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No, No, No! Buyers Are NOT Liars!

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I'm going to steal a page from the Broker Bryant rulebook and dredge up an old post from the distant past. In fact, what follows is one of my very first posts here on Active Rain, but I was inspired to re-post today it by Susan Haughton's excellent post on the same topic... 

Besides I only got 8 comments on it the first go-around (hmpf!), so let's give it another go!

BUYERS ARE NOT LIARS! (first posted January, 2007)Liar

Buyers can be hard to nail down and you'll hear agents talk about the "Buyers Are Liars" phenomenon. It's a phrase usually used in frustration either when an agent loses a buyer or when he's at his wit's end showing homes that the buyer says work for her, but don't inspire her to make an offer. It simply means that buyers don't really know what they want, and often it's true.

Remember, buyers don't shop for houses every day and they probably don't know what they'll respond to until they see it. So you'll need to have a little patience with them.

Find out your buyer's preferred neighborhood. If he is unfamiliar with your city, find out what kind of neighborhood he thinks he'd like - urban, suburban, rural, mountains, coastal? Any particular commuting distance? Does he like charming older homes near the city center or new contemporary homes near the shopping malls? Price range?

Moving on... number of bedrooms, baths, garage? Any special needs? Don't get too specific though. Pushing buyers for too many details is counterproductive, believe it or not. If you keep pushing, he may start making things up to please you. Doesn't everyone want a garage and more than one bath? But he might not really care that much and, if you limit your search to his non-critical parameters, you'll miss a lot of great homes.

The other danger in asking for too many details is that your buyer will start telling you things like, "I really want a window over the kitchen sink" or "I want an open floor plan with lots of light." Depending on your inventory, you may end up with nothing to show her if you rely strictly on her wish list. And if you show her homes that don't meet her "requirements," she may think you weren't listening. You (and she) need to gauge her reactions to different styles of homes in person. Remember, buyers don't shop for homes every day and don't really know what they will respond to until they've seen it.

And you know what else (by the way, this is new material from here on out)? Buyers change their minds about what they want or need. OMG! How dare they? I mean, they TELL us they want to live in this-and-such neighborhood and then, BAM! They find a new favorite neighborhood they'd like to explore. Egads - the nerve of them! (that's sarcasm ;-])

When I was looking for a home in Alabama, I changed my mind at least three times as to whether or not I wanted to live in the City... or the country. Whether or not I could live without a garage. Whether that fourth bedroom was REALLY necessary. My real estate agent hung in there with me, never breathing a hint of annoyance at my incredible insensitivity to wasting her valuable time. Good thing, because if she had, I'd have found someone else more appreciative of the $7,000 paycheck I eventually generated for her, as well as the two other $7k-ish paychecks she got when I bought two rental properties.

My friends, our buyers are not liars. They're just regular human beings who deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. And we are well-paid to do just that. 

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Comments(33)

Roseanne Campagna
John L. Scott RE Maple Valley, WA - Maple Valley, WA
Kent/DesMoines/Blk Diamond/Renton/Maple Valley, WA

It is such a relief to read this post. I've been in the buyer position and never once did an agent explain to me why they were showing me some of the properties on their list. It felt like they were wasting my time. I hope when I get things rolling I can remember my own frustration as a buyer trying to make a good decision in connection to spending a very large sum of money!

Jul 29, 2010 05:02 PM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

I'm the kind of person who wanted to see many houses before I made my decision . . . the first client I worked with made an offer after seeing only three . . . the little voice inside me was saying "are you SURE you don't want to see more?" lol  I may end up being my own worst enemy!

Jul 29, 2010 06:53 PM
Mark McHugh
Clearmark Real Estate llc - Warwick, RI
Realtor Rhode Island 401-641-3842

Good stuff Jennifer, Sometimes it's what their friends & family tell them what they should do, where to live. Especially those first time buyers. My record was showing 165 homes to one woman and her daughter...after 70 I made it personal. She's happily settled and tells everyone she knows about me. Yikes?

Jul 29, 2010 11:09 PM
Claudette Millette
The Buyers' Counsel - Ashland, MA
Buyer, Broker - Metrowest Mass

Jennifer:

That phrase is one of my pet peeves of real estate. I think agents use it when they are frustrated from their own inadequacies.  Buyers are the life blood of my business and, to me they are golden.

 

Jul 29, 2010 11:30 PM
Toni Dorigatti
Jette Youngblood Real Estate - Logan, UT

This is great! Thanks for sharing! Have a great day!

Jul 30, 2010 12:36 AM
Lee & Pamela St. Peter
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices YSU Realty: (919) 645-2522 - Raleigh, NC
Making Connections to Success in Real Estate

Ahhh Jennifer well written then and now!!! I echo some of the comments before me... I've always hated hearing that phrase. You made a very good point. Our client's don't always know the areas and what's available to them. That's part of our job to help them understand what there is available to them in their price range that fits their needs!

Jul 30, 2010 01:52 AM
Manuel Monserrate
Raleigh, NC

Thank you, great perspective! 

