It's About Living

Real Estate Agent with Russell Real Estate Services


Diagnosis of a terminal illness is a devastating blow.  It affects not only the patient, but the family and friends as well.

 I want to tell you a story about my mother.  Her name was Dolores.  She had many titles.  Some of her favorites were, wife, mother, grandmother, teacher, cook, party planner, comedian.  She lived life, all of it, to the fullest and the best she knew how.  She loved singing, laughing, swimming, her clown collection, her home.  She seldom knew a stranger and we often had them at the dinner table.  She loved to feed people.  She was my hero.

In September of 2002 she was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer.  Yes, she was a smoker.  It was the same vice that took the life of my father five years earlier.

She was given 10 weeks to live.  Not sure how they come up with those numbers, but they were right on with hers.  The operative word here though, is LIVE.

Mom made the choice to LIVE for those last weeks and I knew that Hospice needed to be involved at once.

So many believe that Hospice is meant for the end days when all hope is lost.  They believe it is reserved for those who have given up or given in.  So many believe that you have to have permission from your physician or caregiver to participate.

Hospice allowed my mother to remain in her beloved home for the last nine of ten weeks that she was alive.  They provided Nursing care, physical therapy, medication, a chaplain named John that my mother lovingly called Captain John.  They offered support, they held us up when we couldn’t do it ourselves and they were always just a phone call away.

It was the BEST of the WORST.

Mom spent her last six days at the Hospice Center.  She received excellent care as did we.  It allowed us the luxury of just being her children and nothing more was asked of us.

We never received a bill.

I want to share with you another story from Will Roeder who suffers from ALS.  He has been a partner and patient with Stein Hospice in Sandusky, OH since July.  He made the decision to embrace LIFE and explains his journey with Hospice in a most wonderful way.

Will's Story

If you know someone, if you are someone …..don’t wait.  Call your local Hospice Services today.  It’s About on a bench



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Mary M. Kandell                                             
ABR, CNE                                               
Russell Real Estate

It Starts With the Heart 


6203 Milan Rd. Sandusky, OH   44870

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Cindy Edwards
RE/MAX Checkmate - Johnson City, TN
CRS, GRI, PMN - Northeast Tennessee - 423-677-6677


That is a lovely story of your loss that you shared.  Hospice is a wonderful service.  I hope you are at peace with the loss of your parents, I feel for you.  Cindy

Jan 26, 2011 12:47 AM #1
Janice Roosevelt
Keller Williams Brandywine Valley - West Chester, PA
OICP ABR, ePRO,Ecobroker

Mary, this indeed is a beatiful story and I appreciate the courage it must have taken to share it. Not only should we call info abut Hospice, but support them financially in their fund raisers.

Jan 26, 2011 12:49 AM #2
Mary M. Kandell
Russell Real Estate Services - Sandusky, OH

Cindy,  Thank you for your kind words.  Yes, I am at peace.  My hope is that by reading my story and Will's, it will raise awareness about Hospice and the fact that it's not just for the "End Days"

Jan 26, 2011 12:52 AM #3
Suesan Jenifer Therriault
JTHIS-Professional Home Inspection Team - Blakeslee, PA
"Inspecting every purchase as if it were my own".

Mary, it sounds like your Mom had a wonderful life and leaves behind so many wonderful memories. I am truly sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your Moms story with us. 

Jan 26, 2011 12:56 AM #4
Pat Tasker
Shorewest Realtors - Germantown, WI
Your Milwaukee Metro Area Agent (WI)

thanks for sharing,   What a way to give dignity to the last days for those who are terminal.   and you got no bill?  thats amazing.

Jan 26, 2011 12:56 AM #5
Mary M. Kandell
Russell Real Estate Services - Sandusky, OH

Janice,  Thank you.   Hospice does sponsor many fundraisers throughout the year.  Another wonderful way to memorialize a loved one is to have donations made in their name.

Suesan,  Wonderful memories indeed.  I'll have to write about some of those another time.  Growing up in a Lebanese household is a story of it's own.  Thank you.

Pat,  No bill for us or for anyone.  Hospice is such an important part of living your last months that I don't know how anyone does without them.  Thank you

Jan 26, 2011 01:46 AM #6
Cara Marcelle Mancuso
Long Realty - Dove Mountain, Marana AZ - Tucson, AZ
Call a Marana neighbor, I'm THERE! LONG REALTY

What a lovely, inspirational story.  I appreciate you sharing such a personal story of hope and life.

Jan 26, 2011 01:58 AM #7
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