Do You Have a Happy Dance?

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Last weekend, we had a free teleseminar show in the SWS Virtual Studio called "Getting UNStuck." It was co-hosted by me and my good friend Borino, and was about, among other things, regaining your mood and your mojo when this business threatens to get you down. Fun stuff (actually, it was).

During the show, Borino asked for a volunteer from the audience to help him demonstrate a little exercise to help you reset your mood when it's not what it needs to be. Basically, he put our lovely volunteer (thank you Camille!) into a funk by asking her to recall a recent event that got her down.

He then snapped her out of her funk by abruptly changing the subject and then asking her to recall a recent event that made her happy. She was instructed to take herself back to that moment when she was feeling the happiness - how it felt, sounded, smelled, looked, etc. When she was "there" he asked her to express her happiness in some physical way - for example... the soccer player's arms-in-the-air dance, Tiger Woods' fist pump - anything physical that felt natural to her.

Camille confirmed (and we in the audience could hear it in her voice) that her mood improved dramatically and immediately.

Borino explained that the point of the exercise was to help find a physical "anchor" that you can call upon when you're feeling down. As I understand it (and please correct me if I'm not getting this quite right), DOING that natural physical expression of happiness when you aren't happy and energized can actually reset your mood so that you ARE happy and energized again.

I, quite cleverly, referred to this physical expression of happiness as your Happy Dance.

Anyway, we in the audience were instructed to do the Happy Dance exercise along with Camille. I, being a co-host and all, declined to participate since obviously I have it all together and don't need such (as Borino calls it) "airy-fairy" techniques ;-]


Well, Sunday morning I was feelin' kinda down. My stomach hurt, my fun plans for the day were threatened and I was behind on a project I really needed to have finished already. BLAH. So, while in the shower deciding whether or not to shave my legs (I didn't), I decided to give this airy-fairy stuff a try. I did my own little Happy Dance right there in the shower.

Wow. Wow. Holy Moly.

I got a rush of energy I didn't imagine I had in me. Got out of the shower, turned up the stereo full blast, continued dancing around the house getting ready for my wonderful, fabulous and productive day, scribbled down some ideas for articles and blogs, hugged the dogs, noticed my stomach didn't hurt anymore and headed out the door to begin my wonderful, fabulous and productive day.

And a wonderful, fabulous, productive day it was.

Do you have a Happy Dance? Okay... 1, 2, 3, GO!

How do you feel now?


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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

  We have radio stations we know we can blast when things are less than sunshiney...amazing what the power of just one sense will do to your whole outlook on la la la !

Apr 13, 2010 11:39 PM #1
Tom Bailey
Margaret Rudd & Associates Inc. - Oak Island, NC

Great show on Saturday. I got a lot out of it. I have been trying the be nice to ten people idea since Saturday. It works great. I have not done the Happy Dance yet, but I will give it a try.

Apr 13, 2010 11:47 PM #2
Loreena and Michael Yeo
3:16 team REALTY ~ Locally-owned Prosper TX Real Estate Co. - Prosper, TX
Real Estate Agents

I listen to my set of music, loud and boldly in my car prior to getting to my appointment. I also pray and discern what God wants me to do for these clients.

Apr 13, 2010 11:52 PM #3
William True
True Sarasota Real Estate - Sarasota, FL
Sarasota Real Estate

Everybody needs a happy dance! Fun post, Jennifer!

Apr 13, 2010 11:53 PM #4
Lori Churchill Cofer
Beasley Realty - Pullman, WA
Realtor - 509-330-0086 - Pullman, WA


OK....I have a fun thought here....can't you see an office of agents all doing the happy dance!

Apr 14, 2010 02:01 AM #5
Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida
JA - I have to ask if it was ABBA, the "Dancing Queen"? I'll admit it, it's one of my favorites!
Apr 14, 2010 04:10 AM #6
Cari Anderson
Danville, CA

If I can't figure out my own happy dance, I just have to ask my 6 year old son to do a dance for me and I will split my side laughing - he exemplifies carefree joy. Just laughing at something funny you remember can snap your mood back to the positive side too. Oh, and THANK YOU so much for the Peanuts dancing clip - love the "Running Man" kid!

