The Heavier Things In Life: Is Your Weight Affecting Your Business?

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As I was watching a workout DVD this morning (yep, I said watching, my daughter thinks that they are totally hilarious!) I started thinking about what an issue people's weight has become in society today, and how much emphasis is placed on our physical appearances. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. What you weigh has a exceptionally important effect on your business dealings, it can dictate if you are successful or not and it affects everything you do.


I know that right now there are some of you that are heating tar and ripping open pillows while grabbing your nooses and pitch forks to lynch this smart mouthed blond. . . But please just hang on a second!

I know that people's weight is a very personal and sensitive issue, so let me just say this: I have been there. I've been overweight and I have been underweight at various points in my life and neither is a lot of fun. It's a lot like having a huge pink elephant in your living room, no one wants to talk about it because they don't know what to say and it's all just so completely awkward. But the truth of the matter is this: Your weight may be affecting your business negatively.

And think about this: Weight goes both ways. Being underweight can be just as bad as being overweight. The real estate industry is demanding and very competitive, we work hard for everything we get. Long hours, fast food and letting the little things slide can pile up on us until we don't know which way is up and we feel like we are drowning in our bad habits. Well, take a big breath and take a minute to honestly evaluate your habits.

Do you hate showing houses with stairs because you know that by the time you hit the top you would be out of breath?

Have you ever been late for an appointment because you literally had nothing to wear? Because nothing you owned fit properly?

Have you ever had to stop an appointment to eat a little something else or because you felt like you were going to pass out from not eating that day?

Are you happy with the way you look and feel?

Do you feel healthy?

Do you work out? How often? (And NO, walking to the fridge and back, or bending over to put on your shoes does not count!)

Do you smoke? Drink excessively?

Do you eat vegetables on a daily basis? (You would be amazed how many people don't!)

These are just a few of the important things you need to evaluate, but since we are all adults here I'm not going to list them for you, because you already know what they are.

All of us need a reality check once in awhile, and it's much better coming from yourself than from a client. What you are working towards is not becoming a Barbie or Ken (plastic is so not attractive, besides, little fitness clones are annoying and boring), but becoming the best version of yourself you can be. When you reach that level of "happy with yourself" you will find that life, business and everything in general goes much smoother. It's about being effective and on point. It's about being able to physically keep up and offer the best service to your customers.

Here are a couple of ideas to get you started . . . .  then I promise I'll shut my overly smart mouth! ;)

Ask For Help! There is no shame whatsoever in asking for help when you need it. I'm sure that one of your friends, or even coworkers, would LOVE to call and remind you to work out. Or they might even be looking for a work out buddy. It never hurts to ask and you just might find that there was a beautiful friendship waiting to happen as well.

Start Small. No one expects you to turn into Jackie Chan overnight. (The man is awesome though!) Remember that whatever you are shooting for requires planning and realistic goal setting to get there. Expecting to lose 20 pounds in a month is not realistic. Planning and working toward losing 20 pounds and keeping it off over three months is much more realistic. Just remember to account for human nature and for life happening. No one is perfect, and we should not try to hold ourselves to the standards that others have set. It's not fair to us or to them.

Keep on Going. My father-in-law runs marathons (the man is 55 and amazing...if slightly crazy for running so much voluntarily) and recently introduced me to the term "The Wall". It is a point in the marathon that comes around mile 20 where you feel like you just can't take another step, let alone run one. You have to keep going, to keep pushing yourself if you are going to make it to the end. Life is just the same, you have to keep pushing and fight for what you want. Remember when you want to quit the most, this is all for you.

Reward Your Efforts. Besides looking and feeling your best it helps me a ton to have something I want being dangled like the proverbial carrot before the horse. This month it's a pair of jeans I want, it has nothing to do with the size, it's not about size. It's about the feeling I get every time I wear those jean, because I will remember the effort it took to earn them, I will remember all the things I had to accomplish to own them. Every time I look at those jeans it will be a tangible reminder of what I can do if I put my mind to it.  So go on and pick out your "jeans". Then give it all you have got!

