Don't Force. It's Better That Way Anyway.
This blog is so touching and really hit home with me, as I still remember the day I received that the news that my 49 y/o mother had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. As the next 11 years passed, I learned so much from my sweet mother, my heart-broken father and my sister who became the "rock" of the family. We began to cherish all the memories we ever had with mom while we had many laughs with her as she would say some of the funniest things with her new outlook on life. Mom would always say "these are the best years" with a big smile on her face (as she had no clue about her illness, but she always felt comfort knowing that her family was always nearby). Her illness drew us all much closer, and helped me to realize the importance of family and taking good care of those who really need us and appreciate us. With all that said, it reminds me of the importance of managing your time wisely, choosing your clients wisely, and always take time for those you love. Life is too short to spend it focusing on the wrong folks!
Thank you Gabrielle for sharing such a touching post, and you are in my thoughts and prayers as you continue this difficult journey with your mother. Paulia Kennedy
Time these days has been spent with my mom who is moving into the last stage of Alzheimer's. Even though she is slipping away fast - every once in a while she has a moment where she will say something and it just means so much and everything suddenly makes sense.
As I sat with her the other day, I did endless chatter about how beautiful she still looks; the family; told her that we sold the house she loved for over 45 years; blogging (which I haven't put a lot of time into); real estate (which I can't focus on right now); frustrations with a particular Seller ... you know just anything and everything to keep her updated. She just looks at me saying nothing because her speech and other abilities are very limited. But she can hear, feel and still thinks a little.
Time came to feed her...I placed a fork in her hand and helped her move the food to her mouth. She resisted this time and kept pushing the fork away. She sat for a long while refusing every effort I made. But I kept trying - making different foods, cutting the food smaller, made smiley faces with the syrup, putting sugar on the biscuit, tried to feed her myself ... anything. Finally, she slowly moved her arm and selected a piece of pancake with her fingers. As she raised it to her mouth she whispered, "Don't force, it's better with fingers anyway."
And that was all she said during our time together.
What does any of this have to do with blogging or business? Not much. Except to say that if I had to guess what my mother would say about blogging it would be: Just write. It may not mean anything now - but maybe later you will get an idea from it. Don't force yourself to write a masterpiece .. just scribble your thoughts ... it's better that way.
And about business? Exactly! Don't force it. And don't force clients (people) to do something or change to be the way you want them to be. Give them what they need and let them figure out what they want. It's better that way.
And about life? Well, today - because I should blog a bit so I don't lose my grand-fathered in status and with business has taken a back seat - I've decided to do what I think my mother might have said .. if she could .. and for anyone else who is struggling with whatever you are faced with - slow business, blogging ideas, difficult clients, stressful situations ... whatever the issue:
Don't force - it's better that way ... anyway!
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This blog is written with my opinions and my opinions are presented with accuracy but not guarantees. Please talk to a professional before making any real estate, financial or agency decisions. Gabrielle (Kamahele) Rhind - 2009. If you want to reprint parts of this - just email me for my permission: TucsonsRealEstate@gmail.com.
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