4 Temptations to Avoid During This Slow Economy

Real Estate Agent with Realty Executives Assoc

When times are lean, it is very easy to grow dark, bitter, fearful, and/or discouraged.  We must find an effective way to stay sharp, positive, and productive.  King David wrote a Psalm about the notion of remaining steadfast when even "a thousand fall on the right of me and ten thousand fall on the left of me." Here are four internal choices to avoid:

1.  The choice to envy:  The ability to celebrate others' successes (that are achieved honestly and ethically) or the result of pure luck, is an internal decision.  We must refuse to grow jealous, think critically out of envy, and assume the worst of others that do achieve.  When another person achieves something great during these hard times, it is a fantastic opportunity to congratulate, buy them lunch, pick their brain, and repeat what they did.  Instead of a chance to envy, we overcome the negative temptation by learning and working.

2.  The choice to quit:  When we are doing all the right things, and have already redoubled our efforts, and have already networked out the wazooo, refuse the temptation to give up.  Instead of quitting, begin quizzing your actions, habits, circumstances, and attitude.  Take new looks at yourself.  Ask others for feedback.  Be willing to try something new.  Work harder.  Never, ever give up.  Never quit.  Change tactics?  Yes.  Improve attitude?  Yes.  Learn new techniques?  Absolutely.  Refuse to cheat yourself and guarantee a ZERO return on your investment.

3.  The choice to grow cynical and negative:  Attitudes and personalities develop over time.  They can also change in difficult circumstances.  A once bright and productive person can be dark and slow.  Tough times, traumas, major letdowns, poor results, betrayal, and more can lead us to negativity and cynicism before we realize it.  When we work very hard and see little or no positive result, the temptation is to think that things will never work out, that fate is bent against us.  Choose to examine the current market and environment, assess your own activities, and seek counsel.  But, refuse to criticize yourself needlessly and believe in some faceless power that is set against you.

4.  The choice to cheat:  This may be the strongest and most frequent temptation.  Bending the truth, cutting corners, using manipulation, and deception are easy to rationalize when we tell ourselves that "everybody else is doing it."  Those beliefs that we choose to believe have dramatic effects on the ways in which we feel and thus behave.  We fool ourselves into feeling good about wrongdoing.  "It's not that bad."  "Everybody does it."  "Everybody lies."  It's all one road to cheating and rationalization. Choose character and integrity always.  Dignity matters.

I hope these thoughts are helpful and encouraging to you.  God bless you in your work.

Rich Barbee

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Richard D Barbee, M.Ed.

Investment Advisor Representative

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Slate, Disharoon, Parrish and Associates

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Comments (45)

Stefan Swanepoel
New York Times Bestselling Author & International Speaker - Ladera Ranch, CA
Great post Rich! Very well put. Stefan Swanepoel Swanepoel TRENDS Report
Aug 08, 2010 09:53 AM
Bonnie Allen
Classic Designs Home Staging - Knoxville, TN

Richard, it was so refreshing to see your post.  Your suggestions are so inspiring and should be taken to heart in both our professional and personal daily lives.  The world would be a much better place if we all remembered and lived by your post.  Thanks  

Aug 08, 2010 10:11 AM
Janice Weathington
Century 21 Pro-Team - Homewood, IL
I really appreciate your wisdom and advice. I am a new agent and plan to keep these thoughts before me. Thanks.
Aug 08, 2010 10:15 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Funny... I was just thinking about your point #4 this morning. Seems like there are so many people who are cheating in both small and large ways. And what is the excuse? "Everybody else does it."

I realize that many of our "leaders" in government are leading the charge to dishonesty - we read about them or see the reports on line or on TV almost every day. But their lack of conscience should not give us a similar lack of conscience.

After all, we're the ones who have to look at our own faces in the mirror each day - and either respect or disrespect the person we see there.

As for the rest... I'm a firm believer in the Law of Attraction. You get what you honestly, deep down in your heart expect to get. I don't think it's magic - I think our true feelings simply affect the way we think, the way we talk, and the actions we take, and those lead to the results we get.