OK, I'm officially done now. Just remember to take pride in who you are and in what you have already accomplished. You are amazing and you can do this!




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    Phly Jambor
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Comments (11)

Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

You put too much work into this to not have some comments here!

I'll admit, I'm an overweight, middle aged white boy who can't jump!

I hate stairs, partly the weight, partly the toll of many years of soccer.

I know what I SHOULD do, and I also recognize I probably WON'T do it.

Too many meals on the go, instead of eating healthier, although there are some

things we no longer get because the nutrition level was outrageous (e.g. Wendy's boneless wings... how much flippin' salt did you really need to put in there? My whole day in one snack??).

Jul 14, 2010 03:43 AM
Richard Green
U.S. Cybertek, Inc. - Houston, MO

Bill - Lol! Thanks. Truth be told I was not expecting many (if any) comments on this one. Weight is a really tricky subject to talk about, it's the pink elephant of blogging topics. And that's probably why I picked it, what fun is blogging if you can't get people thinking?

So... this is where I admit to a massive Krispy Kreme addiction. . . the chocolate iced kreme filled ones. *sigh* I work really, REALLY hard to keep my weight down, mostly because I remember what it was like hating the stairs. My mom and I decided to try losing the weight together and it's worked out really well for us. It's tough for me as well because of all the abuse I put my body through in college (ballet, ballroom dance, volleyball, snowboarding and cheer-leading) so some things "just don't work like they used to":)

The most important thing here is that you realize that you need to have good habits to offset your not so great ones, and you are willing to sacrifice somethings you really enjoy for your health. (Those wings are amazing! And despite the salt content, anyone who says it's not a sacrifice has obviously never tried them!) So good job and keep on going! ;)


Jul 14, 2010 06:33 AM
Chris Alston
Chris Alston (Keller Williams Realty, Silicon Valley, California) - Campbell, CA
Silicon Valley, California

Hmmm...  I am 5'9" and got up to 205 lbs...  The ideal weight for that height should be 160ish...  I never noticed, but I hated walking and loved sitting.  It wasn't until I got back to 160'ish that I realized that my life was alot different those 2 or so years I was heavier.  Now I love to hike, walk, swim and can do it forever!  :)


Jul 14, 2010 06:55 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Chris & Phyl,  I'm in the 5' 9.5" range if I stretch a bit I might get to 10 (haven't checked lately, I might have shrunk, but then periodically I go to therapy and get my neck stretched, so maybe I've grown??).

I haven't seen 160 since 1985, and if I got to that again, people would think I was about to buy the dirt farm.  Unfortunately, I must be big boned, yeah , that's it....

Back in my 20s and early 30s, no problems. Played volleyball, soccer, softball and bowled.  Something almost every day.  Then one ding leads to another, can't do that, can't do this (can totally relate to your things don't work the way they used to).... but you don't stop eating, so there's only one natural consequence of that!  I eat a light lunch most days to compensate for the other bad habits!

And Phly, I used to SELL those chocolate KK's door to door as a 5th grader in Woodbridge, VA back in the '70s.    Got to keep a quarter for each $1.25 box I sold.  Sweet, in more ways than one!  Too bad Homer Simpson didn't live in my neighborhood, could have made a fortune!

Jul 14, 2010 07:11 AM
Richard Green
U.S. Cybertek, Inc. - Houston, MO

Chris - I'm 5'8" and I (swallowing pride) got up to the 170's two years ago. . . not a good look for me! I have very small bone structure and if I gain any weight at all it shows. Then there was the feeling so tired all the time, I hated doing anything! I have found that my "happy weight" is about 128. Any heavier leaves me feeling tired and blah, any lighter and I get what my sister calls "Bobble Head Syndrome". (ie. fat head, little stick body)

