, 2010 05:01 AM #5
Corinne Guest
Barrington Realty Company - Barrington, IL
The Choice of Professionals for Luxury Home Buying

I recently out-sourced something that has freed up 2 hours a day. That was such a big step for me as I am a perfectionist-I realized that it did not have to be done pefect just good enough. Now I have more time to do things on the list and yes I am doing it one thing at a time. The things I do not know how are on the list for outsourcing when money alllows for now they sit in the wait pile. We have to accept we are human not super human and must stop at some point every day to eat, rest and recouperate. I also think we need to make use of our teenage kids. They are very bright individuals and much better at getting facebook fan pages done and such things. To them it is logic where to us it can mean nonsense!

Apr 07, 2010 07:14 AM #6

Good job a perfectionist, outsourcing is a BIG accomplishment!  I also LOVE the idea of using our kids talents to help us as well.  Keep zapping.  BTW, I've never seen it fail...The more we zap those pesky vampires...the more money we seem to attract.       

Apr 07, 2010 07:29 AM #7
Lizette Fitzpatrick
Lizette Realty - Lexington KY - Richmond KY - Lexington, KY
Lizette Realty,Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes -

I just love your post.  I feel I am ready to sap those vampires.  Thanks and have a good week.

Apr 07, 2010 01:06 PM #8
Coach Patti Kouri
Accelerated Performance Coaching - Chatsworth, CA

Go get em Lizette!

Apr 08, 2010 06:00 AM #9
Wayne B. Pruner
Oregon First - Tigard, OR
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI

Eight again. I think I'm recognizing a theme. Good stuff. Keep it up.

Jun 16, 2010 06:00 PM #10
Ron Climer
Keller Williams Realty Mountain Partners - Tryon, NC


That was an excellent post. It was a great way for me to start my day.

Ron Climer

Jun 27, 2011 11:18 PM #11
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