If you can't tell by the title of my blog, this blog is about name calling. That is something I have seen even here on Activerain quite a bit lately, and it happens when someone expresses a view point that they don't agree with..I have seen anything from jerk, bigot, douche bag, to even Mr. Grinch, and many others. I know it's never good when someone posts a controversial blog that you don't agree with, but it doesn't make it any better when you start regressing back to your childhood and pulling out any offensive name to call that person or even at times go on an all out blogging smear campaign about that person because leaving mean comments on their blogs isn't giving you enough satisfaction.
How can we on activerain learn how to play nice with others, especially when someone writes something or comments in such a way you don't agree with???
First thing we can do is to remember that we are all adults here on Activerain...If someone writes something or shares a viewpoint that you don't exactly agree with, instead of getting all bent out of shape, the best thing to do, in a civil and calm manner, is ask questions. Find out why they feel the way they feel, and if you're the one that happens to be in the hot seat, don't get mad when people start asking you questions about you're viewpoint, odds are people are just trying to get a better understanding on why you feel that way. Remember you are not going to change a person's viewpoint by calling them names, by asking questions instead of throwing daggers you are most likely going to get down to the heart of their reasoning and from there have a civilized debate, they might change their viewpoint they might not, but it's a win win whenever understanding of a person's feelings are gained and no names are being called in the process.
Always remember everyone is different. Not everyone is always going to have the same views as you, everyone is going to have a different opinion, and hopefully keep in mind that we are adults and express those opinions with tact. I personally am thankful for the variety, I know people are not always agree with me, in fact if they did, it would be very boring, there would be no intrigue what so ever! Be thankful that we all have the freedom to express those opinions and viewpoints, how much more would it suck if we had to keep our opinions to ourselves? And finally..It's always a good rule of thumb however, when trying to incorporate TACT into your blog posts and comments, IF YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING NICE DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!
I know I said it several times in this blog but I will say it again.. Remember we are all adults here, most issues can calmly be worked out by asking the right questions, so if you don't understand a person's view, ask questions. Try not to only play nice in the rain, but in your day to day lives and with everyone you meet. We are professionals and professionals don't resort to name calling. Always remember name calling is still known as Bullying... Do you want to be known as a cyberbully?
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