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Hey, Doug & Wendy Whiner! Hush up already!

By
Real Estate Agent with BlueCoast Realty Corporation

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind."  William James

Have you watched the news?  Have you read the paper?  Have you talked to someone in the grocery store?  How about a fellow REALTOR?  Or even one of the other parents at your child's school?

About what, you ask?  About anything.  Absolutely, anything.  And have you heard; the sky is falling, the sky is falling, the sky is falling!!!!  All around us, we are being bombarded with negativity, doom and gloom and my personal favorite WHINING!

Yep, that thing we told our children not to do.  That thing that can set our teeth on edge and ruin a perfectly good day.

    * Whine: v.   To utter a plaintive, high-pitched protracted sound.  To complain or protest in a childish fashion.

People everywhere are whining about everything.  Nothing in their lives is going right.  They are miserable and by gosh, they are going to share it with the WORLD!  If they HAVE to be unhappy, then so do we!

I am not ignorant.  I know what's going on in the world.  And much of it is scary and it is worrisome.  But when did whining like a 3 year old become the response to a challenge?  When did it become society's norm to moan and groan about the sorry state of affairs in the world instead of finding solutions?

Iran has the ability to send a nuclear bomb.  Our troops are fighting a war in Afghanistan.  The economy stinks.  There are too many unemployed people.  And this is only the tip of the iceberg.  There are so many more concerns facing us.  So many more hurdles to leap.

Every one of these things is worthy of our attention, time and energy.  We need to work on solutions, not whine about it.  It may be that we need to use our vote to change Washington.  Or we need to pray for peace.  How about shopping locally to help your local economy?

And then you have the people who whine, just to whine.

"My latte was not hot enough today." (you had a latte?  some people don't even get breakfast.)

"That lady in front of me has 13 items and this line is only for 12 or less." (and she has a sick child at home and is in a hurry.  How is this hurting you?)

"I don't have enough business.  People are just so difficult to work with."  (maybe it's you, not them.)

"My buyer's want to see more properties.  Can you believe it?"  (can you believe how fortunate you are to have buyers to work with?)

"My feet hurt.  I am so tired of showing property."  (you have feet?  some don't.  you have work?  many don't.)

Folks, we aren't going to be able to jump these hurdles by whining.  We are going to have to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps and DO SOMETHING!  And one of the things we need to do is stop WHINING!!

We need to take a good, hard look at ourselves and how our negative words are affecting us and those around us.  We need to stop complaining and start seeking solutions.

We need to learn gratefulness.  It can't all be bad, can it?  I've known people who didn't have a pot to pi$$ in and they still managed to smile, be cheerful and treat the world like their oyster.  They weren't complaining about what they didn't have.  They were grateful for what they did have.

Give it a shot people.  For one day, no whining, no complaining.  See how you feel at the end of the day.  Was it an easier day?  Did people respond to you differently when you behaved positively instead of negatively?  Were you happier?

It's a challenge, no doubt about it.  We've all fallen into the habit.  But we can change that, we can make a difference.  Just takes a little effort.

Don't be a member of the Whiner family.

 

 

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Tish Lloyd, REALTOR®

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Realty World Cape Fear

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Wilmington NC 28405

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Comments (15)

Dan Jasmer
Fine Properties - Sarasota, FL
Changing the way you look at real estate
One day? I don't know, I mean.............. :-)
Aug 27, 2010 01:52 AM
Leesa Finley
RED Properties - Wake Forest, NC
RED Properties - Raleigh NC Real Estate

HAHAHA - I love the video!  I can't stand it when I ask someone "Hey, how was your day?" or "Was the food good at the restaurant?" or ANYTHING and they ALWAYS have something negative to say!  BURNS me up!  Do whiners not realize that they spread their negativity like a virus????

Wake Forest NC House Chick

Aug 27, 2010 01:55 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Tish,

Some people just need to be slapped upside the head by the Perspective Spider Monkey!!!  Ricky Bobby has at least one of those :)

Unfortunately, America has a large number of entitlement minded spoiled brats, and most of them are well over 18 years old!

Aug 27, 2010 01:58 AM
Tish Lloyd
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Wilmington, NC
Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches

Dan:  Come on, Buddy, you can do it . . .  :-)  Thanks for stopping by and have a positively great day!

Leesa:  I'm with you -- don't people understand bringing all of that "stuff" back on themselves!?!  Have a very happy day!

Aug 27, 2010 02:07 AM
Tish Lloyd
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Wilmington, NC
Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches

Bill: Perspective Spider Monkey -- great concept!  Just driving to the office I encounter at least 25 of those entitlement-minded, spoiled brats!  Whew!  Wishing you both a positively wonder-filled day.

