On Being Named an Executor of an Estate

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Real Estate Agent with Realty Executives - Phoenix AZ
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A  Good-Bye!  to Good Friends!

In life, there are many key moments. The most viscerally touching moments involve the transitions - birth & death. The nicest thing we can do with another soul is to create a life, and right next to that in value, depth, involvement, commitment...  is to help someone die. My father died two years ago this time, and I was honored to be there for him. And recently 2 very good friends of mine had the same transition, dying peacefully 11 days apart. Col. Paul & Mary Hanzlik lived a full & happy life, to say the least. Again, I have the honor of being there for them. This time, rather than take care of a surviving spouse, the task is to complete the financial affairs, sell some real estate, "close out the books" as it were... There was no funeral, so we have (as we were ordered by the colonel) planned a Celebration of Life for them. He wrote that he wanted it "short, light-hearted, no tears"... We'll see on Saturday if we can deliver on all three points - my guess is only 2 out of 3...

Paul & Mary never had kids, and the relatives they do have are coming from adjacent states. Some of their local friends are/were known to me, and some were not, except in conversation with Paul & Mary...
An interesting phenomenon has presented itself - all of the folks the were in Paul & Mary's "circle" - these are some very friendly, warm, caring folks! Must be the Iowa roots to many of them... And at the very moment I'm writing these words, an old friend calls... to ask if I can send him a copy of the obit, and anything from our Celebration of Life... I'm thinking Paul & Mary had a hand in that!!

We wear many hats in this profession. Executor is one of the lesser worn hats, but so much is similar to a real estate sale... If anyone reading this has the opportunity to "be there" for a family member, or friend, please do it... It will be one of the most important things you can do for another human being.

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Rainmaker
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Lottie Kendall
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Patrick, you're a good friend, and I'm certain your life is richer--more fulfilling--because of that. Thanks for the reminder of what's important.

May 20, 2010 05:27 AM #1
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Keith Landis
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I have already been told by my parents that I will play this role when they pass on.  I hope it is a responsibility that is still far off down the road.

May 20, 2010 05:28 AM #2
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Ed Macias
Real Estate Teammates - Miami, FL
Miami FL-REO Property Management Multifamily

It's an honor that some has entrusted you to oversee after their passing.

May 20, 2010 08:24 AM #3
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Patrick Harfst
Realty Executives - Phoenix AZ - Gilbert, AZ

Lottie - you are 110% correct

Keith - Far down the road is best

Ed - An honor that I will respect fully

May 20, 2010 04:31 PM #4
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Ann Dail
Baton Rouge Area Homes, Louisiana, USA, 225-761-0551 - Baton Rouge, LA
Broker/Realtor,CRS, ePRO, SRS, B.A.Chem

I learned about shortness of life when at age 12 my father died of a heart attack.  Then medicine hadn't advanced like now, so he lived 2 months with 1/2 of his heart dead and not functioning.  As a 12 year old child, I just moved on and didn't grieve much.  My mother had aweful time for 2 years so I became "the adult".  As I've gotten older I have had several times to help others with loss, and it is a special blessing when you can.

May 22, 2010 03:35 AM #5
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Patrick Harfst
Realty Executives - Phoenix AZ - Gilbert, AZ

Ann - It IS a special blessing, and is one of the strongest threads in the quilt of life...

May 22, 2010 03:47 AM #6
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Patrick Harfst
Realty Executives - Phoenix AZ - Gilbert, AZ

Well, as one could guess, there were some tears at the Celebration of Life for Paul & Mary. They were tears of joy, tho, for the wonderful life these fine souls lived. We should each be so lucky as to have lived as they did, helping others at every turn, and leaving a legacy as they have. So many fine people! So many wonderful stories of how they treated others, including pets. CAVU - Paul & Mary! 

May 24, 2010 04:34 AM #7
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