What finally made me sit up and realize that the ability to move freely is a privilege that not everyone has, was watching my little girl get ready for her 4th hip surgery. (She's had 5 total. It's a long story, but she is all done now and is doing fantastic!) It was a pretty big slap in the face to realize that I had just let everything go. Here I was complaining about being tired because I had to walk a little bit and she was stuck in a body cast. Now we go swimming everyday and walk whenever possible. She loves to dance just as much as I do (I double majored in dance and photography at college) and we have our "Embry Dancing Time" as often as possible. I went running last week and surprised the heck out of my self by doing 3 and 1/2 miles before I got tired. Life is much, much better! ;)

Jul 14, 2010 07:50 AM
Richard Green
U.S. Cybertek, Inc. - Houston, MO

Bill - LOL! I have the same issue. I go to the chiropractor about every 6 months and he stretches me back out the my 5'8".

As for big boned, I'm not but my little sister is. She laughs and calls me "Tiny Foot" when we go shopping together.

I was a dancer in college but an unfortunately timed snowboarding accident means I just dance around the house now. (Taking a bobsled run was actually a pretty good idea. . .  hitting the soft spot in the snow, getting thrown 15 feet and dislocating a hip and a shoulder, not so much!) It took my body quite a while to figure out that I was not starving it to death, I was just trying to eat normally.

*wheezing with laughter* Homer Simpson! Lol! I had totally forgotten about that! So the question is: How many boxes did you sell and how many did you eat? ;)

Jul 14, 2010 07:59 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
RE/MAX Alliance 513.520.5305 - Mason, OH
RE/MAX Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Phly, Actually managed to not eat too many of the donuts!  It was a weekly delivery route, mostly regular customers.  Any left overs, start cold calling and knocking doors until they were gone or it got dark.  After that, my family would buy the extra box or two if need be!  Who knew a donut route would be training for being an agent!

Jul 14, 2010 09:42 AM
Joshua Zargari
MJ Decorators Workshop LI staging and home decorating - Lynbrook, NY
MJ Decorators Workshop

Always ready to help!

This is a great post!

Great job!

Jul 15, 2010 11:02 AM
Richard Green
U.S. Cybertek, Inc. - Houston, MO

Thanks Joshua! ;)

Jul 15, 2010 06:46 PM
c m
Colorado Springs, CO

Really great post, honest, real and helpful.  I have never had the "trouble" of being underweight, but recent photos have made me realize I am not the size I thought I was.  My clothing size has not changed (for long) in over 20 years.  There have been ups and downs, but I always settle right where I am. Lets just say, "smaller than the average American woman" who is now a size 14.  But things have shifted...I do yoga and Pilates, and hike and walk regularly, but my body seems to like this size, whether I do or not...As for the marathon wall, the hubs and I used to work at an aid station in a 100 mile ultra-run in Leadville, CO where the race takes place at 10,000 to 12,000 ft, in elevation.  The hubs job was to talk to the runner, at the 40 mile mark, determine if it was delirium or the "wall", that caused them to ask him to cut off their wristband, taking them out of the race. Those runners are amazing! Again, great post!

Jul 16, 2010 06:06 AM
Richard Green
U.S. Cybertek, Inc. - Houston, MO

Cheryl - Thanks! ;) I was under weight in high school (about 10 years ago) and then again last year around Christmas. Not fun! People think that it would be fantastic to be stick skinny, well it stinks!  You look silly and you feel awful, I think that letting your body be at it's healthy, happy weight is a great thing. And besides, people look so completely ridiculous as stick figures! :) I love yoga and pilates too, I always feel so energized and good about myself after a session.

WOW! I read about those runs. I looked at them and thought. . ."Not even if my life depended on it!" (and dare I admit this? I'm one of those people that usually only run if someone is chasing me with a sharp object with the intent to do me bodily harm!) I start quick and end quick. I'm fast, but only good for a couple of miles. I can't even imagine what you would feel like after one of those. I have a HUGE amount of respect for people that can do those things, mostly because I'm not one of them! ;)

Jul 16, 2010 06:52 AM