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"No Moms Allowed!"

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Real Estate Agent with Signature Real Estate

Do you every wish you could include the caveat "No Moms Allowed" to an agency agreement? Oh yeah, and add "Over Protective Dads", "Grandpas Who Bought Their First Home for $5,000", "Spoiled Sisters In Law" and "Know It All Best Friends"... Family and friends who accompany first time home buyers on their house hunt have good intentions, no doubt. But their lack of market knowledge, strong opinions and subjectivity can really kill a sale.

Well-meaning friends and relatives can offer so many conflicting opinions that it can cause confustion and frustration. First time home buyers start to second guess their instincts, become indecisive and reluctant, and rely too heavily on what everyone else thinks they should do.

It's a good idea for an agent to have a "Prep Talk" with clients before setting out on what can become an excruciating number of showings if things get out of control. Preparing your buyers for the process by giving them objective, informed and practical advice can prevent some of the common roadblocks.

One piece of advice that works well with first time buyers is to have them wait until they have narrowed their search down to three properties before bringing in the troops for a barrage of opinions. By the time they have narrowed it down, they have hopefully learned about their needs and wants, the realities of what their budget will buy, and their personal tastes. Also, at this point it may actually be helpful to hear what others think, as they may have experiences that could provide good insight.

By suggesting this method to buyers, you may also take a little pressure off of them by giving them a plan. It's hard to say "no" to Mom and Dad, but a simple statement, like the one below, can help ease any guilt and hard feelings and set the tone for the transaction:

"Jake and I are seeing properties this weekend. As soon as we have our top three, we will definitely need your help and opinion before making a decision."

First time home buyers in the Cedar Rapids, Iowa, area should contact Wanda Tharp for expertise, experience and trustworthiness. Contact Wanda today at WandaTharp@CBHRealty.com or 319-361-2383.

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Michelle Gibson
Hansen Real Estate Group Inc. - Wellington, FL
REALTOR

Wanda - Friends and family with good intentions can definitely be problematic if not addressed from the start. 

Apr 26, 2010 09:47 AM
Harry F. D'Elia III
WEDO Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

You have brought up some great poins in this post. Great post

Apr 26, 2010 09:48 AM
Deborah Byron Leffler BzyBee Real Estate Lady!
Keller Williams Realty Boise - Nampa, ID

Very very good advice!!!  and yes I would have to agree with it!  Had a mom like this a few weeks a go....but the daughter called her on it and MOm was told to find positive to talk about !!!  LOL   By the end she was a lot better!!!

Apr 26, 2010 09:56 AM
Wanda Greif
Signature Real Estate - Urbandale, IA
Connecting Buyers and Sellers

I also think it is important to make a connection with the parents or other helpers!  I did have one family send me a gift for helping their son find his first home.

I personally never let anyone else look at the homes I purchased.  I still remember my father in law walking through our first house shaking his head, thinking we didn't make a very wise choice.  All he could see was the work we had ahead of us.  :)  Looking back, we actually made a great purchase!

Thank you for your comments!  Wanda

Apr 26, 2010 10:20 AM
Donne Knudsen
Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA - Simi Valley, CA
CalState Realty Services

Wanda - LMAO!  What a great topic and one that I too have addressed in my own blog.  As a mortgage gal, my biggest irritation are the "helicopter parents" who have absolutely no financial interest and/or stake in the loan transaction.  AAARRRGGGHHH!!!

Apr 26, 2010 10:53 AM
Cathy Polan
Royal LePage ProAlliance Realty,Brokerage - Trenton, ON
Royal Lepage Proalliance Realty Sales Rep.

Wanda - I had a deal go "sour" because of Mom and Dad.....however, we kept on searching and when we got done to the top two we brought them in for the seal of approval.

Deal Done!

Apr 26, 2010 12:20 PM
Ann Hayden 636-399-7544
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Select Properties-St. Louis Missouri - Des Peres, MO
SelectAnn.com

Wanda,

Sound advice for sure....  I hope I am not one of those moms....

Ann Hayden in Wildwood, MO

May 06, 2010 05:17 AM