Obedience Training For People

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Dog ObedienceIf you've ever had young puppies in their formative years you eventually want to take them to dog obedience training classes as it is well worth your time for them to learn commands and properly walk on a leash for you. You will be amazed how they respond with this training and have a BETTER RELATIONSHIP with you going forward. Animals respond to consistency. Riding horses even, they pick up on a novice rider's passive or fearful energy and will take advantage of you if you lack command. But think about

            Obedience Training For People

Whether they be a child, our real estate client, our co-worker, friend, or sibling can they be trained? I'll leave the toughest one for last. What I mean by training is giving solid boundaries for people in life of who we are and what we need. PEOPLE TREAT US AS WE TRAIN THEM TO TREAT US. Remember that. Do not be rolled over by others. Do not let them intimidate us. In no uncertain terms communicate what will and won't be tolerated, accepted, and what is important to us.

The toughest customer in this "boundaries" area? Love interests. With romantic love you lay yourself WIDE OPEN as far as being vulnerable and essentially give the other a license or permission to hurt you. It is the risk of love and despite that area being very painful always worth it. Close love relationships have a give and take and learning and growth feel to them, DESPITE boundaries that are put forth. They are ALWAYS being tested even more so then all the other relationships. The good news is for those category relationships that are meant to be, balance and harmony finally is achieved. It is just a matter of time.

While people are much more complex than dogs or horses they do need to know VERY CLEARLY who you are and where you stand and know YOUR behavior patterns as you do theirs. It's all good. Just have a solid backbone and you'll be fine.


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Gabrielle Kamahele Rhind
KGC Properties LLC, Tucson Property Management & Real Estate - Tucson, AZ

GOOD MORNING GARY!I like it!  It's something I am trying to teach my daughter -- it's always hard to teach kids how to have a backbone - especially when they want to fit in!  Nice encouragement for me today! - G

Jan 24, 2011 11:51 PM #1
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good morning Gary,

Boundaries are a good thing! Some are just scared they won't be liked if they set them. What they fail to realize is people actually like them and can function much better with them!

Jan 24, 2011 11:55 PM #2
Laura Reilly
Real Living Real Estate Professionals - Redding, CA
Home Sales Realtor - Short Sale Team Member - Redd

Perfect. It's tough at first, you think you will miss the "big sale" so you might skip church and just be "a little late" for dinner. But, if you have to buy a house a 8 o clock at nite, let me introduce you to Bob. I think you two will hit it off! Excellent post.

Jan 24, 2011 11:55 PM #3
Wallace S. Gibson, CPM
Gibson Management Group, Ltd. - Charlottesville, VA

I agree that boundaries are an EXCELLENT way to run our businesses...if a client can ONLY call me at 8P at night to discuss their needs, they do not DESERVE my services!

Jan 25, 2011 12:00 AM #4
Chuck Carstensen
RE/MAX Results - Elk River, MN
Minnesota Real Estate Expert

This is true. I am newer in my marriage I think this is being worked on constantly.

Jan 25, 2011 12:02 AM #5
Melissa Juarez
Massachusetts Buyers Broker Agency, LLC - Quincy, MA

Thanks for the post Gary. It falls under the sad but true category. Have a great 2011.

Jan 25, 2011 12:02 AM #6
Debbie Jean (DJ) Artrip
Debbie Jean (DJ) Artrip, Cardinal Real Estate, Northern Mich - Hawks, MI

Hey Gary, Thanks for sharing.  I completely agree.  When boundaries are set, there's no ambiguity. DJ

Jan 25, 2011 12:12 AM #7
Dagny Eason
Dagny's Real Estate - Wilton, CT
Fairfield County CT, CDPE Homes For Sale and Condo

Totally agree.    My youngest daughter has no problem standing up for her principles, even when the adults she is confronting are important folks - She's got principles and guts to stand by them!   

Jan 25, 2011 12:20 AM #8
Lee & Pamela St. Peter
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices YSU Realty: (919) 645-2522 - Raleigh, NC
Making Connections to Success in Real Estate

Gary great advice!  It's the same for our clients too.  I thought when I had decided that I won't work on Sundays that my clients would move on.  Not so.  They respect that and unless it's an emergency I have my Sundays free now to spend with my family!

Jan 25, 2011 12:39 AM #9
Steve Loynd
Alpine Lakes Real Estate Inc., - Lincoln, NH
800-926-5653, White Mountains NH

Gary, We do set the boundaries for others by what we are willing to accept or not accept in their behaviors

Jan 25, 2011 12:49 AM #10
Daniel J. Brudnok, REALTOR
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Fox & Roach, REALTORS - Exton - PA License #RS-225179-L / Delaware License #RS-0025038 - Downingtown, PA


Great post.....I often wonder where some people started by the way they act today.  I believe it all comes down to the structure you had while growing up.

Jan 25, 2011 12:55 AM #11
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Prado Real Estate South - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Gary, There will always be the need for boundaries in any relationship and it is up to us to set them up in the beginning.

Jan 25, 2011 01:17 AM #12
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Creating boundaries in any relationship is important.  People do follow cues that given to them.  And that's how som many can end up being pushed around by a client, a friend or a spouse.  Great post.

Jan 25, 2011 04:45 AM #13
Jacquie Cliff
Champions Real Estate Services - Lynnwood, WA - Lynnwood, WA
- Real Estate and Short Sale Expert

I think as real estate agents we are all probably guilty of not setting the proper boundaries with our clients because we do not want to miss out on a sale simply because we did not want to show property at a time that was inconvenient to us.

Jan 25, 2011 05:01 AM #14
Elizabeth Cooper-Golden
Huntsville Alabama Real Estate, (@ Homes Realty Group) - Huntsville, AL
Huntsville AL MLS

Gary, This post is a great follow up to your button pusher post.  We deserve boundaries and should be setting them.  Why don't we?  LOL...crazy, isn't it?

Jan 25, 2011 07:05 AM #15
Allison Stewart
St.Cloud Homes - Saint Cloud, FL
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904

Boundary setting is important both in love and business.  Over time I think the boundaries can be skewed by complacency- until we redefine our expectations and redraw the lines of what is acceptable and what is not.

Jan 27, 2011 12:41 AM #16
Carol Zingone
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Florida Network Realty - Jacksonville Beach, FL
Global Realtor in Jax Beach, FL - ABR, CRS, CIPS

So very true, and glad you posted it. I commented on a post earlier today where the client wanted to have unrestricted access to their agent, and as I stated then, I work with people who respect me and the way I run my business.  I allow myself time off occasionally!

Jan 30, 2011 01:30 AM #17
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