Derive Great Inner Peace In Life By Playing Your Cards Right

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Carnegie MellonI have very much noted in life some EXTREME wisdom coming from people who have had near death experiences or diagnosed with being terminal. Also those who are working hard at recovery in some form like restoring their reputation or getting away from something addictive. I think these people are so good at this because they are finely tuned into what matters and have GREAT focus. So,

Derive Great Inner Peace By Playing Your Cards Right.

I see the NEED for great inner peace from so many people with stress in their lives from work, financial, relationships, health, what others say about them, and past mistakes.

Besides your own spiritual journey with connecting there giving you peace I give two examples for much greater inner peace for you.

The first is from Professor Randy Pausch from Carnegie Mellon University who gave the great Last Lecture prior to dying later on of his terminal pancreatic cancer. Much wisdom tidbits in that lecture but as far as inner peace goes he was a believer in playing the cards you were dealt. However you get to a point in your life that is your hand. Your problems are YOUR OWN, not you spouses, or your parents or friends, YOURS. It is the ULTIMATE in life take responsibility for YOU! If you do this you can get an OFFICIAL GROWN UP certificate. It is SO TRUE, and you see this even with people in their 60's and 70's, we all can grow older but no guarantee other than ourselves doing it for ourselves, that we grow up!

Secondly, I have a coffee mug from a friend I used to go to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings with as their visiting guest. The Serenity Prayer inscribed on the mug is said at every meeting and I encourage you to memorize it to remind yourself of LETTING GO of things you determine are out of your control. The prayer:

"God grant me the Serenity to ACCEPT the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference,"

Being RESPONSIBLE and LETTING GO OF THE OUT OF CONTROL you will have so much more inner peace. It is not being irresponsible like with your head in the sand or lying and always being a control freak about things like traffic, or computer snags, or relationship problems in your life, the past that is the past, or terminal illnesses you cannot change that will drive you crazy in the end.

Make each day a new day going forward vowing to do those two things and you will not be distraught or bothered or confused or perturbed or embarassed or upset.

Instead, you will have .....

                  the great gift of BEING AT PEACE in your world!!

Comments (40)

Lisa Stafford
Broken Arrow, Tulsa, McGraw Realtors - Broken Arrow, OK
Broken Arrow OK Homes For Sale

So Very well put.  I appreciate and look forward for the new day. 

Jul 31, 2010 03:00 AM
Marian Goetzinger
Pine Knoll Shores Realty 252-422-9000 - Pine Knoll Shores, NC
Crystal Coast Real Estate NC

Gary, so well put.  I read because of the title.  So glad I did.  I am very close to someone who is a recovering alcoholic.  I realized a while back that the folks who are truly working the AA program are the most amazing people I know.  They have learned to be brutally honest with themselves and to take responsibility for their own actions in order to truly be in recovery.  You confirmed what I suspected.

I personally am a survivor of a horrendous car crash that left me paralized (permanently according to the doctor who gave no hope that I would live, but if I did, I would be a quadraplegic.)  I now run every day of my life and give thanks daily that there is a higher power and He decides when I die.  I get to decide how to live.

Jul 31, 2010 03:51 AM
Jewel Swinton
Wilkinson & Associates, ERA Greenville - Greenville, SC

I've been doing a lot of soul searching this week.  This post was inspirational for me because it all comes down to the choices we make.

Jul 31, 2010 04:20 AM
Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Gary, very well said!  Thank you!

Jul 31, 2010 06:33 AM
Evelyn Santiago, Managing Broker Heart Realty Group, Inc.
Heart Realty Group, Inc.. - Oswego, IL
Passionate About Real Estate & Our Clients!

Thank you for the reminder!  Don't sweat the small stuff...and its all small stuff.  Enjoy this moment because its the only one that counts.  A great lesson to learn early in life would make all our lives much easier. 

Jul 31, 2010 07:29 AM
Evelyn Santiago, Managing Broker Heart Realty Group, Inc.
Heart Realty Group, Inc.. - Oswego, IL
Passionate About Real Estate & Our Clients!

Thank you for the reminder!  Don't sweat the small stuff...and its all small stuff.  Enjoy this moment because its the only one that counts.  A great lesson to learn early in life would make all our lives much easier. 

Jul 31, 2010 07:29 AM
Rene Fabre
First American Title - Seattle, WA
Marketing in the Digital Age

Nicely said Gary, and true... We often get hung up on the little stuff and forget the bigger picture. Life isn't just about making money, it's a journey, a walk through time with your creator. Enjoy the trip and the conversation that it brings forth. Thanks for a great post.