Buyers are real people, with their real indecisions, their real insecurities, and their real 'lack of knowing what they want'.  If you don't understand people, then why are you out there working with people?? (And by you I mean all of you who read this comment).

Patience is key in dealing with people.  Heck, I'll even through the word 'compassion' out there.  People do not know in many cases what they really want, yet they are trying to make a decision that will be a huge impact on their lives, so they will in fact do things like 'lie' or 'cheat'.

Great post.. (and many more comments sure to come)..

Jul 30, 2010 03:17 AM
Stephen P. Panczak, Ph.D.
Keller Williams Coastal Partners - Palm Beach, FL
Real Estate Agent & Business Coach, (561) 254-8098

Jennifer, this is an excellent post, I will agree with almost everyone that patience is the key virtue when dealing with Buyers. Have a great weekend.

Jul 30, 2010 03:44 AM
The 1410 Group of Benchmark Realty, LLC
Benchmark Realty - Franklin, TN

Very true! Great post

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Jul 30, 2010 04:19 AM
Christine Hooks
Pino Agency - Pennsville, NJ
Celebrating 25 Years in Real Estate!

i read both your post and Susan's too.  i think buyers can be difficult, but I've never subscribed to the 'buyers are liars' statement.

buyers learn after looking at houses that they must compromise.  that's all.

Jul 30, 2010 04:51 AM
Irene Bilinski
RE/MAX Hallmark Realty Group Ottawa - Ottawa, ON
Real Estate… It's All About You

Interesting since I tell my Buyers that they can change their minds about style, location, price, anything BUT just tell me too.'

It happens every time - they want a 3 bedroom bungalow with a pool and end up with a 4 bedroom 2 storey, double garage with a hot tub.  But it it works for them that's all that matters.

 

Jul 30, 2010 04:54 AM
Terry Chenier
Homelife Glenayre Realty - Mission, BC

Jennifer,

I tend to ask a LOT of questions to narrow down the search.

Jul 30, 2010 05:08 AM
Anna Tolstoy
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Natick, MA

If you think about shopping, what comes to mind first? I immediately think about generous return policies many stores have. You can bring back pretty much anything, if you don't like the fit, color, style, think it's too expensive or too cheap, found a better deal or just plainly changed your  mind. You can also change you mind again tomorrow and go ahead and by same thing again. NOT SO WITH THE HOUSE! Even in the best of markets one will loose quite a bit, if one decides to sell after a short time owning it. Unless it was a screaming deal, of course.

It's hard to make a decision, if you know you can change it only in 10 years or so :)

It's good to reassess search terms every now and then. 

Jul 30, 2010 06:21 AM
Leslie Prest
Leslie Prest, Prest Realty, Sales and Rentals in Payson, AZ - Payson, AZ
Owner, Assoc. Broker, Prest Realty, Payson,

SOME Buyers are liars. So are some Sellers, and so are some REALTORS®.

 

Jul 30, 2010 07:44 AM
Lesley Wagstaff
Re/Max Results Realty in Vancouver, BC - Coquitlam, BC
For Real Estate and Mortgages

I don't think buyers are liars, I just think they don't always have a direction when they start looking.  Once you narrow it down you can come to a pretty good conclusion pretty quickly...USUALLY!  Great Post.

Jul 30, 2010 07:57 AM
Nell Lindner
American Realty, Lake Jackson, TX - Lake Jackson, TX
Brazosport Area Specialist

I agree with all the comments that state that buyers are humans! Often buyers only have a general idea of their needs. It is the agents job to listen carefully and elicit information about the buyer's lifestyle and needs so that you can help them gain focus.

Aug 01, 2010 05:48 AM
Bill Travis
Captain Bill Realty, LLC - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner

Buyers will change their minds. In the beginning they have a concept and a list of criteria. As they look, that concept changes and their criteria will change.

The buyers agent needs to listen carefullyand work with the buyer as the criteria changes.

Aug 02, 2010 12:45 PM
Samantha Smith
214.422.0729 www.SamIAmHouses.com - Rowlett, TX
Sam I Am Houses, Simply Texas Real Estate

Great post!  I forgot who i heard this analagy from, but Buying a house is like finding your Husband/Wife.  How many bars, blind dates, ect did you go on before you found "the one"?!? How many times did you revise your list of "must haves"? Have fun in the process & remember why you got into RE to begin with :) 

Aug 09, 2010 10:15 AM
Sue Gabriel
Cleveland, OH

When I bought my very first house in 1987, my husband said "I will not live in the city! I will only live in the suburbs." But when my realtor called me with "this cute little blue house with everything on your wish-list for only $50,000...except it's in the city" I dragged him out to see it. And we both promptly fell in love with it! We lived there for 4 happy years, and then made the move to the 'burbs.

Heck, I can't decide what I want to eat for dinner! We just need to be patient...and it will all work out.

 

Aug 17, 2010 01:04 AM
Anonymous
Keischa
That's an atuste answer to a tricky question
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