Mum, Dad….. don’t worry, I’ll look after you……

Real Estate Agent with Summit Real Estate Ltd ~ Stoke - Nelson - New Zealand

The world of the “interwebs” ..........can guarantee to bring one thing to us, that we perhaps unwittingly don't realise we seek……immedicity.

The fracture that happens once many folk approach...…or actually hit retirement is something that, hopefully God willing, we will all have the opportunity to experience.

There’s no doubt that it certainly has, in its own way …. sure enough a great percentage of workers who reach it………its own “once in a lifetime” excitement factor.

A “what now” moment that you’ve been looking forward to (perhaps planning) immensely for the last 6 -7 years!

Time to Relax.......

Working for the company for 25 years, the gold watch, the history, etc…….all this will be something that future generations will more than likely lose because, in their world, a job lasts for “as long as you like it…..”

Tell them you have been an appreciated employee of GM for over 22 years and they just look at you kinda weird……..frankly this concept for a young Gen X’er is just, well..... too hard for them to comprehend.

But hey for once in life – now you do not have to live “a short convenient distance” from work!

The daily commute – Mum & Dad...........“you’re now officially over it.”

From discussions, anecdotal too, there's many thoughts associated with the fact that from now on you don’t have to live here, because once......that’s where your job was ……and now, all of a sudden, its not....... allows all sorts of new horizons to open up.

Heres a quick list;

North Americans – let’s investigate Florida

Australiians – lets investigate Surfers / Gold Coast or the Sunshine Coast

Kiwis (South Island ones) – lets investigate Nelson,or Golden Bay

Kiwis (North Island ones) – lets investigate Whangaparaoa or the Tauranga region (grew up there too) or if its a lower density population you want, perhaps Nelson comes up on the radar

Poms (Englishmen) …how does a move to Spain ………sound? Perhaps Eastbourne or Bournemouth or some other spot on the South Coast.

Canuks – sorry guys haven’t yet been to your fair country yet, so at this stage from my contacts can’t forward someplace that would make sense, although I suspect that anything south sounds like it would be good/warmer.

At the end of the day though………and here’s the rub....there really is only one inescapable fact, and that is ……that all of us combined, as Real Estate Marketers (Realtors ™) know – because we have been in the process so many times before ……what we call on the "coal face" for want of a better term.... that what Mum & Dad want......(as you & I know too, thats not the first time we've heard that.)

Really....just ask?

So.....frankly ...why don't you just ask us.

Long Story Short – if you have parents that you want to ensure are looked after in their later years (and who doesn’t) then you need to pick a Realtor™ in the location that Mum & Dad desire to be, and just phone one of us for the ubiqtious "no obligation chat." (in fact phone 3-4-5-6-7-8-9 of us, you want the whole story don't you?)

I don't care if you're a Wall St banker, a GM factory worker or someone from the local the end of the day we all have parents .......and we all want the best for them.

I am always building a business, and therefore it should follow, and it has to, that first up, you should talk to an active local in your designated region (in this case your parents desired retirement region), frankly......I surely would.

On top of that, anyone serious about their vocation in life, would definitely have an vested interest in it......and nothing more especially so than if you are actually in the Real Estate industry.


The Whole Point is.....

So the whole point of my post here today.........

Follows here that .......

If you are going to promise yourself that you indeed can consciously commit to Mum & Dad that you are going to look after their best interests.......then there is one extra step, that perhaps in "the rush" you may not have thought was important.....but let me tell you here and now....IT IS!

You need to, once the occasion eventuates....start making some immediate enquiries to your parents future desired location.

In fact once Mum & Dad hit 59, you should ask?

"Mum, Dad you've led a busy day I suspect you are going to want to quiet'en where is that going to be?"

And you know what? Each time I hear this, well except for my last 4 personal enquiries that is......the enquiriers start in the wrong place!

Surely they should know that most Realtors offer their most crucial services up front......on a "no obligation" basis..........and thats undoubtedly based on that fact that "down the road" if I've done a good job then I'm sure "you'll spend the time to revisit me" basis.

Downunder, its no different....if my Mum was to want to move somewhere else than where she is now,  today.....then no 1st up I'm not going to look to find a two bedroom, ensuite, Open Plan lounge/diner, sun gathering kitchen on the net.

Yes, undoudtably in time, I may get around to that angle, but certainly not first up.

But.... No......up front for me from my many years of Real Estate experience is that I am going to encourage her to phone Real Estate Agents (US Speak - Realtors) in her future desired location to get "the local guss."

When I was over to visit my Mum last year, she had, unbeknownst to me, accepted the local courtesy of 3 x "lovely men" Brisbane Real Estate agents to offer her an appraisal.........and.....

.....all 3 agents gave her an "appraisal" on her property gave her about "1 Paragraph" worth of words description of the excitment they experienced when they visited her preoperty.

