Friend, Foe or Colleague in Real Estate?

Real Estate Agent with eXp Realty

I am writing this post in response to something that has bugged me for a few days...

So I am tossing it out there in the rain. Activerain that is..

Here it is.

My daughter came home the other day and was ranting, something didn't sit right. She is a teenager so I usually just listen, nodd, and then work on why she feels that way or how she can figure out how to solve the problem.

Well I was speechless,

You see, she had been having a conversation with someone and was talking about what they do for a living..

Your a Realtor?  Cool.. my mom is a Realtor too!

She then proceeded with.. "your new to the area,you two should get together and talk.. share idea's etc.."

the immediate response ensued,

"I know what I am doing, I don't need to talk to her...She works for the competition anyway" 

She was shocked, and felt like they were being stupid...could you imagine her saying I know what I'm doing, I dont need any help in this situation?


She observes that I network with agents daily, I learn, share and even make deals happen.. and guess what, they work in a different office than I do.. 

often in other states! Hawaii, California, Massachusetts, Nevada, Texas, Arkansas plus more..

and in other countries! Canada & Mexico 

I also meet with a group that has agents from many different offices in the area, to has been a great experience. 

Things aren't like they used to be.. stick a sign in the yard and wait for phone to ring, put your ad in the paper and look at how great you are..

now there are so many other things to do..with 90% of people looking at real estate online you better learn about SEO, blogging, long-tail, short-tail, virtual tours, video, syndication, facebook, twitter, foursquare, the list goes on and on..

I could never imagine saying to another agent I know what I am doing, I don't need your idea's..

not only that,

I couldn't imagine what negotiating a contract will be like. 

Put your pride aside, we are working for the client.




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Gray Winn
RE/MAX Legacy - Madison, AL
New Home Specialist in Madison AL and Athens AL

My vote would be colleagues.    Having a good working relationship with the other Realtors seems very important - esp for new homes.

Aug 19, 2010 02:19 PM #1
Paige Walker
Paige Walker - Pineville, LA
Real Estate Guru - Alexandria Pineville LA

Great words of wisdom! You should be very proud of your daughter, she has learned her lessons well!

Aug 19, 2010 02:19 PM #2
Vickie Slade
Colorado Landmark, Realtors - Boulder, CO
Service You Can Trust ~ Someone You Can Depend On

Katharine,  great post.  We are all in this biz together.  There is so much more power from the collective positive energy we share working together than to try and be an "island."  Perhaps she hasn't realized the true power networking and fellow collegues can bring to her business.  Good for you, you have...... Thanks for this post.

Aug 19, 2010 02:38 PM #3
Vickie McCartney
Maverick Realty - Owensboro, KY
Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY

Hi Katharine~  It looks like your daughter is very mature for her years.  That other agent is the one losing out and really has so much to learn.  I like my competition and am friends with them and love sharing ideas and working with them.

Aug 19, 2010 02:41 PM #4
Katharine Carey
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA

Gray- so important to have a working relationship, nothing more frustrating than trying to negotiate with someone who knows it all.

Paige- She is going far in life for sure!

Vickie- yes we are in it together, and boy there is soo much to learn! 

Vickie from Kentucky- she amazes me for sure.. and yes, I was able to learn more about the commercial aspects of real estate due to our Mastermind group. Great information!

Aug 19, 2010 02:48 PM #5
Michael Bergin
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - ABR - SRES - Alexandria, VA
Northern Virginia Real Estate

Katharine, I value the things I learn from other agents. That is the very reason I came to Coldwell Banker from an agency where I was the only agent and never saw the broker/owner. She was accessible but I didn't like being by myself all the time.

Aug 19, 2010 02:53 PM #6
Katharine Carey
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA

So Michael... tell me about GW.. curious.. checked out your website and assume it's George Washington but you know what they say about assuming  :)

Aug 19, 2010 02:59 PM #7
Patty Clark
Morningside Homes, LLC 720-231-5200 - Denver, CO
Helping Families Move with Care

We all need each other.  The photo look scary with the girl waaay up in the air!

Aug 19, 2010 03:03 PM #8
Katharine Carey
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA

Yes Chris and Patty! that is my daughter... oy vay! 

Aug 19, 2010 03:07 PM #9
Richard Thomas
Fathom Realty - Dunkirk, MD

Competition and cooperation, they go hand in hand. Your daughter sounds very mature.

Aug 19, 2010 03:23 PM #10
Candy Miles-Crocker
Online Real Estate Agent Training - Chevy Chase, DC
Realtor - Real-Life Real Estate Training

You are so right!  She sounds like she's a little insecure.  I love talking with other agents...sharing ideas and looking at things from a different or new perspective.  No one knows everything and there is always an opportunity to learn something new...EVERYDAY.  It's her loss!  Keep up the networking.

Aug 19, 2010 03:36 PM #11
Phil Leng
Retired - Kirkland, WA
Phil Leng - Retired

Good post Katharine,

That part I keyed in on most, was that you are a good mom.

we raised two girls, and adored them when they were in our home, and adore them still.

I was a youth sponsor at church for 7 years, and was always surprised when I would present a young person positively to their parents, and they would push back with how terrible their child was!

Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mom.

Love her.

Listen to her.



Aug 26, 2010 12:37 AM #12
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