LIFE by Design! And My Agonizing Journey Through Just One Chapter!

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                             A Life by Default, or A Life By Design? My Recent Life Journey

bible-public domain imageMany of us here on Active Rain recently decided to take on a challenge posed to us, based on the exercises in chapter 4 of Tom Ferry’s new book, “Life By Design”. Well, I’m almost always up for a challenge, but I knew right from the start that this one was going to be extremely difficult for me. Why? Because I’ve already been taking inventory of my thought processes, actions, habits, etc. So when posed with the question of “Are you living a life by default, or a life by design?” that alone was enough to make me start feeling anxious. So what’s the answer? Well, to determine that, we'll need to back-track a bit. (I really hope you'll actually READ this whole post, even though it's a bit long. I'm pretty sure there's something for everyone here, based on just my own life.)

First of all, my utmost goal in life is to live by GOD’S plan and purpose for me. And anyone who’s been a Christian for long can tell you, that means you’ve already chosen the more difficult path in life. And for me personally; not long ago God took a long-term vision that I’d been carrying, and changed it from a hazy, “one day I’ll do this” type of vision, to a “suddenly” crystal clear goal, with a solid outline, expectations of others who will be involved, and a deep desire for more of whatever God had in store for me. Now this vision/goal is not a replacement for my real estate career (that I'm aware of...). It’s something that’s always been a part of my life. I really can’t share any details right now, but the real lesson is in the journey anway!

So for quite some time, God has had me in the fire, IE: burning away any wrong-thinking, and changing me on the inside. He has even taken it so far as to kick out from under me, any “crutches”, on which I’d been leaning. Let me tell you, if you think you don’t have any crutches (aka: comfort zones), try asking God to remove them. And then hold on to HIM for dear life! Because that’s what He really wanted from me. He kicked out the crutches so I would FALL.... into His arms. Sounds wonderful to fall into the arms of God, doesn’t it? Well, I can assure you, the process of getting there is not so wonderful. It’s downright scary! So in order for me to BE the person I'm destined to be... in order to LIVE the “vision” He’s bringing about, He expects me to now LIVE in a place of “leaning” only on Him. I’m not allowed to have anymore comfort zones. HE is it... the only comfort zone I’m allowed to have.

If you’re still reading, some of you are probably thinking 1 or 2 things. 1) I’ve lost my mind, or 2) Why in the world would God put me in such a scary position? Well, before I briefly tell you about my exercise from Tom Ferry’s book, Let me share a little story I learned a long time ago, based on “David and Goliath”. Here it is, in a nutshell...heart in hands-public domain image

  • The size of your enemy/obstacle is a clue to the size of your promotion. It’s not a mis-match. It’s a setup. Before God can promote you, He has to introduce an enemy/obstacle. God has custom-tailored your enemy/obstacle for you.... David never would have become King, if Goliath had been a dwarf. So don’t make God shrink your destiny... Stop asking for smaller battles, and start believing for greater victory. (No offense to any little people who may read this. I'm repeating the lesson as I heard it.)

So now you know pretty much WHO I am... or should I say “WHOSE I am?” ;-) Anyhow, as I read chapter 4 of Tom Ferry’s book, I knew I was going to choose the most difficult exercise. (I guess I’m a glutton for punishment.) As I read, I cried. I felt anxious. Then with trepidation, I called the first person on my list of 5 people to call. (I picked the easiest one first) The results were not very difficult or surprising. But I still had 4 to go. My next call was to a friend who I knew would immediately have honest answers for me. (We’re both like that) And as expected, it was the 3rd question that was the most difficult for me to take. (“What actions do you see that I do, that really don’t work for me?”) My friend didn’t tell me anything that I didn’t already know. And I’ve been working on it, but due to some physical problems, there is no black and white answer for me.  Circumstances of life can sometimes create “gray areas” that keep you from drawing a line in the sand, and saying “this is it!” And that’s where his answer landed. We even discussed that. So we left it with that question, and his answer still sitting in the gray zone. So on to th 3rd person on my list... the “wild card”... the one from whom I never know what type of response I’ll get... my husband. And my biggest surprise... the answer that made me cry more than I had already been crying all day as I had been working my way through this exercise, was his quick (and much needed) response to question #1. ("What do you admire about me?") So as I sat waiting for a smart aleck response, (after asking me if he had to be serious) he quickly said “your integrity; your intelligence, and your whit”... I don’t know which happened first; the tears, or my jaw hitting the floor. This is the man with whom I joke, and play, and make snarky comments, in a marriage that nobody else understands, because only we get it. We were definitely made for each other! But needless to say, moments like these are few and far between, since we get our enjoyment from goofing off together, and being facetious whenever possible!    >=)   

  • (His next 2 answers were predictable, and almost the same as the previous two friends.) So when I made my next call (my mother... the next wild card), I obviously had to share my husband’s answer with her, just as my husband walked through the room and tried to retract his “nice” answer o_O   But I just told him he wasn’t allowed to take it back. Being nice once in a while is not only a good thing, but a requirement. Besides. he was finished with his questions. And he was DISMISSED! (LOL. Getting the picture yet?)