Now cut me off here early if you want, but my typical description of a prospective sellers property usually flow's to at least 700 - 800 words. we remember why people buy a property.

Surely I don't have to tell you the ratio of those that buy "emotionally" verse the other that buy "locgically" do I?

Ninety percent of buyers end up in love with a home emotionally.

After watching all those TV programs.... you might wonder about the importance of some sort of "X-Factor".

If you are interested in moving down under to the sunniest place in New Zealand, I suggest you visit

Mum & Dad....welll its just Mum now.....but I know what I would do for my own Mum, and its.....absolutely no different than what I've suggested above.


Comments (8)

Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good reminder of real family issues. Thanks for sharing.

 Blooming for Mums and Dads.

Jun 09, 2010 10:48 PM
Barbara Kornegay
REMAX Essential - Wilmington, NC
Wilmington NC Real Estate, Homes

"In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins- not through strength but by perseverance." H. Jackson Brown

Jun 09, 2010 11:15 PM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

David, 'Mum and Dad had jobs that were there for a least 25 years. Today if a job can be found in the manufacturing sector, all the workers are wondering when it will be sent off shore because it will be more profitable and cost effective. As a nation our priorities are truly screwed up.

Jun 09, 2010 11:29 PM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Good post. Sometimes it can be difficult to decide where to move. I was working with a woman who could not decide whether to buy a home in a senior community in Pa , as her brother lives there or im Delaware where her son and family live. She said she preferred to be in Pa as she has friends here but the son said it is far for him to visit often.

Jun 09, 2010 11:41 PM
David Leggott
Summit Real Estate Ltd ~ Stoke - Nelson - New Zealand - International, IT


Family is everything.


Agree with your thoughts completely...after all here downunder we sure have our own sense of perseverance, but perhaps in a Sir Peter Jackson way, a bit younger than the rest of the world. However at the same time it does not dsicount the incredible importance that most NZ'ers placeon the family.


Thanks for yr comments. The world is certainly its current state...a changing place.

Ed, I guess its something downunder we have had to accept because with such a small populataion of under 5m folks (I'll do that maths here - in NZ we have 1.5% of your population) we have become accustomed to what you hint at - various slants / ramps / slides to what we would have typically called "our usual manufacturing base" It still doesn't make it any easier but then again....there arn't too many other options. At least at this stage we have the web to fracture out our opinions. Do trust all in your Connecticut market is shaping up ok?

Jun 09, 2010 11:53 PM
David Leggott
Summit Real Estate Ltd ~ Stoke - Nelson - New Zealand - International, IT


I'm sure the experience is no different than what we experience.

In your heart if it was the right thing to do, then later.....somewhere about 3 months down the line you get the family saying to you "well we weren't sure but now that we see Mum/Dad so happy with their lot, we realise it was for the best."

If they don't say this.....then really, to my way of thinking, its more a question of you as a Realtor, assisting the family to make that decision....being frank of heart or not?

Hope life is treating you well in Philly?


Jun 10, 2010 12:07 AM
David Leggott
Summit Real Estate Ltd ~ Stoke - Nelson - New Zealand - International, IT

Roy, Barb, Ed, Gita

Advice please....

I have posted before.....on each occrence it wasn't without thought......... but I noticed that I only received very limited feedback ........from folks like yourself...I was actually hoping to get even more feed back from your associated colleagues.

Perhaps it could be thought that the content...well it may not be much to the average person but believe do spend more than 5 minutes on generating it please tell....what gives.?

NZ has 4.5m people and yet the USA has 300m, so what gives when I get only 10-15 replies to a post?

Maybe folk should visit my home down under @ and see how important the local situation is. BUT please tell me so.....cause frankly I can see where more info here on Active Rain could be considered in a justified way, as just as impotant as any New Zealand feed,

Jun 10, 2010 01:20 AM
Deon Swiggs



As a nZ'er and a south islander and of the age where its my grandparents moving into the age of retirement I can still relate to your post and there are some important facts that come to my mind regarding it. The baby boomers who are about to retire generally have their nest egg made. They were the ones that profited in the industrial boom and hold a vast majority of the Real Estate. Now for someone like me who is 23 and am buying up a number of bare land properties am finding that most of the sellers are retiring baby boomers. Funny that.

In your regard to the employment. The days of shipping are upon us and its only going to get worse. Countries that have populations who consume need products and companies that need to save money will get it made over seas cheap and bought into the country. But gone are the days of my great grandparents getting their job making iron castings when they leave school and then retiring from that job having moved through the ranks at 60 with a big retirement pay out. Companies have become cost cutting mechanisms and if they can avoid paying someone they will generally. Which leads to offshore cost cutting. And its getting worse.

My goals now are to help my grand parents retire (in Picton) and the advise you have given here is very valuable. Anyway I have lost my train of thought now, better do some work...

Jun 10, 2010 10:05 AM