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To Friend or Not To Friend, That is the Question

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To Friend or not to Friend, that is the question.  I'm pretty sure Shakespeare would have been intrigued with Facebook and used it to promote his work and draw upon it for characters to write about.  It seems every day I read another blog about Social Media, many of them focusing on Facebook and the issue of Friending people.  A couple of questions seem to emerge all the time; should you accept a Friend Request from people you don't know and should you send a Friend Request to someone you don't know? Opinions abound, some clearly negative and some taking a more positive view.  Me, I'm going to propose that it all depends on what you are on Facebook for.

  • Is Facebook your means to keep connecting with family and friends?
  • Do you share somewhat personal information?
  • Are photos being shared that you would prefer strangers not to see?
  • By the way, if your answers to these are YES, be sure and check your Privacy Settings so they are appropriate.

It may seem ridiculously obvious but if the answer to the above questions is YES, why would you contact or accept people you do not know?  I guess some people feel compelled to Accept a Friend Request for fear they will offend someone they do not know and may never meet.  I get that but if it's purely for personal connecting with family and friends, it's okay to not accept a stranger's Friend Request.  

Okay, what about everyone who uses a Profile Page for personal and business purposes (business should be limited on a Personal Profile)?  Business Pages (the old Fan pages) are definitely the way to go for your business information on Facebook.  However, your Profile Page can act as a funnel for Friends to your business page. Or as we have it now, people who will LIKE your business page. 

So what about those Friend Requests, to Friend or not to Friend?  I say, go for it.  I usually will look at someone's profile and 95% of the time, I will accept the friend request.  The more engaging you are on Facebook, the more you'll find yourself with Friend Requests.  And go ahead, don't be shy, invite people to be your Friend.  You can always remove someone if they become inappropriate.

By all means let people know what you do on your Personal Page - the more they connect with you and get to know you, the more likely they will be to visit your Business Page. But keep it to a minimum on your Personal Page.  Remember to engage with others with Posts, Comments, Likes.  Most of all, I believe that connecting and sharing with others is what Social Media is all about, and that this is ultimately what motivates people to do business with you. You may be able to help someone with something/anything just because they Posted a request on Facebook.  I have experienced that several times.  You may need help with something and find that your Facebook Friends are ready and willing to help you - I've experienced that too.  I have met other Rotarians, people from Brooklyn and more recently a gentleman from Nigeria working in Amsterdam who chatted with me and asked to be my life partner.  Some things you just have to politely answer NO to and move on.  It's all part of connecting, sharing and reaching out.  Social Media and Friending people gives us the opportunity to learn about and respect our differences while acknowledging our similarities as people. 

Lastly, I have used the LISTS function on Facebook to categorize my Friends and I have a LIST entitled Networking-FB for people I have never personally met.  On occasion I meet one of them and they say, "don't I know you"? Yup, we're Facebook Friends.  Happy Friending. 

 

 

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Curt Baumgarth
Mesa, AZ
inactive

I've heard about the lists in FB, I need to get in there and figure out how to set the lists up.  Thanks for the blog:)

Sep 22, 2010 10:11 AM
Carolyn Petrie
Exclusive Realty of Las Vegas - Las Vegas, NV

Hi Curt.  Thanks for reading it.  When you click in your Friends box on the left where it says ALL, it will take you to the page and you will see at the top Create List. You can create as many as you want, i.e. Family, Friends, Co-workers, whatever you like.  You can put people in as many Lists as you like.  Just scroll down and click on Add to List for each one, its time consuming the first time if there's lots of people.  When you get a new friend request, you will see the Add To List right in the box where you Accept them so then its done from there.

Have fun with it.  It's cool when you want to share something you see on FB and you want to just send it to one person or a category of people.

Best,

Debbie Harris

 

Sep 22, 2010 10:18 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Debbie the dillema, I look at all Social Media sights as an opportunity to  get my name out. I will accept everyone. Now if they start spaming my web profile page then the get deleted and "unfriended". If they start engaging and communicating back and forth then we have a relationship:))

Sep 22, 2010 10:19 AM
Carolyn Petrie
Exclusive Realty of Las Vegas - Las Vegas, NV

@Endre - Agreed.  I have not found many spammers but they are definitely out there.  I have lately been spammed by Chats on FB to go to certain links.  When I questioned the person it came from they said they didn't send it but were receiving it also.  With so many people and the technology changing all the time, I guess spamming will remain with us but hopefully FB continues to minimize and monitor it.

Hopefully you have much more of the communicating back and forth.  :-)

Sep 22, 2010 10:50 AM