Stop Planning, Forget The "How", Just Go For It!

Home Stager with Prep This House Interiors Inc.


This informations comes from  Fabienne Fredickson "The Client Attraction Coach"!  I personally think she is brilliant and has found a way to increase the client base for a small business following simple consistent steps.  I highly recommend her and her message.

Recently, we've been talking about aiming for MUCH bigger in our business, in our life, and in our purpose. We've stretched, looked into the fears of dreaming TOO big (is there such a thing?!) and looked at all the other emotions that come up once we've actually MADE the decision to play a bigger game. These are related to issues of safety, not rocking the boat, and self-doubt as to whether we really CAN play a bigger game in life and business.

But then, if this weren't enough, there's yet another thing that is likely to stop a lot of people right in their tracks. And that's trying to figure out the "how".

"How will I ever get from here to THERE?"
"But I don't HAVE the resources (the funds, time, help) to make that big dream happen."
"I'm not qualified right now to take on this big dream. I just don't have what it takes yet."
"Once I know HOW I'm supposed to do this, I'll do it. Until then, I'll just wait to be ready."

Problem is, this is EXACTLY the point at which most people give up, probably even YOU. Right there. You see, most people wait for the HOW before they make a commitment to accomplish their big goal. Being the good planner that you probably are, there's a part of you that feels this is too risky of a project or a goal to take on without having a plan, a solid plan, without knowing exactly how it's going to unfold.

You may have a dream of being on Oprah, for example, to share the message only YOU can share, and to give exposure to your book or business. You love the idea of it, you imagine yourself on her yellow leather sofa, talking to her and her live studio audience. You may even be able to feel the warmth of the studio lamps and the nervous feeling you would have in the pit of your stomach. Perhaps what you'll be wearing and what she'll say to you. Your imagination is strong about what it would actually BE like once you're there. And it feels great.

But then it all stops. Your imagination shuts down once you try to think about HOW you'll ever get to the Oprah show, or whatever else your big dreams are. Here are things I've heard:

"I don't have enough media training. They'll never pick me."
"Everyone and their MOTHER wants to be on Oprah. There's too much competition."
"Explain to me how it would ever happen and THEN I'll think about going for it."
"Is there a guarantee this will even work? Probably not worth trying if I don't have a plan"

Now, if you've seen my Mind Movie on my Facebook page, you know that I have BIG dreams. Writing best-selling books, doing workshops to thousands of people, affecting millions, and having a global effect on helping women and children around the world, and yes, one day, even taking my message to Oprah's stage and sharing it with 10 million people.

I'm hearing it now... "Stop dreaming and GET REAL!"

And admittedly, some of these things ARE "lofty". In fact, I would categorize them as downright "scary big". Especially since I don't have a clue yet as to how I will write ONE best-selling book, let alone many, how to get thousands of people to come hear me speak, how I'll help on a global level (where, whom, what will I be helping them with???). And I certainly don't have a clue about how to get on Oprah's couch.

But I've decided to go for it anyway, because here's "what I know for sure". If you've got the commitment to do something, the intention is strong and you're willing to do anything it takes to get there, in a good way/not bad, then things WILL unfold before you, like a red carpet being unrolled in Hollywood. You just need to take the first step, accomplish the task that's right in front of you, and then the next task will show up for you to work on. Once you've done that one, just the right opportunity will land on your lap, followed by the right resource to take full advantage of that opportunity or to accomplish the task at hand.

But because we're bred to be planners (or in my case, sometimes a bit of a control freak - have you ever seen me in the kitchen right before a dinner party??), we want to have the WHOLE thing planned out first, in every descriptive detail. It's got to be all laid out and orchestrated ahead of time, in perfect order. Otherwise, we don't make the commitment.

Thing is, that's not how the Universe or life works. Your next step or the next opportunity will NOT show up until you've made the commitment. But once you DO, it shows up, and the more you do this, the faster things start showing up for you: the right operations manager, the perfect branding development coach, the spiritual guide with just the right message (even the bottle cap with just the confirmation you've been asking for) or simply, just the right book to get you to that next level.

That's what is happening to me right NOW. It's fascinating to be in the eye of the storm, calm (most of the time) and witnessing everything around me show up as it's supposed to, having everything around me rearrange itself to make that big dream come true. In fact, it's pretty humbling. It's almost as though my intention and commitment to getting this big dream accomplished has taken a life of its own, in a really good way. And now, it's just about taking the next step that presents itself, without thinking of the next HOW. In fact, it's a very reassuring process, once you begin to see the pattern.

Fabienne Fredrickson, The Client Attraction Mentor, is founder of the Client Attraction System, the proven step-by-step program that shows you exactly how to attract more clients, in record time...guaranteed. To get your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and receive her weekly marketing & success mindset articles on attracting more high-paying clients and dramatically increasing your in.come, visit


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Linda D. Pufford
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How exciting for you!  You are a planner and now you can let go...  and see it all unfold and your dreams come true.  I am so glad that it is all coming together for you.  Thanks for sharing this.

Aug 14, 2010 06:46 PM #1
Barbara Heil-Sonneck
Design2Sell - Atlanta, GA
Home Staging Atlanta

Hi Kym, I am a planner and have set and written down my goals on a 1 pager. Nothing fancy and extensive, more a reminder of what I want or not want. I believe like you on "How the Universe works" Commitment is key and all planning want help until there is commitment and action. Thanks for sharing

Aug 15, 2010 02:58 AM #2
Sally Weatherley
Vancouver Home Staging, Home Stager Vancouver, B.C

Kym - That little voice in our heads that keeps telling us we can't do something is certainly a problem.  Great advice - just silence the voice and go for it.  You can't succeed unless you try.  Let me know when your book is out - I look forward to reading it! 

Aug 18, 2010 03:27 AM #3
Birgit Anich
Birgit Anich Staging & Interiors, 203.807.4040 - Norwalk, CT
CT Home Stager Fairfield & New Haven County

Kym, it's funny to see that you are following and quoting Fabienne! We are on the same track here. Love your post.

Aug 18, 2010 11:17 AM #4
Kym Tarr
Prep This House Interiors Inc. - Kelowna, BC
Its all in the details!

Thanks Brenda and Linda for your comments..

Sally, I have set aside a first copy just for you LOL

Birgit... I think she is brilliant, I have a goal now and I am stickin to it!


Aug 18, 2010 12:10 PM #5
Tori Toth
Tori Toth, International - Howard Beach, NY
888.667.6643 NYC & Beyond, HSR, SAR, RESA, LIBOR

After reaching my first goals in life, I decided to change careers to stage and since then haven't really set new goals, I dream big, infact we have many of the same dreams, but it's time to really figure it and set new goals, thanks for the inspiration. I'm going to check out the website.

Sep 29, 2010 06:45 AM #6
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