Jul 31, 2010 07:53 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Thank you all for the very well thought out comments. Marian, your story of the car crash did remind me of others I spoke to in that category that got this life changing focus afterward and were reminded what was important in life...most have had tremendous peace after going to the brink and coming back...

Jul 31, 2010 09:20 AM
Karen Cooper
Karen Cooper | Sr Retail Loan Originator ! NMLS # 223305 | 360 Mortgage Group LLC Austin Texas - Leander, TX
Helping Homeowners w/Home Loans in 27 US States

Well said, Gary. It took me a while to get this concept, and have to work diligently to keep it in the forefront of my mind. I have that part of the Serenity Prayer posted at my desk, vanity mirror and in the car!

Jul 31, 2010 09:23 AM
Marchel Peterson
Results Realty - Spring, TX
Spring TX Real Estate E-Pro

Gary, I have always loved that serenity prayer.  I had a friend who died of pancreatic cancer at about the same time that Randy did.  I remember watching his video back then.  My friend also made the most of life and even when she only had a few months to live she died with grace.

Jul 31, 2010 09:29 AM
Vince McEveety
Gilleran Griffin Realty - Sherman Oaks, CA

Paush was an amazing gift...

 

Any time I feel sorry for myself I can just remember him doing pushups in front of that crowd in what were his final months of life...

 

how much can we squeeze into the stream of life?

Jul 31, 2010 09:55 AM
Michelle Francis
Tim Francis Realty LLC - Atlanta, GA
Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease

Gary, 

Love the post.  We are definitely the ones responsible for ourselves.  (Trying to teach that to children right now!)   Make the best of the cards you are dealt.  

All the best, Michelle

Jul 31, 2010 10:24 AM
Elizabeth Cooper-Golden
Huntsville Alabama Real Estate, (@ Homes Realty Group) - Huntsville, AL
Huntsville AL MLS

Gary, You are so full of wisdom, my dear friend.  It's like I'm "sent" to your post when I need to read something specific.  I am dealing with SO much garbage right now with family members, because of their past.  I was trying to tell them exactly what you said above.  I am going to send them excerpts of your post if you don't care.  

I love the video from Randy.  Did you share this with us in the past?  I'm thinking I"ve seen his video via you...You are an amazing person Gary.  I have so much respect for you.  You are beyond wise!

Have a great weekend my friend!

Jul 31, 2010 12:57 PM
Lynn Pineda
eXp Realty - Boca Raton, FL
Real Estate Promises delivered in SE Florida

Gary, your post is very powerful. To have peace is high on my list of must haves. If we have peace we can handle anything. Thank you for sharing such a well put together post on finding peace in our lives. Congratulations

Jul 31, 2010 01:33 PM
Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

As you know, my dad was an alcoholic.  We always had the serenity prayer up at our house and it wasn't until I was in my 20's that I discovered that it is part of AA.  My boss was showing someone around our office and when he came to my desk and saw the prayer, he asked her if I was an alcoholic!  She asked him why he would ask such a thing and voila!  We found out!  

I regularly say it out loud when the kids or my husband are driving me crazy.  So much so that Max has taken a distinct dislike to the prayer!  lol!  Easier said than done to accept the things we cannot change, but when we manage it, life does sail along much more smoothly.

Jul 31, 2010 01:50 PM
Patricia Aulson
BERKSHIRE HATHAWAY HOME SERVICES Verani Realty NH Real Estate - Exeter, NH
Realtor - Portsmouth NH Homes-Hampton NH Homes

Hello Gary,

Thank you for the nice post today.  We all need to recognize the things we cannot change and change the things we can and have the wisdom to know the difference. 

Patricia/Seacoast NH

Jul 31, 2010 02:00 PM
Don Sabinske
Don Sabinske, Sabinske & Associates Inc. - Zimmerman, MN
Sabinske & Associates Inc.

Gary, Pausch was and continues to be inspiring.  His last lecture is something we can all learn much from.  Thank you for this post. 

Jul 31, 2010 02:48 PM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Your post is filled with inspiration.  We all need to be reminded to seek inner peace.

Jul 31, 2010 04:36 PM
Chris Olsen
Olsen Ziegler Realty - Cleveland, OH
Broker Owner Cleveland Ohio Real Estate

Hi Gary -- The caption in your photo was told to me long ago and it resonated, and I try to make a conscious choice to implement it daily.

Jul 31, 2010 04:56 PM
Li Read
Sea to Sky Premier Properties (Salt Spring) - Salt Spring Island, BC
Caring expertise...knowledge for you!

Inspiring post....very well said!    Thank you.

Aug 02, 2010 09:56 AM