What does complaining get us? Isn’t it better to simply work harder and smarter?

Reblogger Ryan Shaughnessy
Real Estate Agent with PREA Signature Realty - www.preasignaturerealty.com


Enjoyed it so much - I decided to reblog it.  As always, Anne Marie is right on the money.


Original content by Anne Marie Malf

No Whining and Complaining Allowed - Find Solutions InsteadThink about the energy it takes to fret, complain and worry about problems.

Have you ever encountered someone that complained about everything under the sun?  Did you purposely seek them out to have another conversation or interaction with them?  Probably not - you probably thought "what a downer" and "I hope I don't have to talk to them again."

I've often noticed that I'm drawn to people who don't complain but instead are proactive and look for ways to fix a problem or create a solution.  I also think they are highly successful and productive because they are always looking for ways to create opportunity, success and growth.

Imagine taking that energy and applying it to solving problems and creating solutions and how it will affect the growth your business not to mention the great benefit of being a great person to be around. 

"If you don't like something change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.

~ Maya Angelou

This quote provides great advice for how we should look at our business.  When you think about it don't most of our customers (our employers) want to work with someone that looks for and creates solutions?  Isn't that one of the reasons they seek us out online?  Most are reading our blog posts and watching on social media networks(not to mention all the Google indexing that happens with every thing we put on the Internet) and determining is this person someone that will work for me, have my best interests at heart and will be someone I can work with?  Do they have the right skills, knowledge and positive attitude that would be a reason for me to hire them?


Below are what I feel are 5 great attitudes to have that will take you far both personally and professionally:

Can vs. Can't will attract opportunity

Can vs. Can't

Having a "Can do" attitude vs. a "this will never work or it can't be done" attitude gives you a competitive advantage.  Sure there may be setbacks and failures (opportunities to learn) along the way but the true success comes when we don't give up.

Work Smart but also Work Hard

I've often thought it's more important to work smarter not harder but I'd like to change that slightly.  I say this because while I think it's important to work smarter I also think you can't discount the necessity to work hard - there are simply no shortcuts when it comes to success.  It could mean doing something extra and pushing yourself to reach outside the norm and try something new.  Think about it - everything you do has your reputation attached to it - isn't it worth the extra effort?

Have a an Attitude for Gratitude

Thank you goes a long wayEver notice then when you're focused on something you're grateful for that your whole attitude is boosted, positive and you have an energy that others want to be around?  The brain has the ability to think about one thing at a time and if we are more focused on the positive there is less room for the negative.

Catch others doing something right

I learned this lesson not only as a manager for a very large staff but as a mom - focus on what my employees and my child is doing right more than what they are doing wrong.  Sharing praise and compliments with others will not only encourage them to find ways to be successful but will do wonders for your attitude as well.

Let Go and Focus on Success

Spend your time and energy focused on changing things that can be changed.   Some things are simply beyond our control - accept it.  Find time each day to focus on the great things you accomplished in your day - perhaps it was a conversation you had with someone, something new you tried that worked and gave you the results you were looking for or having an opportunity come your way that you didn't expect because of all your hard work.  Taking time to reflect on your accomplishments will be the fuel to keep you Focus on Successmotivated and you'll find yourself looking forward to tomorrow and the challenges that await you.

Sometimes we simply get in our own way and can get caught up in that trap of complaining and feeling badly about a situation, but complaining should not be part of your overall business and life strategy.  All it does is drain us of our energy and will only stand in our way of being happy and in achieving our goals.  Being a "fixer" vs. a "complainer" will give you an outlook that will enable you to be more productive, creative and effective for everyone that interacts with you.

The next time something happens that makes you feel you want to complain about it think to yourself:

  • What will I get from complaining?
  • Can I fix the problem?
  • Think about or seek out others to come up with some solutions (ActiveRain is FULL of real life examples of how to handle so many issues - read, seek and search - in addition to the help you may find, you may also discover another great resource and friend in the process.)
  • Get busy making changes and creating solutions that will work.

I think this quote sums up my attitude about complaining best:

"I had no shoes and complained, until I met a man who had no feet." Indian Proverb


I always love to interact with my readers so feel free to share your thoughts on the questions below or bring up something not mentioned above that you feel is worth discussing.

Feel free to share how you handle complainers?

What things do you do to maintain a positive attitude to attract more people and opportunities to you?


If it's not evident to you by now, consumers are very knowledgeable and computer savvy and are using the Internet to not only search for homes but for real estate agents and real estate professionals who they feel are like minded and can lead them to the results they are looking for.  

As we all know, there are only 24 hours in a day to get it all done...are you focusing on the right stuff to grow your business and meet your client's needs? Contact us today to get started!

Ready to take your Marketing to new levels? Anne Marie Malfi ~ Malfi Marketing Solutions.com ~ Copyright 2009


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Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
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I looked at your blogs and two last were reblogs of Anne Marie, and it made me interested. It is a good read, easier read than follow read, but nonetheless, thanks

Jul 01, 2010 06:13 PM #1
Ryan Shaughnessy
PREA Signature Realty - www.preasignaturerealty.com - Saint Louis, MO
Broker/Attorney - Your Lafayette Square Real Estate Partner

Anne Marie always posts things that cause me to think.  The power of a positive attitude is important - especially when growing your team.  I liked the message so I reblogged it.

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