Every time I hear, or read, a one-sided story, such as when listening to Fox News or reading some Featured ActiveRain posts, I always think of Paul Harvey and go digging for "the rest of the story"? Today I'm thinking of Paul Harvey because of Barry Owen's currently Featured Post titled What we have here is a failure to communicate. That got me to thinking about how beautiful the English language is, how ugly some people can make it, and how fluent it is as definitions and spellings of phrases and words change over time. After reading Barry's post, it's painfully obvious that he speaks as a Seller's agent, seeming to forget that there are two sides to a transaction, and each side, to the best of my understanding, has the privilege of negotiating to its own advantage. If the Seller's side "caves in" and accedes to the "demands" of the Buyer's side, doesn't that just mean that the Buyer had a better negotiator? Often it does. However, it could also mean that the Seller's situation has changed, and a Buyer's agent won't know that. In fact, sometimes even the Seller's agent doesn't know that. That's why I think it's advisable not to get emotionally charged up when in the process of negotiating, regardless of which side you are on. Isn't that why the Seller AND Buyer hired real estate agents (and, hopefully, Realtors at that!) to represent them. Agents are not emotionally attached to the property and should be able to keep emotions out of the negotiations. Even Barry let emotions get into his Featured Post when he said, "Seems every time I get into one of those Twilight Zone negotiations in which I feel like I'm speaking plain English and the other agent is speaking some obscure dialect of Tribal Gibberish...." I'd be willing to bet that the negotiations were not in the Twilight Zone and that both agents were speaking plain English. Emotions. Everything that Barry said in his post as a demonstration of how the Buyer's agent was speaking Tribal Gibberish was a very simple negotiation: I've only been a real estate agent since May 2005, and I haven't done near as many transactions as a lot of people here at ActiveRain, but there's nothing in that dialogue that I haven't already experienced multiple times. There is the possibility that the Seller's situation has changed. Perhaps he won a small fortune in the lottery and can now make the requested repairs. Perhaps mom and dad came by and saw how concerned their son was about selling and that things might fall apart, so mom and dad said, "Get the repairs done and we'll pay for them." Both of those are true things that happened to me as a Seller's agent. There's a good possibility that the Seller's agent might not know those things, and there is a GREAT possibility that the Buyer's agent doesn't know those things. Now let's look at a couple of things that happened to me as a Buyer's agent on some "as is" properties: Remember, those were all "as is" properties. Maybe in my naive youth as a real estate agent, I was just a better negotiator.
As a last thought, Barry says, "Don't let gibberish trick you into compromising your representation of your client's best interests."
Let's look at that from the Buyer's perspective. Here's my rewording of it: "Don't let gibberish trick you into compromising your representation of your client's best interests." Did you notice that not a single word changed?
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