For me this month is whizzing by a little too quickly, but I know time is a constant I am the variable. I have been wondering recently about how others can affect my performance and why I let them. I am the kind of worker who rolls up the sleeves and gets things done. I focus not just on my own work, but the work of those around me just looking for a way to add value to my colleagues. As you might realize this help makes me popular and a “go to” when there are issues. Since I have taken this roll throughout my career, it is no surprise I am doing it now. I like helping, my problem is when my efforts are expected, unappreciated and without compensation of any sort. I don’t need to be paid for every thing I help with, that is not why I reach out on a daily basis, but I do need to be not abused by the situation.
As I work to get my new career humming I have lost a considerable amount of time pulling along others. I realize as I get to the end of the month, the goals of others I have assisted them to reach are almost as long, sometimes even longer than the goals I have achieved for myself. This is wrong. I was told that real estate people and agents in particular are always focused solely on themselves. I have found this to be mostly true, our work is hard and demands a thick skin, but I have also found that many agents are willing to share what they can to help. I like to focus on these people and share back. This is a best practice in life I have gotten to embrace.
When there are issues in your office that affect your performance, what do you do? I don’t want to be on the attack mode, I really just want to focus on what I need to do and grow with those tasks completed. I am letting some people go because they have given nothing while taking everything. It is against my personal nature to do this, but I must so that I can be successful in the ways I have mapped out for myself. I know when I control my own activities in a day I can complete what I have set out to do. When I allow others to affect my day either through their acts of selfish personal agenda, lack of memory of what they promised, manipulating a truth to their own advantage, or just plain negligence I need to move on from them. I will put my own agenda first; maybe I am really becoming the agent I heard about. Not.
I want to personally thank Nyssa Smith and David Mansour for reaching out to me to help this week. Your counsel and support has meant a great deal to me.
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