My Acupuncture Baby

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My Acupuncture Baby

It was right around the sixth month of pregnancy that I started worrying about the imminent pain ahead of me.  I used to call my mom in a panic and she always said the same thing:

“Well, it’s in; it’s gotta get out somehow.”

Thanks Mom!   I appreciate the words of wisdom!  (Not!!!)

Allow me to explain.   The belief that my body was a temple was instilled in me from early on.   With the exception of antibiotics, which for some reason, my mom seemed to believe in (don’t ask me why!), everything in our household was treated holistically.   It seemed like there was nothing that garlic, lavender, chamomile, peppermint and a few other plants couldn’t cure.  When someone was really sick, we had the more dramatic course of action, the “ventuze”, glass cups lit on fire and applied to one’s back.  Consequently, my parents never had to worry about me taking drugs when I was a teenager.   No need for any coaxing; I wouldn’t even take two aspirins.

In light of my background, one should not be surprised by my decision to give birth naturally and at home; for me there was never any other choice.  My son’s birth took about 30 hours.  Almost ten years later (they say you forget the pain; they’re lying!) I was doing it again.  This time I wanted to try something new, something to expedite the delivery process.  I chose acupuncture. 

My Acupuncture Baby

Seventeen years ago today, I was laboring at home assisted by two midwives, one of them also an acupuncturist.  I had needles all over my body.  I can tell you with certainty:  Acupuncture works!  There was a needle in the middle of my left palm that corresponded with my uterus.   Whenever Pei Fen motioned toward that needle, I cringed, for I knew only too well what the repercussions of that would be: every time she turned that needle, I had a major contraction.  “Oh, no, not THAT needle”, I would urge, as she mercilessly disregarded my pleas and turned it anyway, immediately triggering the next contraction. 

So it was that Amanda was born a mere five hours into the labor, a sixth of the time it took to give birth to my son, almost ten years earlier.  Like my son, she was born around 7-8 am, which is typically the time I like waking up.  To say that it was Love at first sight is no exaggeration, although until you have your very own child, it’s difficult to imagine the breadth of that Love. 

There was no blood and no crying.  As soon as she entered the World, she was laid on my tummy, her pretty little head resting on my chest, as I counted all her toes and fingers and pronounced her “Perfect!”   Both of us covered by a blanked, basking in the morning sun, so brightly shining thorough the vast bedroom windows and skylights, that glorious morning is etched in my memory.   

We laid like that for almost an hour, still entwined by the umbilical chord and placenta, the last remnants of our physical union.   After that, the father ceremoniously cut the umbilical chord and gave her a  “LeBoyer” Bath, as she pensively gazed at him, unfurling her tiny bodyBelieve! in the warm water, held firmly and gently by his strong, loving hands.   It is during moments like these, that you know God exists.  The spiritual exaltation is so high and the realization of the bond that exists between people, their spirits and that which goes beyond is undeniable.  In that regard, every birth is an awakening and a connection to that which is, that which has been and that which will be.

Seventeen years ago today, my beautiful Amanda was born.  Last year, also in April, five days ago to the day, my beautiful Grandmother passed away.  The chain of Life uninterrupted, the passage of souls and the continuation of the Spirit becomes evident to me as I write these words right now.  With tears in my eyes and a smile on my face; with pain and joy in my heart, I celebrate not only my Daughter’s Birthday today, but also, I celebrate Life. 

Rest in peace my beloved Mama Tily!

May you have a blessed and beautiful Life, my lovely Amanda!

I love you both with all my heart!



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Ellie McIntire
Ellicott City Clarksville Howard County Maryland Real Estate - Ellicott City, MD
Luxury service in Howard County & Catonsville

What a lovely tribute to special people in your life. As for the pain. There is a lot to be said for good medication.

Apr 15, 2010 06:13 AM #1
Michael and Cheron Lange
Solutions Real Estate - Chandler, AZ
Associate Broker, GRI

Thanks for sharing, what a beautiful tribute!


Apr 15, 2010 06:19 AM #3
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Ellie:  Thank you!  Yes, I guess medication would be good for the mother, but not so good for the baby. 

Cheron:  Thank you!  I love my girls!


Apr 15, 2010 07:01 AM #4
Robert Rauf
HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ) - Toms River, NJ

Happy Birthday Amanda!

Apr 15, 2010 08:27 AM #5
Andy Chaudoir
Professional Inspection Services - Georgetown, Texas - Georgetown, TX
Your Home Inspection Connection in Central Texas

Hello Mirela - What a beautiful and heartfelt tribute.  Thanks for sharing a bit of you (and your family) with us.

Apr 15, 2010 04:10 PM #6
Antonio & Alexia Cardenas
Alameda County - San Leandro, CA. - San Leandro, CA
"The Realtors In Motion"

Yikes Mirela you really know how to reach the heart. Great writing! happy Birthday to your daughter, blessed she is to have you as her mother, and great for us who are privileged to read your posts, this is a typical example of how to write from the heart. Thank you!



Apr 15, 2010 04:41 PM #7
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Antonio:  Thank you so much for your kind words!  Sometimes I don't even understand my inner workings until I start writing.  As the words start pouring out of me I gain clarity.  I've written thousands upon thousands of pages; this is one of my most favorites.  I sat down at my computer and everything just flowed yesterday. 

Andy:  Thank you!  I appreciate it!  I've always been so transparent.  People always open up to me; perhaps it is because I am so open with them.  I enjoy candid communication; it makes things so much easier and gets to the core so much faster.

Robert:  Thank you!  She had a good celebration yesterday.  I posted a video of it on Facebook last night.  She danced to the beat of the drums on top of her chair at the Japanese Restaurant we celebrated her Birthday at with a dozen or so of her friends.  I just adore her!  I wish I didn't have to be so strict and I can't wait for her to be in her twenties, so I could take my mother hat off and relax.

Apr 16, 2010 02:24 AM #8
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Yes, Mirela, you do write from the heart. That was lovely, and touching, as are many of your posts. Thank you.

Apr 16, 2010 02:41 AM #9
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Vision Quest Realty - Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Mirela, WOW a very touching and loving story which I truly loved.  Thanks so much for sharing it!

Apr 18, 2010 06:07 AM #10
Jane Cross
Homes By Cross serving Charlotte NC Real Estate Needs - Charlotte, NC

Mirela, What a beautiful post. I am glad I rolled through to find it. You have another one at the front of your profile that I love...the southern transplant! Very fun.

You are absolutely correct on how you don't understand the breadth of love until you have a child. It is so instant and so complete. Amazing. Again, beautiful!

Apr 21, 2010 12:18 PM #11
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