Apr 14, 2010 04:48 AM #7
Suzanne McLaughlin
Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael) - Saint Michael, MN
Sabinske & Associates, Realtor

Oh, sweetie....thanks so much for writing this post.  I have been a funk all wouldn't believe the LL34  I've dealt with over the last month...But I still have my happy dance.  And, I do it on a regular basis whenever I feel the stress....all the music is in a file on my computer.  And, boy, I really have a blast.  The Peanuts sequence is one of my favorites.

Loves and kisses for this post.  You made my day......

Apr 14, 2010 01:32 PM #8
Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
Author of Sell with Soul

Thank YOU Suzanne! What's LL34? Haven't heard that one. Today shall be much better!

Cari - I'm that way with my dogs - if they're "dancing" around being happy, I can't help but be.

Kevin - How weird you ask that! Yes - Dancing Queen was one of the songs I had blasting on my stereo and it's my Top 20 Favorite Songs of all time! Cause it makes me happy...

Lori - even better - can you imagine all the good vibes that would come of it? Maybe offices should do a weekly happy dance instead of a boring weekly meeting!

William - my thought exactly...

Loreena - I love that! "Loudly and Boldly!"

Tom - I'd love to hear more about how your assignment is working out for you.

Sally & David - I have a CD I made for myself about 5 years ago - it's seriously labeled "Happy Songs." I took it out over the weekend and have been playing it over and over... can't get enough of that happy stuff!

Apr 14, 2010 10:56 PM #9
Clark Hitchcock
Re/Max Nyda Realty Inc - Chilliwack, BC
Realtor - Fraser Valley

Sounds like a great idea just wondered how the dogs felt if you rubbed those unshaven legs on them.

Apr 15, 2010 07:01 AM #10
Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
Author of Sell with Soul

That's the wonderful thing about dogs... they don't care!

Apr 15, 2010 07:36 AM #11
Hamilton Landon Real Estate - Apple Valley, CA
...Marketing your home like no one else will.

I happy dance when I get a contact accepted and when I close a transaction.  It tradition now.  When I happy dance in the office, he knows there is good news.  If my broker isn't there to join in, (well really he never does the happy dance, but he accepts it as part of the process)  I email him or call him to let him know it's happy dance time.

Apr 16, 2010 01:05 PM #12
June Piper-Brandon
Long & Foster Hampden - Baltimore, MD
Piecing Dreams One Home at a Time
I do have a happy dance and I practice it regularly, it really does improve my mood and those around me. I've been known to break out in song in the grocery store or dance down the street. It gives some people pause for thought but insites others to smile.
Apr 23, 2010 05:32 AM #13
Borino - The Real Estate Coach
Borino Productions - Falls Church, VA

I have to tell ya, guys... out of all the seminars I've done this year so far, THIS one was by far my favorite :)

Oh, and that little dude in the center stage in orange - definitely me - LOL


Apr 23, 2010 06:52 AM #14
Jessica Schnell
Robin Sherman Realtors- Grand Points Realty - Pensacola, FL
Oh, I loved your show, it has changed my life dramatically. It's amazing how emotional this career truly is. Even after 15 years of experience Camille still feels the disappointment of a deal falling through for one reason or another. I thought that someday I would grow out of it! So, now I feel better knowing it's not something a human being can grow out of, we just have to re-direct that energy. Reminds me of the Dog Whisperer saying you have to stop the pattern of behavior, kind of snap out of the funk and the happy dance can snap anyone out of it! Create an anchor and Ahoy Matey, you are out of it! THANK YOU JENNIFER AND BORINO!
Apr 24, 2010 03:44 AM #15
Christine Pappas - REALTOR®
eXp Realty - Willoughby, OH
eXp Realty - Because Experience Matters

I call my dance - my Peter Pan thoughts.

Remember?  Peter Pan and the Lost Boys could not fly without their Happy Thoughts

Whenever I am feeling down, in the thick of something I don't like, in the last leg of a work out or even on the tennis courts and things aren't working out the way I want, I just call up my Happy Thoughts and then I am soaring again!

Have a wonderful Sunday!

Apr 24, 2010 11:59 PM #16
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