'My LIFE!, By DESIGN' with Sandra Corrigan-What is at Risk to.........?
Tom Ferry's new book, 'Life By Design', is full of great exercises for personal and professional growth.
At times in my life I have sensed that there was something that was going on that i could not quite see or put my finger on, a kind of 6th sense in knowing something is not right and it might have something to do with me.
My husband Thom will ask me , "What is at risk for you to...........?" What is at risk for me to deal with a conflict, say what is on my mind, make a change in an area? I hate that question sometimes. This question pricks and pokes holes in the shadows of the false reality that I am hiding in. I find that the thing I have not wanted to face, when faced, sets me free to live differently and changes the relationship that I have with others and myself. The true reality creates real and lasting change and allows me to create a Life By Design, instead of a life by default.
One Life by Design exercise is to ask 5 people; 1. What do you admire about me? 2. What do you see that I do that really works for me? 3. What actions do you see that I do that don't really work for me? .
I chose to do this exercise and chose a friend I knew would tell me the absolute truth. I was nervous. I knew that the conversation could be life changing. My friend said great things about my leadership, talent and skills. Yet what I knew that I was looking for was someone who had the courage to help me open the door to a blind spot in an area of my life. I was really seeking to have a Life by Design for me, Sandra Corrigan, a life I designed.
We came to the third question, What actions do you see that don't really work for me? and the space between us suddenly got very small. She looked me in the eye and said, "You come across as cold and unapproachable." What! You have got to be kidding! Tell me what you mean?" I asked. "Please paint me a picture of what that looks like so I can understand how I do that?" As we talked (and I cried) I felt the kindness and love of my friend sharing the path to a better me that day. Honesty and truth, shared in a relationship of grace, love and trust set me free to not take myself so seriously and to let others in.
We all want a Life by Design. We hunger for a life of dreams realized, great friends and relationships. meaningful work and personal and spiritual growth. And so my question to you is, What is at risk for you to ask those questions? The answer is maybe...... everything!
This post is to help promote Tom Ferry's upcoming book, LIFE! By DESIGN. The contents of my post are the result of some self reflection the preview chapter of the book asks us to do about ourselves.
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