Rule of Engagement In Real Estate--Face 2 Face Communication Uncool?

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Real Estate Sales Representative with Keller Williams Realty--Boerne Hill Country

Let me start off by saying...there are so many reasons to absolutely love social media...but are we taking it too far???  I have loved the fact that I have reunited with my high school and college friends through mediums like Facebook.  But, when I look at "my" friends on Facebook and my kids "friends" on Facebook I have come to realize that there's a totally different dynamic.  My friends are ones that I made with face to face contact loooooooooong before iphones and Blackberry's were a twinkle in some young techies eye.  Their friends are ones that were made initially face to face...but were nurtured through texts and IM's. 

So is "virtual nurturing" real or is what I knew real?  The more I use social media...the more difficult it is for me to connect face to face with someone I meet for the first time.  I almost feel like it would be better to take our phones and go to separate rooms and communicate via text....almost.  Then, when I step out on a limb and throw a "Cookin With A Rural Attitude" party and spend the evening laughing my head off and really seeing someones soul through great conversation and learning together...I realize I had the best of both world's.

Do we need to stop...evaluate...and determine if we need to do a "face-to-face-101" session with our kids to teach them the value and art of connecting heart to heart with other human beings?  I think so...  Maybe not a formal session...but...how about exposing them to our relationships by recounting how we met our friends and spouses?  How about making it a regular thing to have people over for great food and conversation on regular basis?  Not that they don't get together with their friends...but showing them the other side of connecting...without technology. 

It seems I am always finding articles on the "cool" must-haves of social media apps to help us connect better with the newest generation.  I am trying to keep up...but personally...I think the old fashioned way of having a cup of coffee with my neighbor or having a potluck with a bunch of friends is a much "cooler" way of connecting.  I guess it's that rural attitude thing I am always talking about...the ability to change with the times...but stay chained and grounded to the good parts of the way it used to be.

What do you think?

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Rainmaker
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Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
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I think we need more open porches, swings, rockers sunsets with kids listening to grown ups, gram and gramp talked about you when you were little, how they met, about Uncle Bob who joined the circus and was a bit of a pirate, etc. Being part of something bigger, a family that is there thru thick and thin. Social friends can not replace family that is there to laugh, cry, share the same new editions born in to the families, and to help, console at a funeral with loss of a loved one. Family reunions have food to die for too.

Aug 13, 2010 01:59 AM #1
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Lindsey Hasford
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I think that social media is great, but it loses some impact that face-to-face communication has. I like hanging with friends. In the real. Sometimes I just want to close down the technology and live with those I can see.

Aug 13, 2010 02:25 AM #2
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Kristen Wheatley
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So true Claire.  More "real" time to connect with people in the "real" bodies is so incredibly important in these technological times.  Family stories and times with friends and neighbors can never be replaced by texting and "friending."  My son is only 7, so we haven't face the tech thing with him yet, but we will always have the porch time and gatherings that Andy mentions above.

Aug 13, 2010 03:16 AM #3
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Claire Record
Keller Williams Realty--Boerne Hill Country - Boerne, TX

Andrew...that's why I have porch swings and rockers on all my porches...  Some of my sweetest memories growing up were on my front porch.

Lindsey...I think you're right.  In fact...maybe it might be a good practice to have a technology fast a day a week.

Kristen...my son who is 20 now...when he visits...we try to make time for the porch early in the morning.  He found me on my back porch a long time ago in the wee hours of the morning.  He had woken up early for some reason...  Anyway...we had such a good time talking and watching the birds around my bird feeder...that he started to make a point of waking up early to meet me there.  It was our time...quiet...peaceful and full of joy.  I guarantee if you start that with your son now...he will look for those times when he's 17 and 27 and 37....

Aug 13, 2010 03:28 AM #4
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