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Twenty extra fathers’ days

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Real Estate Agent with eXp Realty LLC 200311024

It was late 1988, I was in college when I got the call, my dad was dying. My dad had been a teacher since before I was born and we didn’t have a lot of money, he worked hard to provide for us. The day school let out for the summer he would go get a summer job to help provide for the family and also help with my college expenses.

But, during the summer of 1988 the year after I graduated he took a job at a fish plant and at the time didn’t think anything of getting a hook in the finger. It hurt, but it came right out. In December of that year though my dad started to get sick and no one knew why. Then we got the news that his liver was shutting down, it turns out he had contracted Hepatitis C from that hook and now was dying.

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As 1989 rolled along my dad got worse and worse and the we were now told if he was to live that he would need a liver transplant and finding one isn’t always easy, but he would be put on the list. At this point we all really were thinking 1989 was going to be the last Father’s Day with dad. It was a long year, college wasn’t easy knowing you are 150 miles away andc ouldn’t do a thing no matter where you were.

My dad slowly got worse and on December 1st we decided it looks like we were making plans for a funeral. But a couple short weeks later  we got the call, they had found a liver. I jumped in my Mustang and I’m guessing made the trip fromSeattle to Portland in record time. (I was lucky not to kill myself on that trip) Upon arriving, helped the rest of the family pack their things to go to Baylor University and then drive out to my next youngest sister’s college and tell her in person that dad was being flown to Dallas.

We got the news on December 19th that the transplant seemed to have been a success, but he would still have a long recovery before he could come home. For the next couple months most of my family lived in Dallas while my dad healed and learned how to live with someon eelse’s liver in him.

He came home in May of 1990 and that Father’s Day I do have to say is one of my favorites as it was the first bonus Father’s Day. My dad never really drank, didn’t smoke, so he really didn’t have a lot of changes to do to his lifestyle and he really has become one of the poster children for how you can live a normal life after a transplant.

But, to me he is just my bestfriend and dad and I’m glad I get the chance to talk to him every day and tell him that I love him. But, I still do remember that every Father’s Day is an extra one and that because of that I also would like to thank the person that had to die to let my father live. If you aren’t an organ donor, please sign up today because the life you give may not actually stop at the recipient of the transplant, but it could also be their families. 

Comments (11)

Dagny Eason
Dagny's Real Estate - Wilton, CT
Fairfield County CT, CDPE Homes For Sale and Condo

Todd - That is such a touching story.   Many more Happy Father's days!

We have a friend who is awaiting a double lung transplant.  He has been given 3 weeks to live, and is top of the list in Pittsburgh.   His problem is that he has pulmonary fibrosis, which was discovered when he contracted lung cancer.  He has since cured the lung cancer, but cannot beat the pulmonary fibrosos.    Let's all pray for a lung to show up, but it's sad that someone needs to die for it to be possible for this friend to live .......  

I have always been a donor.   Everyone should be.

Jun 20, 2010 08:37 AM
Valerie Baker
Exit Real Estate Professionals - Spokane, WA
Spokane Realtor

Todd,

Such a great reason to check that organ donor box on your driver's license!  You are so lucky to still have your Dad . . .from the picture it looks like you two are enjoying life to the fullest!

Jun 20, 2010 08:58 AM
Ginny Gorman
RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate - North Kingstown, RI
Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond

Todd, a tribute to you & your dad's connection and remembering one never knows what's coming at us everyday.  I'm glad you have that extra time with him...a reminder on being a donor too.

Jun 20, 2010 10:08 AM
Michelle Francis
Tim Francis Realty LLC - Atlanta, GA
Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease

Todd, 

Awesome story.  I agree, everyone should be an organ donor.  It is amazing how many lives you can change.  Happy Father's Day!

All the best, Michelle

Jun 20, 2010 10:57 AM
Cynthia Larsen
Cotati, CA
Independent Broker In Sonoma County, CA

WOW, I love this story and now I'm reaching for the kleenex.  I'm an organ doner, always have been.  I have two friends who have had liver transplants and another who had a lung transplant.  It's amazing how far medicine has come.

Jun 20, 2010 11:36 AM
Michelle Gibson
Hansen Real Estate Group Inc. - Wellington, FL
REALTOR

Todd - I hope you and your dad had a Happy Father's Day!  Thank you so much for sharing why people should be organ donors.  I bet there are a ton of people out there who think they're organ donors, but aren't and a few who are willing to donate, but don't have it in writing. 

Jun 20, 2010 02:17 PM
Richard Byron Smith, NMLS #184479
Mortgage Loan Officer, Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation NMLS #2289 - Chattanooga, TN
Mortgage Loan Officer

Thank you for sharing that. I am an organ donor. We have to renew it each time with our driver's license. Chattanooga has a big local push for organ donors. 20 extra years is a nice gift.

Jun 20, 2010 02:26 PM
Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

Todd, I lost my dad 7 years ago so I found this story particularly touching.  Thanks for sharing and Happy Father's Day to you and your dad.

Jun 20, 2010 04:50 PM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Wow Todd, quite the story.  I'm glad you still have him.  Hope you had a terrific Father's Day!

Jun 21, 2010 12:26 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Platinum - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Todd, what a beautiful and touching post.  I am so glad I didn't miss this.  Your love for your dad is evident and something I share with my Daddy too.  Glad you have him all these bonus years...you really are lucky!

Jun 21, 2010 12:34 AM
John Cannata
214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com - Frisco, TX
Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance

Thank goodness for Organ Donors. That is awesome that it become available before it was too late.

Jun 21, 2010 04:46 PM