Teenagers: Beware your posts on Facebook

Real Estate Sales Representative with Prudential Transact Realty

I hate to say it but I've had to block some of my younger friends on Facebook because of their posts.

Not necessarily their posts, but their friends' posts. The offending posts are more language usage than content. But it concerns me that posting and texting have usurped speaking skills. Not only the ability to speak cohesively, with charissma and a commanding use of vocabulary, but also lost is the relationship to one's character through his/her speech.

I read an article this weekend about how college bound teens are now worrying about their Facebook accounts and how they may be viewed by colleges they have interests in attending. Facebook and other social media are certainly viable tools for college entrance personnel, coaches, and of course, potential employers to get a good feel about the person they are considering for acceptance.

Teenagers should be very, very concerned about how they are perceived on-line. And, let's face it; they probably haven't been taught any skills about how, what and when to post. Children tend to catch on to technology all by themselves while we adults look for training to guide us. So maybe, before too much damage is done, we should be looking at training on Facebook for our teens. Just like we teach Math English, History Science or any other skill. 

Unfortunately, this isn't just my opinion. Here's the article I read which has me worried for our teens:

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Ellie Shorb
Compass Real Estate - Chevy Chase, MD
Realtor DC, MD & VA Luxury Home Expert

I would add that for all Realtors who use facebook in their marketing, it goes without saying that one should watch what is on one's own site but also to block any "friend" teens (or adults!)  whose inappropriate comments show up on YOUR page and make YOU look bad! Thanks for posting!

May 10, 2010 08:18 AM
Bob Willis
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Orange, CA
Orange County & L.A. County Real Estate Agent

If the schools are teaching computer basics, then perhaps Facebook should be one of the topics.  I'm more concerned that the old basics of reading, writing and arithmetics are not being taught, let alone civics.

May 10, 2010 08:18 AM
Charlie Gantz
Keller Williams Commercial, Tampa Bay - Saint Petersburg, FL
J.D., M.B.A.

And for those parents of juvenile or adult persons on probation, a favorite pasttime of probation officers is to scan the facebook entries of their probationers, along with those of their friends, to see if the probationer is hanging around with people who are known felons to the probation officer, to see if the probationer admits to doing something that is not permitted by the rules of probation, or to see if there are photos of the probationer with a beer or marijuana cigarette or of the probationer being in a prohited place, like a bar or strip club.  If the probationer also states on the facebook page that his telephone number, his employment or his home address is something other that what has been given to the probation officer, that will constitute a violation of probation.  Charlie Gantz, Greenwood, IN; J.D., M.B.A.; Owner/Principal Broker, Atlas Property Group, LLC

May 10, 2010 08:25 AM
Steve Loynd
Alpine Lakes Real Estate Inc., - Lincoln, NH
800-926-5653, White Mountains NH

Janet, I have a teen son who is a junior in High school, we have had many conversations about what he says publicly on facebook...after rolling his eyes at me a few times, I think he is finally getting it. I'll check in on the article you mentioned and see if that will add some validity to my argument, thanks.

May 10, 2010 08:26 AM
Mike Martin
(909) 476-9600 ~ - Fontana, CA
Realty Masters & Associates

I've had a few of those embarrassing comments from friends of friends that pop up - I've found I needed to alter my privacy settings so that those comments don't show up or, if all else fails, de-friend the person who actually IS my friend. Learning that took a lot of trial and error though and I don't think teens have the wherewithal to be abel to do that on their own. It's refreshing to hear parents like Steve who not only monitor their kid's online doings, but also engage them in conversations about the appropriateness of their posts. Great info!

May 10, 2010 11:41 AM