I had a conversation with a good friend of mine who has had a lot of struggles in her life. Her biggest struggle though is poor self esteem. I truly value her friendship and have always tried my best to help her wherever I can, without force-feeding my good intentions.
A few months ago she was visiting me and we watched my video of The Secret. We talked a bit about it too. I had "discovered" The Secret many months before, as well as read up further on the Law of Attraction with Esther & Jerry Hicks. I have to say that I felt a little important spouting off my thoughts, ideas, and success with this knowledge.
But alas, I too struggle even though I embrace the Law of Attraction. I have to say that I am a generally positive person - in fact, quite positive! So for new students of the Law of Attraction, I might seem to be living the Secret as intended.
But sometimes I forget... The Law of Attraction isn't just to remain positive in the face of adversity, it's to make sure that the way you are living is making you TRULY happy. I like my work, and so I can do it every day, for many hours. But, is that what I truly want? I often find myself getting caught up in work and self-importance, and then I end up with too much on my plate and not enough time to handle it appropriately. And what about time with my family, friends, and doing other things I love? Those seems to fall to the wayside - temporarily.
In the recent past, this has occurred to many numerous times, ending in a "burn out". I feel too overwhelmed, my health may be suffering, and I'm stressed out. Translation: I'm not happy. Add to that, that all my work really isn't resulting in the business I had hoped for. Very discouraging. So what usually happens next is that I usually make a conscious effort to slow down and focus on what makes me happy - spending quality time with my family, friends, and doing what I enjoy in my business.
The funny thing is that it works! As soon as I steady my focus to my ultimate goal - being happy with what I do - things just start happening. My kids listen better, my husband helps more around the house, clients start contacting me, new opportunities come into my life!
Now, I'm from a scientific background so one could say that it was a coincidence. But this has happened many times to me. So much so that I am dedicated to frequently (once a week, or more) reviewing the way I am living to make sure that what I am doing is making me happy. Whenever I do that and I realize I have to adjust my behavior or thinking, opportunities come up.
So when I was speaking with my friend the other day, she asked me if I had the video for The Secret, and if she could borrow it. I told her of course, and asked her what her understanding was of it since we last watched it. She said that it was the "power of positive thinking". I said that it would seem like that, but it's of course easier said than done. I then proceeded to tell her what I wrote in this email, that me the eternally optimistic person has her own struggles. I think that actually alleviated many of her concerns about what her beliefs of The Secret were, because when one has so much unhappiness and struggles in their life, telling them to "suck it up and be happy" is a huge leap. But telling her to live in a way that will truly make her happy was a lot easier to swallow.
Are you living in a manner that makes you happy? Or are you trying to be happy in the manner that you live?
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