Anyway, most of my next couple of calls were predictable, and in-line with what I’ve already been working through with God. But surprise number 2 came from my mom, and her "mom insight", IE: 1st and 2nd anwers ran together... "I'm determined; I'm not a quitter; I accomplish what I set out to do; I'm goal-oriented; I have a heart after God; I work FOR my clients and not for myslef; and I don't complain to my clients". (Go mom!) =D

But now I’m left with the knowledge that if one chapter of Tom Ferry’s book was able to keep me in tears all day, I obviously need to read the whole thing. But I don't want to! This "process" of preparation with God has been a LONG and TIRING, internal battle, for which I'm grateful since I know the ends justify the means. I KNOW what wholeness and fulfillment feels like. And that's the path I'm walking, even when the road is rocky. (And yes, my determination stands; even with physical affliction included.) But let’s get real here. If you were me, would you want to read the whole back at this point!!? I already feel like a walking disaster Tom Ferry-Life By Designarea half the time!

So, now that you know what I’ve been dealing with for quite some time, and the profound impact that one chapter, in one book had on me, the question is still left to be answered. Am I living a life by default, or a life by design? Well, inside my head, where the real battle wages, it has been feeling like default. But doing this exercise, and reading this chapter, and getting astounding feedback from my closest friends and loved ones, and comparing all this to the path that I’m walking; to me it’s obvious that I am in fact, living a Life By Design!

Thank you Tom Ferry, for the clarity... but not for the agonizing day! >.<

This post is to help promote Tom Ferry's upcoming book, LIFE! By DESIGN. The contents of my post are the result of some self reflection the preview chapter of the book asks us to do about ourselves.

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Robert May
Robert W May - Lethbridge Real Estate - Lethbridge, AB
Real estate consulting

Lisa, you are one of my favs here on Activerain, so is Tom.  So this has to combine to be one of my favorite posts of the year!

Apr 22, 2010 04:26 PM #1
Lisa Hill
Florida Property Experts - Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Beach Real Estate

Robert- Thanks. This was truly an agonizing excersize for me!

Apr 22, 2010 04:32 PM #2
Mike Wong
Keller Williams Realty Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
Realtor: Commercial, Residential, Leasing, Invest

Great blog article. Right now Im going thru Keller Williams BOLD training based on the same principles "A life by design not default".

Apr 22, 2010 04:36 PM #3
Tamra Lee Ulmer
Arizona Resource Realty - Payson, AZ
NRBA ~FORCE~ Over 1000 REO Assets SOLD!

I really enjoyed reading your article! And that is an excellent read I agree.

Apr 22, 2010 04:46 PM #4
Lisa Hill
Florida Property Experts - Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Beach Real Estate

Mike- Thanks

AZ Resource- Thank you! I'm glad you actually read it. Obviously, it took a lot out of me just to write it.

Apr 22, 2010 04:55 PM #5
William James Walton Sr.
WEICHERT, REALTORS® - Briotti Group - Waterbury, CT
Greater Waterbury Real Estate

Oh, Lisa. You have no idea what you've unleashed here. Powerful words grounded in the truth of God. It is so true, God does set us up like that...what is it that James says, about the trying of our faith working patience...we come to know God better, and even ourselves better, when we are put through the fire...and about David, spot on. When I go through big things, I know that God is about to take me somewhere else in Him that I've never been...and I love Him, and the journey that he's taken me on. I am certain that you have come to enjoy this journey with our Jesus as well. And nothing that God does in the lives of His people is ever by default, it is always by design...

Apr 22, 2010 05:04 PM #6
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

Very interesting. I see that we have followed a similar theme but have worded it differently based on our personal perspectives. Yes, we are all part of the Master's handiwork...

Apr 22, 2010 08:17 PM #7
Lee & Pamela St. Peter
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices YSU Realty: (919) 645-2522 - Raleigh, NC
Making Connections to Success in Real Estate

Life by God's Design - love it.  Thanks for sharing Lisa, we'll be watching for your new adventure too!

Apr 23, 2010 12:40 AM #8
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Interesting, Lisa. I need to pick that book up after I finsh my current read..Joel Osteen's Its Your Time.

Apr 23, 2010 05:40 AM #9
Charles Stallions
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services - Pensacola, FL
800-309-3414 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl.

Wow Lisa, very interesting indeed I don't know that I could eveb start. It would scare me to death to listen to others critique my life so of speak.

Apr 25, 2010 12:01 PM #10
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