The 5 Emotional Beasts that suck the life out of you & can steal your "POWER"

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Do you know the difference between a feeling and an emotion?

You may say that emotions are much deeper and stronger than feelings. From one viewpoint, that's true. However, here’s a detail about feelings that you may not know about: you can observe your feelings but not your emotions.  When you experience feelings you are the observer and in full control; when you experience emotions, you cannot remain the observer and you are not in control.

 Emotions Seems to Have a Life of its Own
In most cases, you can only experience them and not control them. You are no longer in control – the emotions are! They act collectively as a kind of psychic clone of the more complete, more human you. That's the reason why we have emotional reactions to things that we sometimes later regret. We scream at our partners, we leave our friends, and we smash things until they break. Mostly, this emotional clone is reactive, uncontrollable, and seemingly independent from our core selves.

 The Wolf Story

A sage once said that each person has both a white and a black wolf inside himself that constantly fight each other. The black wolf is aggressive and reactive and the white wolf is calm and social. The winner of this battle is simply decided by which wolf we feed. Most of the time we are not aware that, more often than not, we feed the black wolf and not the white one.

What can be done about this?
The black wolf can only live inside when you create it in the first place. A black wolf is a black hole that sucks up your energy.

1. The Black Wolf Called Anger

Anger is the result of not taking 100% responsibility for your life. You created the this wolf by reacting to an experience. Then you forgot that you created it. If you decide to take ownership of your creation, you must simply feel your way through the original experience. That feeling could be sadness, for example, but not anger.  Sadness is the original feeling and an angry black wolf is the emotional result.

Perhaps you blame someone else for your anger. By doing so, you make another person responsible for the wolf creation that is yours and yours alone! It’s important to remember that everything in this world is a creation of yours in one form or another, even things that seem to have nothing to do with you directly.

2. The Black Wolf Called Resentment

Resentment is very close to anger. When you harbor resentment, you limit the spectrum of your feeling nature and a major part of you closes down. When you resent someone, you are saying very forcefully that the other person is the problem, the cause and the fault, not you. You forcefully blame the other person so you don't have to look within.  You are declaring the other person, group or institution to be your enemy.

The problem is that resenting your enemy creates a dilemma that centers around the conflict that come from not taking full responsibility for the the situation. Ultimately, it is you who has the conflict, you who faces the dilemma, and you who began to harbor resentment.

3. The Black Wolf Called Blame

Like resentment, blame is not much different from anger. In both cases, you attempt to make someone else responsible for what you feel by creating an emotional reaction. Resentment and blame are different faces of this type of emotional reaction.

Resentment is a form of disappointment that seems to have its source on the outside. For example, should you get fired it seems logical that the cause is your employer. If such a calamity happened, there probably wouldn’t be much you could do about it. The cause seems to be external (your boss) even though your emotional reaction is generated within. Everything changes when you accept that the cause is always you.

You created it (you took the job), you experienced and accepted the situation (you created a positive or negative environment in which to work), and you reaped the results (you got rewarded or fired). You alone are responsible for this wolf. Why did you create a black wolf when you could have just as easily created a white one?

4. The Black Wolf Called Guilt

Guilt is much like blame of others, but turned back on yourself. When you’re guilty, you actually take ownership of what you did. So why would you feel bad about it? Because you judge yourself as having taken the wrong action in a given situation.  You did it and now you are convinced it was wrong.

With a little introspection, you’ll realize that guilt does not come from the original situation or action itself, but from the self-imposed judgment after the action. This judgment is, in fact, an emotional reaction that questions the original action you took in a given situation. When things fall apart afterwards, you tell yourself, “I made a mistake; I did not want to cause this.” You blame yourself.

5. The Black Wolf Called Betrayal
This is one of the hardest beasts to tame. The emotion of betrayal runs deeply. Betrayal occurs mostly after you have trusted someone close who then fails to satisfy that trust in some fashion. By trusting someone, you opened yourself up to be in a vulnerable state.

At some point, your trust is betrayed or even used against you. You thought that you had correctly judged your confidant as trustworthy, but now you are being punished in some way. It just makes no sense – it hurts! Betrayal is the emotional reaction to this (perhaps completely justified) feeling of being hurt by another.