Aug 08, 2010 10:26 AM
Richard Barbee
Realty Executives Assoc - Knoxville, TN

Thank you for all the comments!!  So many of you had valuable feedback and similar feelings.  It is comforting, in some meaningful way, to know that we are not in this effort alone.

Sometimes, I just post informational or update blogs.  But, from time to time, my inner thought life bursts out into one of these significant notions.

I appreciate you all taking time to read.

Aug 08, 2010 12:05 PM
Robert Amato
Bob Amato of Empire Home Mortgage Inc - East Meadow, NY

When business is slow, I think it is best to analyze my business practices, reflect on what is going on in the market and see if my actions best take advantage of the market. I try not to be a victim of circumastance.

Aug 08, 2010 12:40 PM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Agent Retired

Great post, thank you for the reminders.

Aug 08, 2010 12:42 PM
Monica Atherton
eXp Realty - Georgetown, TX
Your Georgetown Real Estate Gal

Thank you Richard.  Your post couldn't have come at a better time.  Although I would not cheat, I have felt myself getting negative and wanting to just give up.  How did you know that this is just what I needed to see.  :)

Aug 08, 2010 02:47 PM
Alan Grizzle
Chestatee Real Estate - Dahlonega, GA
Full Time Realtor, Lifelong Resident of Dahlonega

Comment # 8 has the best advice!

I had started to read all the gloom and doom stuff in the Wall Street Journal about the economy. Next thing you know I felt like nobody could buy anything. I made the decision to ask Jesus for help and to stop reading the gloom and doom. Stop watching it on TV. I was just going to do my job and sell stuff. Last month I closed five deals and rented 3 homes. I have already closed two this month and am expecting to go to contract Monday on another home.

Aug 08, 2010 02:48 PM
Victor Eskew
Virtual Properties Plus - Dacula, GA

Great post Richard.  If we could just get everyone to read it.  It is our positve choices that will always pull us out of a hole.

Aug 08, 2010 03:05 PM
Rita Fong
RE/MAX REAL ESTATE TODAY, Executive Broker 901-488-9590 - Marion, AR
Realtor - Marion Arkansas Homes for Sale

Richard, it is such an encouraging post!  Many of us need these reminders to keep us going.

Aug 08, 2010 04:28 PM
Deborah Grimaldi
Grimaldi Appraisal Services - Cranston, RI
(401) 837-9633

Very well said Richard, I try to keep the positive attitude as well.



Aug 09, 2010 12:00 AM
Katrina Lee
City Choice Realtors - Nashville, TN

Hello Richard,


Great post!  Thank you!

Aug 09, 2010 02:03 AM
Pam Simpson
Bob Leigh & Assoc., LLC - Senatobia, MS
GRI, Broker-Assoc.

Appreciate such an uplifting post this morning.  Thank you for sharing your insights.

Aug 09, 2010 03:20 AM
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI

Great inspiration and thoughts to ponder for those who are down....and even great reminders for all.

Aug 09, 2010 05:50 AM
Deborah Fox
Villager Realty Inc - Selinsgrove, PA

You could have done this post without quoting Psalms. Yeah for your courage to quote exactly where these thoughts came from. It does give them credibility :)

Aug 09, 2010 09:05 AM
none anymore
Las Vegas, NV

Thanks. This is just what I needed today.

Aug 09, 2010 01:27 PM
Nathan Strauch
Hot Shots Digital (HotShotPros.com) - Denver, CO
Colorado Real Estate Photography & Video

Thanks!  Great Post.  It's difficult to remember the grounding principles that we all have sometimes, and it's a breath of fresh air when we can begin our day with them in mind.

Thanks David.

Aug 10, 2010 04:00 AM
Balboa Real Estate San Diego, CA - San Diego, CA

Yup have been tempted by all 4 but never succumbed :)

 ..thanks for the great post.

Aug 10, 2010 08:27 AM
Wayne B. Pruner
Oregon First - Tigard, OR
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI

Good stuff Richard. These are important points well worth remembering.

Sep 24, 2010 05:11 PM