Aug 27, 2010 02:11 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

The drive home yesterday was a two horn day!  I RARELY use the car horn, but it was a squirrely day, the first flying up the right side in a merge area with NO ONE behind me and forcing in on the front side at last little bit (a pet peeve of mine... plan ahead, it's really not that hard) and the 2nd was running a light so bad it was full GREEN on my side and they're turning left across traffic. 

So today, it's GOT to be better!

Aug 27, 2010 02:36 AM
Glenn Roberts
Retired - Seattle, WA

I'm on board. Just say no to whining. The weather? Can't change it...so move. The market? Can change it, your part in it anyway, just work smarter. Thanks, Tish.

Aug 27, 2010 03:15 AM
Tish Lloyd
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Wilmington, NC
Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches

Bill:  Think maybe the moon -- maybe you were invisible -- have to remember to snap your fingers!  Too bad I really like my car, because there are times I'd simply love to throw open the door.

Glenn:  And about those people who seem to really hate their jobs -- "Go Get Another One!" and Happy-up already!

Aug 27, 2010 06:15 AM
Lisa Orme
The Master's Key Realty LLC -Windsor, CT - HARTFORD COUNTY - Windsor, CT
Broker/Realtor, ABR, CRS,GRI, PSCS, SFR, Notary Pu

Tish I really appreciate this post--and I agree, there's way too much whining going on!  (I'm going to have to go back and catch the video later as I'm on the desktop that doesn't have speakers, but hey, maybe I'm just saving the best for last!)

My mom and my sister-in-law had both recently had back surgeries, and they were both staying at my home trying to get back on their feet. They made a pact one day to try to get through the whole day without complaining about how much they hurt, or without making groaning noises around the rest of us.  My mom told me she was so unhappy with how they had done the first day, that they had to go for a Do-Over the next day!  And they at least had a physical reason...so much of the whining going on is JUST about ATTITUDES... make a choice people... there are a lot of people who have it worse and whining ISN'T going to fix it! Just STOP!

Aug 27, 2010 09:45 AM
Melissa McKinney
Everything Pines Partners Fayetteville - Fayetteville, NC
Realtor, www.LivingFayetteville.com

I am SO with you on this one! I really have no patience with whining... from anyone!

Aug 27, 2010 10:06 AM
Tish Lloyd
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Wilmington, NC
Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches

Lisa:  The video is simply for a laugh, which keeps us healthy and hopefully gives us a bit of perspective.  My Mom was just diagnosed last week with with Melanoma, Stage IV.  It's in her pelvic bone, liver and spleen.  She is really going through a tremendous amount of pain and trying hard not to take pain medication because she doesn't want to become dependent on it.  Getting no moans, groans or complaints from her.

That said, I really don't have the patience for senseless, unnecessary whining.

Melissa: Just really need to focus on the positives life has to offer us right now, and instill that in our peers, Clients and Customers.  Thanks.

Aug 27, 2010 02:05 PM
Lisa Orme
The Master's Key Realty LLC -Windsor, CT - HARTFORD COUNTY - Windsor, CT
Broker/Realtor, ABR, CRS,GRI, PSCS, SFR, Notary Pu

okay Tish, I came back for the video, and I agree with your lead in...Hush up already!  Wow, exaggerating it like this really shows you how bad it REALLY sounds...

Aug 27, 2010 05:12 PM
Tish Lloyd
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Wilmington, NC
Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches

Lisa:  Watched this with my 8 year old granddaughter and she kept saying, "Hush up, already!"  Thought it was pretty funny for a child to get the absurdity when so many adults don't.  Have a GREAT weekend, Lisa!

Aug 28, 2010 02:02 AM
Lora "Leah" Stern 914-772-4528
Coldwell Banker, 170 N Main Street, New City NY 10956 - New City, NY
Real Estate Salesperson

Tish, that video gave me more than one chuckle.  I could have used that to stop the whinings when my kids were little.  Now, I try that tactic with my grandkids.  When we're all together, and anyone of them starts in with the whinings, I get the others to do an exaggerated version of the whiner.  Gets them to stop all the time.

Aug 28, 2010 04:59 PM
Tish Lloyd
BlueCoast Realty Corporation - Wilmington, NC
Broker - Wilmington NC and Surrounding Beaches

Leah:  Great tactic!  That whole mirroring back really can put a new perspective on things.  By the way, aren't Grand Kids simply the best!!!  Don't I wish I had been smarter about so many things when my kids were small, but then I had to practice on someone -- they really don't think it's funny when I say that . . . oh, well.

Aug 29, 2010 12:19 AM