Negative Emotions are a Pack of Black Wolves

This pack is vicious, fast, and can be deadly. They hunt you from the outside, circling closer until they can attack within. They may stalk you for days, months, or even years. This pack follows some people to their graves, snapping and snarling all the way. The pack is energetic and invincible. Like black wolves, e-motions are negative energy in motion.  It's part of your creative manifesting power used against yourself!

You can eliminate them in a very short time – given the correct understanding of their nature and the techniques to vanquish them. The most potent weapon against them involves a miraculous inner process few practice completely, let alone fully understand.

Why would you waste another minute, hour, day, week or even month of your energy and power if you could eliminate anger, resentment, blame, guilt, betrayal and any other negative emotions.

The magic word here is 'FORGIVENESS'



Posted by

Sharon Lee

Comments (14)

Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Hello Sharon and WOW what a read and thanks ... "Great Stuff" ...

Vegas Bob

Nov 30, 2010 02:51 PM
Kathleen Frawley
Keller Williams 916 730-4404 Elk Grove, Wilton, Folsom, Sacramento - Wilton, CA
South County Sacramento, 916 730 4404

Hey! I came for a sweet easy hello reply...can't do it. This is too deep and powerful and true.  (painfully exactly what I needed at this moment)

Nov 30, 2010 02:54 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Hi Sharon. These five dark wolves remind me of the "energy vampires" you may have heard. Jealousy and envy also drain us greatly too, but forgiveness and also some acceptance on our part lead us to serenity. Hope you are still feeling ok from last Friday.

Nov 30, 2010 03:02 PM
Rebecca Gaujot, RealtorĀ®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Sharon, WOW The black wolf of anger, resentment, blame, guilt and betrayal can definitely steal ones power.  AMEN...forgiveness is the magic word and yes  JESUS forgives and so should we.  Very powerful post!

Nov 30, 2010 03:03 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

BTW, I feed my white wolf.

Nov 30, 2010 03:15 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

I forgot to mention I also like the sun breaking the light through the trees in the photo. Awesome!!

Dec 01, 2010 09:18 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Robert-Glad you like it. Thank you for the visit

Kathleen-You can still have the sweet hello. Thank you for the visit.

Rebecca-It is powerful I know.

Gary-Thank you for all the comments. I love the pic too.

Dec 01, 2010 01:24 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

hey Sharon, love the wolf explanations of emotions and feelings...very interesting.  It is true, as we travel through life...we develop baggage.  Like you said, forgiving it the best thing to do and just keep moving forward :)

Dec 02, 2010 07:58 AM
Mary Douglas
United Country Ponderosa Realty, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado - Red Feather Lakes, CO
REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado

Hi Sharon, I have always loved that story about the wolves, in fact have a small print of it framed in our house.  Feed the good wolf: anger, resentment, guilt, mistrust and blame among other negative emotions will suck the life out of us-you are exactly right!  and what a gorgeous photo you chose for this post!  Have a great weekend, Sharon!


Dec 03, 2010 02:34 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Laura-We forgive others for ourselves otherwise we give them our power.

Hi Mary-I knew you had excellent taste and were smart and beautiful. Negative emotions bring you down for sure. I thought the photo fit. Glad you liked it, Have a great weekend too.

Dec 03, 2010 05:27 AM
Kathleen Frawley
Keller Williams 916 730-4404 Elk Grove, Wilton, Folsom, Sacramento - Wilton, CA
South County Sacramento, 916 730 4404

 Hi Sharon, OK now I'm feeding the white ones.  Thank you again for a great post.

Dec 08, 2010 09:46 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Thank you for stopping back. You are most welcome. Stop in any time.



Dec 08, 2010 12:45 PM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alain Pinel Realtors - Alameda, CA
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA


All of the wolves you mentioned are powerful and draining.  It is hard to not feel them at one time or another.  But They are energy draining emotions and not worth dwelling on. 

Jun 08, 2011 05:24 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Evelyn-So very true. It isn't worth dwelling on what you can't change.

Jun 08, 2011 11:14 AM